I woke up at 3am in the morning with a terrible stomachache. My husband knew I was sick. He worked overnight. Came home at 5am in the morning. At around 715am I asked him to go to the store to get me pepto bismol and he replied "At the store, I'm sorry I can't I just got in." I was livid, I went downstairs and saw that he went back to sleep. When he realized hoe angry I was he went to the store. I have to be at work at 9am.
Am I overreacting or does this show someone who does not lreally love me?
2007-07-21 03:40:48 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh deary me, actually that's what he said, he wasn't so she how bad my stomachache was and when he saw I was doubled over in pain, he apologized, he felt really bad.
2007-07-21 04:01:45 · update #1
tas s- well we've been together for 9yrs
married for 6 of those 9 yrs. When I was pregnant with both my boys I was very sick, and he always took care of me very well. He always ran to back & forth to the grocery to get me things to eat that I was craving. I guess I was overreacting he was very tired.
2007-07-21 04:08:10 · update #2
guys just don't think. you have to bother them so they will do what you want them to do. he was probably tired and just wanted to sleep. you are sort of over reacting but i'm the same way...jaja i get mad at my boyfriend all the time because he just dosn't think... any ways he loves you honey treat him good. he went and thats what matters.
much love
2007-07-21 03:46:28 · answer #1 · answered by mir89 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Imagine that after an exhausting day, your husband wakes you up at 2:15a.m. and wants you to go to the store for pepto. You are tired and don't want to go, perhaps you roll over and drop off again. Does this mean you don't love your husband?
You are overreacting. Yes, you are correct that he should have just gone and gotten the pepto when you asked (you have a right to be ticked off). But jumping to "does this mean he doesn't love me" is a bit much, don't you think?
This is not excusing his actions, but folks who work non-traditional shifts have poor sleep to begin with--they don't get to relax when the sun goes down, or rev up when the sun comes up. Their bodies are trying to fight the change to a nocturnal existance. Be mad, but get over it. One would hope that you relationship has more going for it than something this small would derail.
2007-07-21 11:09:41 · answer #2 · answered by drg20202004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're overreacting. Would it have been so hard to call him at work and ask him to bring the pepto on his way home? Working third shift is really hard on the body. When you get home, you want to rest, not to go back out for something you would've gladly picked up on the way in! Oh and he loves you - thats why he dragged his tired self out to the store after you pitched a fit.
2007-07-21 10:46:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband worked until 5 am and you were angry that he wouldnt go to the store for you at 7:15 am? How long had he been up at that point? We women sure are demanding...i understand your stomach hurt but c'mon couldnt you go get the pepto yourself? Your husband deserves an apology.
2007-07-21 12:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by Notagain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he was asleep from working nights. You're a big girl, why didn't you just go get your own on your way to work? Better yet, why aren't you prepared at home for those kinds of emergencies. Your first aid kit should always have something like that. You are supposed to love him unconditionally, I don't know where you equate love with this. Grow up.
2007-07-21 11:13:40 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go as far to say he doesn't love you. That may have been a little inconsiderate but, you have to consider how tired he probably was at 7:15am after coming in at 5am. If he didn't love you he wouldn't give a damn about your anger. He loves you, just don't expect him to be the perfect husband all the time.
2007-07-21 10:56:07 · answer #6 · answered by JanuaryHarris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, this can be a "guy" thing. Not all guys, but quite a few. I know how you feel......similar thing has happened to me. I don't think I would put as much on it as he doesn't love you. Just talk to him and let him know that it hurt your feelings. A woman is usually more of a "care taker" than a man and sometimes it shows just as it did with you.
2007-07-21 10:48:01 · answer #7 · answered by J. S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is horrible to work nights and try to function in the morning, its not like when you work 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. and you can still go shopping or out to dinner. people just wern't made to keep those kinds of hours. so it was just as inconciderate of you to ask him as it was for him to go back to sleep.
2007-07-21 10:51:31 · answer #8 · answered by pooh 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you wanted him to jump out of bed and care for you. However, he was exhausted. If your pain was extreme, you should have told him to take you to the hospital. Otherwise, you should have taken care of yourself. You're a big girl now, so get used to taking care of yourself. Your husband is not your parent- he's your partner.
2007-07-21 10:46:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keep a supply of pepto bismo, &/or alka seltzer in the house.
Call your work and go back to bed.
Yes, I feel you were over reacting.
2007-07-21 11:03:30 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋