We are married. He doesn't do anyplace without me but I think he cheats during his work day. He has that type of job where he is out and about. He is a lover of porn and because he has a work cell there are always numbers in the phone. He turns down sex more than I think is normal but his mouth says ALL DAY that he loves me. Our sex is awesome and exciting. He is MUCH older than I am ......... I am confused?!? help....
2007-07-21 03:59:01 · 9 answers · asked by brown_n_thick_sista 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
based on your information, it is not possible to say for sure you have infedelity in your relationship, but I want to leave you with this one ideal, NO ONE CAN CHEAT ON YOU!, THEY CAN ONLY REVEAL THEIR TRUE CHARACTER THROUGH THEIR BEHAVIOR,, never let go of what I just told you, when we choose to look at this as CHEATING, it tends to indicate that some rule was broken, when rules or laws are broken, there must be a punishment, there is no punishment for this act, so the best way to leave it behind without scars is to understand that those who do this Can't Cheat, therefore they did nothing to you, they simply revealed their truest character and freed you from further wasting time on them.
I pray he is not being irresponsible, but I will say that if you suspect, its time to Inspect. Good luck :)
2007-07-21 04:06:06 · answer #1 · answered by Daddy in a box :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm married too and it doesn't really sound like he is cheating to me. My husband turns me down for sex sometimes too and it makes me think that he is cheating on me as well. My husband works two jobs though so I think it's just because he is tired. Our sex is great too and he tells me he loves me all the time. Maybe your husband it just tired like mine is. I've been worried about the same thing while my husband is at work. See mine doesn't do anything without me either. Maybe both of us are thinking too much into something that isn't even happening. Hope this helps.
2007-07-21 11:06:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And people don't think that porn is a propagator of problems...
I have to wonder how "awesome and exciting" sex can be if you have to be worrying about whether he's making love to you or the latest porn star he's seen. I think you need to sit down and talk this over with him. Tell him your fears (don't be accusatory) and work things out. Perhaps he would be willing to get help for his porn addiction. Even better, perhaps he would be willing to attend marriage counseling with you. I hope, for your sake, that you get this resolved.
2007-07-21 11:06:53 · answer #3 · answered by cynjo59 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make a problem where there may not be one. Until you have definite proof, don't let it drag your marriage down. Take it from someone who caused a wonderful marriage to end because of a vivid imagination. Wait till there is proof in hand!!!
2007-07-21 11:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are a worry wart,, most guys in their 40's are not porn stars, most dont want it 24/7 like we did when we were 20 ( unfortunately Wally just dont get hard in a stiff breeze anymore)
stop worrying
2007-07-21 11:05:55 · answer #5 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have some serious trust issues.
2007-07-21 12:00:17 · answer #6 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think he's cheating on a younger woman? I think you are making trouble where there isn't any.
2007-07-21 11:10:02 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just need to trust him while he is out, and enjoy him when your together.
2007-07-21 11:05:28 · answer #8 · answered by VW Girl :o) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's too tired. You should just give him oral.
2007-07-21 11:35:23 · answer #9 · answered by Johnny Walker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋