Just curious as to why I seek this attentio0n from men.
2007-07-21 04:37:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You have to own who you are. If your father wasn't there why is he to blame for your behavior.
If he were there would your question be Is it my father's fault that I've become a prostitute because he abused me?
You see you are only passing the blame or guilt you feel about the lifestyle you have chosen, you chose it, not your father for you. Therfore only you can change it, but you have to want to. Just like you had to want to become one.
I'm not judging you, we are all free entities but it is important to realize that we make our own beds, and so we lie in them.
2007-07-21 04:46:27 · answer #1 · answered by Neptune2bsure 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have seen so many times when people murder someone else and they use an excuse like 'I didn't have any father/mother figure growing up' and that's why I did it. I don't believe that for a second.
HOWEVER....with your situation....I think I CAN say that it's very possible, cause you're craving that male attention you were deprived of as a child. I, myself, have had relationships (before I was married) that involved men sometimes twice my age, and that started when I was 16. Being deprived of a father when you're a girl is a very hard thing to deal with.
BUT....you don't mention how old you are, but I bet you're old enough to know what you're doing is not right and can be destructive for you. I don't want you to end up getting hurt (or worse), cause this is something that you can control by now.
I hope you have a relationship with God. He will find that empty spot that you have tried to fill with men, and as you see, it's not working. God will fill that void...I promise. Feel free to email me anytime if you'd like to talk. ((((((hugs for you))))))
2007-07-21 04:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember a kid I grew up with who acted very sexually suggestive and flirtatious with older men. I always wondered why she did this.
Some people are answering that your guess is correct, some people thing it could be due to your mother's influence. Both sides have a valid point. You are obviously wondering about the father/father figure possibility, and you're clearly acting this way because something is compelling you to, so we know the idea is important to you.
Ultimately YOU have to answer that question by being brutally honest with yourself while you take a critical inventory of your personality. You're getting some great answers from the participants here, so hopefully you'll get some other perspectives to expand your thinking and help you figure it out.
2007-07-21 05:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by ☎ Rotary Dial ☎ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not having a father may have caused you a problem in knowing how to relate to men.
You could change. Get some counseling, but first stop even going out with men alone until you have developed enough self-esteem and social skills and knowledge to relate with them properly. Do not dress provocatively. Learn what the rules SHOULD be for social relationships. I have found the program CIRCLES by Stanfield Films to be informative and helpful. Don't cheapen yourself by trying to find your self worth through sexual acts - it is not even really intimacy. You should see your self worth through your own eyes and not by what someone can get from you. You really are worth something, more than gold, treat yourself as the precious person that you are and don't accept less from anyone else.
2007-07-21 04:53:19 · answer #4 · answered by cavassi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
partly, simply because being loved by somebody whose gender is not the same as yours during your childhood days was not being satisfied. but please always remember that you are a rational human being who is capable of deciding what is right and wrong. there are lots of ways of satisfying this need such as just making clean, and meaningful conversation with men, other than having sex with them. well, it is good to know that at least you are aware of what you are doing since you try to ask about this matter. but my question is, are you wlling to stop doing this whore thing?
2007-07-21 04:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be negative about yourself.You seek attention because you're probably a bit low on self esteem.Be good to yourself.
2007-07-21 04:42:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no your mother would be to blame for that. try paying more attention to your self then expecting it from men. men just want sex. close your legs and open a book.
2007-07-21 04:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by T J Fu 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
not really.. becoming a whore is your personal choice..
2007-07-21 04:53:28 · answer #8 · answered by real_chic00 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what's your phone number?
2007-07-21 04:49:15 · answer #9 · answered by Buster 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋