we have been freinds/talking etc... no problems, until he sent this email the other day ( monday) that said he is in love w / me but going to go be with his baby's mother. i got upset and sent him a whoel bunch of emails telling him how upset i was about this.. ( like over a day and half. probably around 15 emails) . i wasnt extremey crdue or rude but just getting my feelings out/ doing some venting. well he never wrote back. so i stopped calling him and have not emailed/bugged him in 2 days, and i dont plan to contact him again unless he contacts me. based on this do i seem kinda harassing/stlkaery?? or does it just look ike i was blowing off steam.
2007-07-21 04:51:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It all depends on the intensity of the emails. If they seemed violent or threatening they would probably seem stalkerish. However, given the fact that he told you he loved you even though he was married you have a right to vent, and he will probably understand that.
2007-07-21 04:56:42 · answer #1 · answered by Matt G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay you were blowing off steam but you have to completely stop contacting him. I know is SO hard but Dont call or write him anymore at all. Dont go looking for him... NOTHING! If you continue to do so... then it will be harassing! Jus forget about him... You need a man to appreciate you!
2007-07-21 04:56:18 · answer #2 · answered by Chrissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Venting is a good thing. How much venting would depend on how much you had invested in the relationship. I agree with you not to make any further contact with him. Some guys are just users and can't help themselves. What if things don't work out with his baby's mother, does he think he can come crawling back to you? I wouldn't allow it! Be firm with yourselve. If he contacts you again, say what you mean and mean what you say. DON'T BE USED!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-21 05:09:04 · answer #3 · answered by Brad M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your hurt and frustration.
I don't really think it was stalking, but you definitely could have handled it better. You went off on him with around 15 e-mails on the same subject, just to "vent". After that much venting, I wouldn't have responded back to you either.
You've made it very clear how you felt, so I don't think he will be contacting you ever again.
If you wanted to mend the friendship, you could send him one last note. Tell him you were very hurt and venting, but that in the end you wish him well and hope he will still consider you his friend.
Good luck!
2007-07-21 05:02:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blowing off steam.
2007-07-21 20:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say harassing, you just want some kind of closure per say. Now, obviously his avoiding you, and if you've state your case and told him how you feel, then just leave it at that. He made up his made to support his baby's mother, eventhough you are the one he loves, that his choice. Whether that's the right choice or wrong choice, you just have to respect that.
2007-07-21 05:07:56 · answer #6 · answered by always51787 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks to me like you couldn't handle his choices in a very mature fashion. He has made a choice that most would view as "the right thing to do". The obvious problem is that it does not satisfy your wishes. Let it go.
2007-07-21 05:27:30 · answer #7 · answered by Randy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just blowing off steam. by what he did, he deserves it! wait till he contacts you like you said. He shouldn't have fallen in love with two ppl. at least you know how he feels.
2007-07-21 04:58:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were just blowing off steam
2007-07-21 04:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by cynthia r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just looks like you are an immature girl who got snookered by some guy (if it is a guy) online. Feel lucky, and make sure you block him. Get a better hobby.
2007-07-21 05:17:00 · answer #10 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋