we dated on and off for 2 years and then very serious for another year ( i got a ring we basically lived together) but see we were was to young for what we had .. i was 17 and he was 18. So things got really bad he left came back, and then i left all together. There were some things about him that weren't really acceptable in my eyes.. like he dropped out of school ( with no ged) wrecked 2 cars (more then once) didn't have insurance.wanted to have unprotected sex with me, cussed and yelled, lied..but now a year later i think about what if he changed? what if i messed up leaving him (because i still do love him) so i wen on his myspace the other day to see that he has a new gf.. now he is 20, and he is dating a 15 ( or just turned 16) year old girl that is a sophmore! is there anyway that they ever will get married? i'm scared she might get pregnant by him.. what if now he is a good bf to her. they have alot of friends together, and seem to be happy.. did i make a mistake in leavn him?
2007-07-21 04:31:22 · 10 answers · asked by southernprideinmyveins420 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yall have no idea how bad he hurt me.. thank you so much for the help!!! it seriously made me cry....
2007-07-21 04:48:03 · update #1
You did the right thing by leaving him. Your feeling of this love you still have will change to a memory of love you had, as soon as you get on with your life.
I am sure you seemed happy to your friends too, but you know the real story. Why do you think he is dating a younger girl ... anyone who is mature will not date this loser. If she ends up pregnant, it is because of carelessness, not love. And he will move on to the next one, as soon as he tires with this one.
Get busy to keep your mind off of it, and feel blessed that you are free of him.
2007-07-21 04:41:22 · answer #1 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first off, NO!!!!! you did not make a mistake on leaving him. The way you talk about him he sounds like a real jerk. One of the worst mistakes you can make in a relationship is the fact that you THINK you can change him when 90% of the time you can't. Look he is probably acting the same way with his other friend. Oh and by the way i highly doubt that those 2 will get married. She is still in school and probably trying to keep her grades up and her parents probably don't like the fact of her dating a guy 5 years older than her. Although, i wouldn't be suprised if she ends up getting pregnate. If he wants to have unprotected and she goes for it well there is a chance that she might get pregnate. But don't be discouraged. He probably wasn't the right one for oyu and another guy will come along.
hope that helps!!!!
2007-07-21 04:45:49 · answer #2 · answered by laura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, let's hope his new girlfriend doesn't become pregnant because he would probably be put away for rape.
Second, if you were unhappy with him, then, no, you did not make a mistake in leaving him. Falling in Love is hard. Girls, especially, have a difficulty letting go of something they Loved. But if you ask if you made a mistake in leaving him, then you are blaming yourself and from the sounds of things, you simply weren't happy with him. Think about it:
No high school degree of any kind
No insurance
No obvious cares or responsibilities
No morals
No respect for you
Maybe he has changed, but he didn't change with or for you. He changed to make some other girl happy, if he has changed at all, which is unlikely if he is dating a minor.
Take all of this into consideration along with the good things about him. Decide for yourself which weighs more heavily on you in regards to how you feel about him not only with your heart, but with your mind.
Best of luck
2007-07-21 04:41:40 · answer #3 · answered by tranquilpsycho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar situation, my boyfriend's ex (who he has been broken up with for YEARS btw) has suddenly decided she wants him back. There's not really anything you can do, just keep being the wonderful girlfriend you are. He wants you and she's just making herself look stupid. Depending how long you guys are dating you might want to do something small for valentines day. Bake him cookies or cupcakes or something
2016-05-19 03:02:20 · answer #4 · answered by juanita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be glad you left him. he does not know what he wants right now. Your too young to be worrying about him when you can have a man that will love and respect you later in your life. As we get older our priorities change about what is most important in our life and what type of person we want in our life. So right now school and college a career should be important not some guy who is out of control. Who cares if he has another GF, she wont be his last either!
2007-07-21 04:37:56 · answer #5 · answered by leliu5th 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't make up with him!
He is just an actor as far as I can tell; an actor who, besides his juvenile terribilism which does not fit a man, is quite insecure deep inside (No sane 20 years old male looks down to a 15 years old female; besides she is underaged. Lucky him it's not me the father of that girl!).
Let it go! Don't get fooled by his internet friends; these aren't REAL friends.
2007-07-21 04:42:20 · answer #6 · answered by Emil Alexandrescu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Him dating a 15 year old will wind him up on a sex offenders list. Guys do that because they want someone easier to control. He's getting worse not better. Tell the girls parents if you know how to contact them.
2007-07-21 04:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, sweetie, you didn't make a mistake.
As a friend always used to say to me, "There's always a reason why an ex became an ex."
Don't look back. He's dating a 15-year old because she doesn't know any better. But you do, so move on and find someone better.
2007-07-21 04:37:28 · answer #8 · answered by Moo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a loser. Dump his memory. There is NO reason to go back to him, and EVERY reason to sever any connection you still have.
2007-07-21 05:33:04 · answer #9 · answered by Beaver1224 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's better for you to move on to someone better and not dwell on the past. What's over is over.
2007-07-21 04:44:53 · answer #10 · answered by cocoa prinzess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋