I just found out that my 19 year old daughter is expecting a baby, can you give me some advice?I had my first child at 17 and never wanted this for her. I am so worried and just stunned. How do I handle it and be there for her?
2007-07-21 06:26:15 · 10 answers · asked by Alexandriagal 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Beautiful friends, I am so moved by your kindnesses and loving and supportive answers. Thank you, thank you, thank you. God bless you and repay you for your loving words and kindness to me in this difficult time. I do love you all.
2007-07-21 16:11:59 · update #1
Stand beside her.
My own daughter went through this 15 years ago. She still thanks me on occasion for standing beside her and giving her support. I will be here for you. Just email me anytime.
2007-07-21 07:20:24 · answer #1 · answered by kayboff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear u poor thing. I am sorry u both have to go thru this. The best thing u can do is be there for her. From what I know of u things r going to be fine and u r going to love being a grandma! Just try to keep ur disappointment a secret am sure as u r aware this is going to be very difficult for her. And whatever u do don't try to make her marry the father if she doesn't want to she will be better off alone with u of course. Good Luck am sure this will be wonderful for u even if it feels awful right now.
2007-07-21 06:34:48 · answer #2 · answered by Margo is better than you are 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Although, this is not what you wanted, there are no guarantees in life. Just support her, love her, stand by her decisions and foremost, remember that this child is innocent and irregardless of the situation is not to blame. I too have two daughters and when they were younger wondered what I would do. My mother was pregnant out of wedlock in 1936, her father told her not to marry, the baby would be taken care of without a father, now that is love for that time period.
2007-07-21 09:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by vivib 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just think, what would have you wanted when you were expecting a baby. That is what my mom did with her sister and it seemed to have worked.
Maybe, you can give her some advice. You were pregnant too right? You should know something about what to do and what not to do when pregnant. I have never been pregnant, and I won't be for a really long time (I'm only 12 ok?) but I know what will work.
I hope this helped.
2007-07-21 06:32:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure she is just as upset and scared as you are. Although this wasn't the right decision she made, be there to support and love her. Because being mad or mean to her just makes her feel worse. I wish you lots of love and blessings. Just pray for her and support her and love her as much as possible, because she really needs you now.
2007-07-21 06:47:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just need to be there and support her. I'm sure she is just as scared and as upset as you are. Probably even worse. She is going through big changes and needs you more than anyone. Im sure she has many worries about this and would probably love to talk to you about it. things like this make your relationship a lot closer. Just explain things to her but be there for her too. She is an adult even if its hard to believe...Good Luck
2007-07-21 06:35:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alex Honey,you have been there & you know it is so hard to raise ones children to be responsible adults.
It is the greatest challenge I know of. Caution seems to be thrown to the wind when it comes to sex.
She is of a responsible age.~~~~~~ Have you ask her " What are your plans ?", "What do you plan to do ?".
Wait for her answer !!!~~~Let her think & talk. It is after all her decision to make. Yours to help out if & how you choose to.
In your mind, reverse rolls with her. What would you want her to do for you ?? Your Mother didn't want that for you either.
Go to God with your concerns and talk it out with him. TALK
He will be with you both as you walk through this. I will keep you in my thoughts & prayers as I go about my day. Remember that & also that I love you, my little friend.
God bless you in all you do & say. You are loved~~~jill
2007-07-21 11:51:55 · answer #7 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter got pregnant at the same age that I did with her. I waited until the shock and pain subsided and then we talked about how she felt. I stood by her 100% but made her promise to finish school. she did . and I have a 11 year old grandson that I simply couldn't imagine life without. Good luck, she needs you now more than ever.((((hugs)))) ♥j
2007-07-21 12:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
be there for her, and help her over the rough times. understand however you also cannot coddle her since ultimately she is responsible for her actions. trust that you raised her right, and that she wont be dependent on you for everything.
2007-07-21 06:50:49 · answer #9 · answered by richard b 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
...just be her friend, first and her mother second...God will do the rest....
2007-07-21 07:12:08 · answer #10 · answered by EvelynMine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋