My childs father getting married to someone he known for only two years and when we where together we was together eight years and was engage now since we are not together it really hurts to know that his getting married please tell me how to really move on?
2007-07-21 02:11:12 · 14 answers · asked by bunny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You make a conscious decision to not let him control your life any longer. You decide it is time you had a life, and you go out and meet someone that will love you. That's the steps in "moving on".
2007-07-21 02:23:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think a part of you never truly moves on. There is always something there that sticks with you and lies dormant and then when situations like this come along, it pops back up and rears its ugly head. It hurts because you love him and you guys were together for a long time and have a child together. It hurts because the plan was for you and him to be married and spend the rest of your lives together. It hurts because now he is marrying someone else and they have only been together a short time. The pain will subside and everyday will hurt less than the last. Go out with your friends, meet new people. You deserve to be happy and you deserve to find someone that will spend the rest of his life loving you and your child.
2007-07-21 02:46:14 · answer #2 · answered by bluemysti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you and your child father have been together for almost 2 years and it's sounds like you are still in love with him, but you need to let him go because he has moved on. You need to do the same thing. Yes, it is hard when you first split, but it has been 2 years now. You need to show him that you are a strong woman and you need to start a new life for yourself. But don't shot him out of your child life. Let him be there for your child. You need to understand that now is not about you and him it's all about your child and you need to find you a new man. I know where you come from because I was in that situation 4 years ago. I was my kids father for 9years and I have 3kids by him and yes he is married to someone else. But I had to move on and be honest I am happier now than I was then. I am in a better relationship with the person I was with.
Good Luck
2007-07-21 02:20:09 · answer #3 · answered by Antonia G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hope you have a court order in place to pay child support and are not feeling sorry for him to let him get by without lowering the boom . Do you get the message that he is not planning on a future with YOU ? So, move on and learn from the experience. It isn't gonna happen, let it rest and concentrate on the child . Make sure it has decent care and proper upbringing . You have a whole life ahead of you and absolutely there are many great partners out there for you .
Good Luck.
2007-07-21 02:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been married for 2 yrs. We didn't know each other long but are very happy. He introduced me to his ex after I got the ring. She looked at me and said"I 'm the mother of his children and I never got a ring". She later told me that he was the one that got away, the only good man she ever had, ect. Point is, it just wasn't right between them and it is with us. If she regrets losing him she should have hung on to him. We all get along because of the kids, but sometimes she still makes comments that make me roll my eyes and say"get over it". I understand how you feel, my ex husband left me for his high school sweetheart, after 11 yrs of marriage and a son. So don't think I'm picking on you. I'm just saying you have to get over him and leave them alone. If it's that hard maybe some couseling would help. I hope it works out for you. There is someone out there for you and when you find him you will forget all about your ex. PS- don't fight or use the kids to get at your ex, it hurts them too much. After we got married, my husband had to take her to court because she didn't let him have his kids for 2 months.
2007-07-21 05:07:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first move is to a counselor. You have pointed out the problem of cohabitation with marriage. Who owns what, for example. Depending on your state, you may be legally married - common law wife. If you are, you need to see a lawyer. No matter what, you are in for a rough time. The best way out is to get involved in other activity to fill up the void. And by all means, don't tell the world about your problems, they really don't care.
2007-07-21 02:18:07 · answer #6 · answered by charliehc 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get on with your life!!!He is.... it doesn't matter how long it has been, whether one day or two years, he is going on, now you need to let go and move on also....he found someone with the qualities in a lady he needed and he is ready for marriage. As long as he takes care of your child, then you really dont have a say in his life.
2007-07-21 02:29:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to get a good lawyer especially here in TX, unless you have visible evidence, the court is probably going to rule for the mother as the primary parent. I feel your pain I went through a similiar situation years ago.
2016-05-19 02:24:39 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
broken hearts take time to mend...i know that is not very comforting but it's the truth. maybe instead of focusing on him you can take a better look at yourself. how much do you rely on other people for your own happiness? are you setting a good example for your child?
he has let you go now it's your turn to let him.
2007-07-21 02:36:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be stong and move on with your life. Try not to focus on what hes doing..And focus on yourself and your child. You can do it!!! Good luck!
2007-07-21 02:23:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋