Am i wrong for enjoying female company though I'm married ?

Question

My wife thinks I'm a flirt and unfaithful. I just love females, what wrong.

I am not having sex with anyone except my wife.

Answer 1

Even though you are stupid, you do not have to act it. If she left you and your females, where would you be? You are so immature that you have the nerve to boast about your infidelity on the internet and want us the buy into it.

Peope like you keep divorce lawyers rich. When your female friends give you a STD then write and let us know how much you love them. Your wife does not deserve someone like you who is putting her life at risk with HIV because her husband "just love females." You nit-wit!!

Answer 2

Are you flirting? Are you being unfaithful? If whatever you are doing is making your wife worry, then you should be considerate of her feelings and stop it. If you want to sit around and have conversations with other women, you should include her. Do you like the attention that you get from other women? If so, why? Is your wife not giving you enough attention? Get yourself some male friends and start hanging out with them. But if you do that, it may give your wife something else to complain about because you are with them all of the time!

Answer 3

I believe you can have friends of the opposite sex even when married.

The first thing you need to work on is your relationship with your wife. She feels insecure. You need to make her feel secure about your relationship. Then she will be ok with you having female friends.

If she thinks you're unfaithful, well look at your past, have you been unfaithful before? has she been unfaithful to you?

I believe people cheat because they are missing something in their relationship. Are you missing anything? You can talk to her and work on it. So when you make female friends, it's only friendship and nothing more.

Answer 4

Providing your not acting on your flirting then it can be healthy. However, enjoying female company to the point of going out with them and doing things without your wife present isn't that great an idea. Things happen sometimes that shouldn't and so everyone, male and female, need to be aware of what type of signals they are sending out to others. I work in an environment that is predominantly female and so have female friends there also, but would and do not go to theater or sporting events with them as my partner would not appreciate this.

Answer 5

I've been married 27 years, trust me. First if there is nothing "going on," it's about appearances. Just the same if you wife had male "friends," and your buds kept saying they saw her flirting with them. Second, what if your wife started enjoying male company, totally "innocent, above board," hmmm? Personally you should've enjoyed female company before you got married, not now. You can rationalize, justify, whatever, you're still looking guilty. Best of luck.

Answer 6

I don't see anything wrong with flirting as long as all parties involved know that it's not going to go any further than that. But, then again, I'm married to someone who feels the same way. If my wife felt cheated upon by my behavior, then it would be something to discuss and I might have to change that behavior. Though it may not be cheating, I love and respect my wife enough that I try to not do thing that hurt her.

Answer 7

The first poster is right. You are walking a fine line. I know because I walk a similar line, I get along with guys better than women. It might be a good idea to respect how your wife feels. Your fist priority should be harmony at home.

Answer 8

Yeah. If your wife is upset by it, then you are in the wrong. Now, if she's cool with it, then go for it. But you have to look out for your wife first. That's the way it goes.

Answer 9

If your wife is upset by it, that should be your number one priority, whether or not she is justified. Having female friends, and including your wife in your friendships, lunch dates with them, etc, is different. If you just can't stop flirting and you are inconsiderate of your wife's feelings, it sounds like you were not ready to get married.

Answer 10

depends on how you "love" them. is it sexual or purely platonic? To use the greek words for love, is it eros (erotic) or phileos (brotherly love)?

Obviously, it needs to be friendly, non-erotic, non-sexual. Otherwise your wife is right. And if you're spending more time with women than with your male buddies then maybe you don't even realize what you're doing--you should seek to fill your female needs with your wife. If you're spending tons of time with other women, maybe your'e looking for them to fill your needs. That's where you're in danger.

I reccomend that even if your wife is WAY out of line, that you still respect her feelings. Just make sure that you are never in a situation that coudl raise suspicion--even unreasonalbe suspicion. That way you can show how much you are faithful to your wife by being "above reproach." If she sees you being careful to never be alone with a woman, and all those other victorian rules, she will see that you're willing to sacrifice just to put her fears at rest, and she will trust you more.

if you just argue with her and spend tons of time with women, tha'ts just going to make her more worried. and if you really loved your wife you would put her feelings first and wouldnt' argue and dismiss her concerns. unless her concerns were true.