How can i stop my father being treated like a slave by my mother?

Question

Is this coz she's a woman?

Answer 1

if i were u i would just stay out of it

Answer 2

It's not cause she's a woman. My parents are in the same situation but the sexes are reversed. I see it this way. It's their marriage and although it's not my ideal relationship, it's their life. My father treats my mother like a slave. It's all about control and it's sick. There is just not much that can be done about it. I continue telling my mother that she should stand up for herself but she won't. All you can do is be supportive. I think older couples get set in their ways and they just don't know any different. Just use their marriage as a learning experience for you to not make the same mistakes. Good luck ;)

Answer 3

If your Dad does not mind the way he is being treated by your mother their should be no problem. If he thought he was being treated badly he would say some thing to your mother. No one can make you do something you do not want to do. Ask your mother why she treats your Dad this way and also ask you Dad why he lets your mom treat him like a slave. There might be more to the story then you know. Your Dad may actually like doing things for your mother

Answer 4

First, Your father is the one who needs to think he's a slave. Second, he needs to be the one who knows he doesn't like it and then he needs to put a stop to it with communication with his wife. What bothers you might not bother him however, everyone has a limit as to what they can or can't put up with anymore and until then, it sounds like this is something you need to get a handle on. It's real easy to sit back and find fault in everyone else's relationship even more so with someone you love or care about but the key word here is Someone Else's. Maybe try talking to your father, I mean,really talk to him and maybe you'll find out that he's alright with everything. Tell him how you feel and get his opinion and maybe he'll make you feel better about this as well. There's always two side to everything. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

First of all, you might want to talk to your dad to make sure you are getting it right.
Things may not be what they appear.
Did you hear your father complain about it? Does he seems unhappy to you?
You know, we all have our perception of the world, and how it should work. Our beliefs and values evolve with us.
So, probably it's not the way you would have treated your own husband, but maybe to your parents it's a game they enjoy? or that your dad enjoys?
Yeah, well, you never know. So, before wanting to change their lives, try and have a quiet word with your dad?

Answer 6

Trying talking to you're father. Tell him that you are concerned that the household has uneven power. That both him and your mother should have equal rule over activites in the household, and that everyone should do their share.

If he is not bothered by this, or is happy where he is, leave him be. Most older men love to feel needed and valued. Maybe he likes doing these things for your mother because it makes him feel like hes helpful.

Answer 7

Does your family have moral values? It all starts by having God in your lives. Have a talk with your father and read the BIBLE together. Once your father has taken an interest, your mother will too, sooner or later. -That is if you want a to see a change for the better. -I do understand what you are talking about. My parents are the same way. It gets a little difficult to play the referee, that's why I say, "to get into reading your Bible for some powerful reinforcements."

Proverbs 12:4 (NIV)
A wife of noble character is her husband's crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.

Ephesians 5 (NIV)
Wives and Husbands
22Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body. 31"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."[c] 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Answer 8

Are you sure he is being treated like a slave? What does she do for him?

If what you say is true maybe you should video her in action then show it to her. Sometimes good people don't realise how monstrous they can be until they see themselves as everyone else does.

Answer 9

There is a lot of personalities out there, you don't know their past, their closed door relations. leave them alone there is alot of man that they enjoy been treated like that. don't worry about it.
Your mom has to much responsability on her, Women always do (cooking, kids homework, bills on time,supplies ready, market on fridge,not enjoyable sex with partner, cleaning stove,microwave,floors,bathrooms,undercouches,bed, washing cloth, I can keep going for hours but I will get you bored. wait until you have your own responsabilities and then you will see.
I am not saying she is right to treat him like a slave, but if he alows it let them be.

Answer 10

Have you actually spoken to your dad and know that he's unhappy? You might find that he likes things the way they are - some people do. My MIL definitely rules the roost in her household, but my FIL seems quite happy with the situation!

If he isn't happy then he has to be the one that sorts it out - all you can do is support and encourage him.

Answer 11

Leave your dad alone. He likes the way your mom treats him. It isn't up to you to do anything about it. It's really none of your business. You have no power to make people behave in a different way.