2007-07-21 02:16:00 · 23 answers · asked by Butterfly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My father told me a long time ago that he "decided" to love my mother. I always thought that maybe he was kidding me. But he would throw in a little joke, like... when she would say something cute, he would hug her and say, "Yeah, I guess I'll keep you around. But just for awhile."
I heard that a thousand times. They were married 42 years. I'd say he "decided" right.
2007-07-21 02:55:26 · answer #1 · answered by ahnikarose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, we can decide to love someone. Love is not only a feeling- it is also an action, one that we can indeed decide to take. Amazingly, too, once we decide to love someone and act upon that decision by saying and doing things that show love, we begin to feel genuine love for that person.
2007-07-21 09:22:37 · answer #2 · answered by cynjo59 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to think that loving was a choice, till I met a person who sincerely loved me, but I could not return the feelings. I tried hard for over a year, and it just didn't come for me. He ended up furious, but I couldn't force what just wasn't there. He was a friend, I loved him as a friend, but anything more was just not going to happen. So maybe you can decide to love someone because they are human, but you cannot force romance. It's either there or it isn't.
2007-07-21 09:56:49 · answer #3 · answered by Kyle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no other way. You are the only one who controls you. Your decisions, rational or emotional, are under your control. There are, of course, physical desires and attractions. Both of which are in your total domain. This may sound a bit cold, but no one can make you do anything. Love is an emotion. You can decide to cry or laugh.
2007-07-21 09:21:45 · answer #4 · answered by charliehc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We can decide to show someone love or to treat them lovingly. Maybe after a time we may then start to love them, but I don't think we can just decide to love them.
2007-07-21 09:18:58 · answer #5 · answered by Jackson D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can decide to live with somebody but not decide to love . That is a matter of the heart and feelings torward a person that makes you feel so good like nobody else can !You can learn to love somebody .
2007-07-21 09:18:56 · answer #6 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think we can. Love is actually an action, not a feeling. You can love someone and have no warm fuzzies at the moment.
Love is a selfless commitment to meet the other persons needs.
2007-07-21 09:30:57 · answer #7 · answered by Mindlessfun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Real love is a welcomed feeling and not a decided fact.
2007-07-21 09:22:25 · answer #8 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think is this the way that everything starts.
When we say that we are ready to start a relationship, means we have decided to start one and uasually, unconsciously, we have already decided who, or better, what type of person should be.
When we are ready to love, deep inside, we have decided who is gonna be.
2007-07-21 09:23:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long term love is based on mutual respect, friendship, trust, compatibility, attraction, and.....effort. Many people love people whom they haven't had the initial lust for. So, you can decide to love someone, if the parts are in place.
2007-07-21 09:20:36 · answer #10 · answered by TelulahB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋