How do i tell my wife that she needs to lose weight without offending her?

Question

My wife knows that she needs to lose weight but starts a diet then stops because it does not show quick enuogh results.

Answer 1

There is no easy way, because no matter what you say, or how you say it, she will get hurt. Let her do it on her own, in her own time.

Answer 2

Mine had the same problem and her doctor has been on her for years to lose weight. What I did was start walking and I lost several pounds and toned up so she started walking with me. She could barely walk down the driveway and back and 2 months later she's doing 4 miles a day. Start eating right and taking vitamins. Get rid of red meat. Eat chicken, turkey and pork and all the veggies you want. If you fry, don't bread the meat and use olive oil. It still tastes good believe me. I grill alot so get a good grill. We also got rid of sugar and went to Splenda. You can't tell the difference except for the price tag. My wife was so excited about losing weight and inches, she went and bought her an excercise ball and weights and works out every other day with those. She's only been doing all this a month and a half and has lost 20 lbs and 3-1/2 inches. I started out at 180 at the end of May and now I'm down to 155. This is without starving yourself so you eat and still lose weight.

Answer 3

There is no way to do that, buddy. Your attitude probably has a lot to do with why she is overweight. it is a vicious cycle you do not pay enough attention and she eats for consolation. You say she is fat and needs to loose weight, she feels worse and eats more and round and around we go.

Try taking her for long walks in the evening, find some activity that you can do together that will help her to exercise and that willhelp her to loose weight. Let her know you love her just as she is. when she reaches for that bag of chips, kiss her instead. If she gets up to get some cake go give her a big hug. Who does she want fast results for, herself or for you? let her know you are concerned about her health and that you both need a healthier lifestyle would do better than to tell her she is fat and needs to lose weight.

Answer 4

Join a gym TOGETHER. Try to make it something you can do as a couple. If not a gym, start asking her to go for walks, or to do things that require "moving around" more. Start little, then work your way up to the gym.
Just make it into something that the two of you can do to share time together. Maybe it's not really the "diet" she needs to concentrate on. I put on weight when I got lazy. And I mean that in a good way! I KNOW I'm lazy, but if I got too big, that's what I would want my old man to do. I would love to walk with him, or something like that.
Good Luck.

Answer 5

Put your money where your mouth is and do some things to help.

Get the weight watchers books and find some good recipes.
Offer to make lunch/dinner and cook a healthy stir fry or salad wrap
Ask her to go for a walk with you - not for the exercise but so the two of you can spend time together. She will LOVE that angle.

Try not to hassle you wife about it as it will only lower her esteem and make her eat more.

Answer 6

I don't have a answer but I'm in the same boat. I have read all the comment that people have left. I say to my wife lets join a gym, go for a walk, eat healthier. All of these came with tears and the dreaded response " You think I'm fat." When we first married she weighed about 115-125 now she is about 155 lb. I'm still at 148. I think the next time if she ask do you think I'm fat I will say "No but if you don't do something you will be." I hate to sound shallow but if she gets any bigger I don't know if I will be able to sleep with her. I don't like big girls that's just me. If you find something that works man let me know.

Answer 7

I can answer you question with two words. YOU DON'T. Diets do not work. You can't control anyone except yourself and telling your wife the 'bad news' won't help. To loose weight, it takes a life change - not a diet. Diets tend to yo yo, as you said, and don't achieve the desired results. You might enjoy Dr Phil's book on Weight Loss. Once your wife makes the life style change, you included, it will work. And it won;t happen over night.

Answer 8

Why don't you encourage her to join a weight loss group; they offer diet and exercise tips and also moral support. You could even go with her. Why don't you encourage her by eating healthier and getting out and doing things like walking, going to the gym, etc.? You could offer her moral support as well. Don't tell her she is fat and needs to lose weight. Tell her you are concerned about her health and because you love her you want to help her help herself.
God Bless!

Answer 9

Dude, stop being a punk and just tell your wife what she needs to know! You are her husband and confidant, if you can't be straight with your wife then who the hell is!

You don't have to be crass or mean about it just tell her you are concerned about her health because she has begun to put on a lot more weight and that you want to hear her plans on how she is going to change the situation. If she gets defensive, let her know, honey, if you can't rely on me to be honest with you then what kind of husband am I.

Answer 10

If you love her you WILL NOT tell her in any way that she needs to lose weight,

You could go on a diet with her and the two of you could help each other out.

Answer 11

join a gym together , start a diet together, dont bring junk food in the house and start cooking healthy low fat meals. You should just try to incourage her to loose weight for her health and she will feel better about herself .You should l go for walks with her do activities with her and tell her that there is no quick fix when it comes to losing weight it takes time it depends how much weight she need to loose.