After watching a MSN segment, is really possible to lose your cool caring for an infant?

Question

We all lose are cool from time to time, but is it really that difficult carrying for an infant? (non-parent here)

According to the segment, the mother place the baby in a small marsh like body of water, weighed the baby down by placing two medium side boulders on his back and walked way leaving the young infant for eager hungry wildlife to feed on.

You hear and read about postpartum stress syndrome, but do you personal believe this is real or just an excuse for some mothers to get away with murder?

Answer 1

Postpartum depression is very real, there are some mothers out there that really need some serious help. Unfortunately they don't get the help they need before something terrible happens (to the child.) Then all we see is the monster of a mother. Why aren't there more safe guards in place to check on mothers and support offered to all mothers? Why does it have to happen so many times before people will look for an answer to prevent it?

Answer 2

The stress associated wth caring for a baby are tremendous. You get little or no sleep. You have time for 3 crackers while you bathe the baby. It's even worse if you're breast feeding and no one else can feed him. And your breasts feel like they're on fire.

And you never get a bath. Never. And the crying. Some babies cry not at all. And some cry hour after hour after hour or maybe they have colic and they scream at the top of their lungs.

Suppose you don't have any family to help? Can you take care of this baby all by yourself? Where's the money coming from? Do you have to leave the baby in a stranger's arms so you can go to McDonald's and raise enough money for a dirty one-bedroom apt?

I've often thought that putting a suspect in a room with a tiny baby and warning him that that baby better be happy when they get back, that might be a better torture mechanism than any the chinese ever invented.

So you ask could a parent kill? Absolutely. Could a live-in spouse kill?? Absolutely. The day care provider? All because the stress of caring for a week old baby was too stressful.

I've heard that in Africa, the mother stays in a tepee by herself with her baby for weeks while the women of the tribe take care of her chores, provide food and water, and care for baby as is needed. The mom has help. Isn't this a stronger notion than postpartum depression leading to an infant's death?

Answer 3

I believe postpartum depression is very real! Our society has just made it taboo to loose your mind with children. Not all people handle stress the same and kids require TONS of patience and a lot of sacrifice for the parent. The responsibility is like no other and mothers don't always have the emotional or financial support to cope. Not all women can be good mothers, but our society forgets that! We've come to expect only men to be irresponsible or lack parenting abilities. We're all just human.

Answer 4

The answer to your question is yes, some infants can get on your nerves. Some infants are what they call "colicky" and cry all the time. And there are people who do not know how to cope with their negative emotions and are barely mature enough to be parents, no matter what their ages are.
Post partum depression, and pre partum depression, exists in varying degrees of severity. People do not seek help for it because some psychiatric conditions creep up on you and you cannot predict the consequences. Some people, especially people with poor health insurance and little funds, do not seek health care while others seek it for every little thing. Probably a good reason for universal health care.

Answer 5

It is not easy to care for a baby,it takes patience, knowledge and money
I guess that is why so many parents of teenagers say to their kids"you are too young to get married" It is much nicer to be mature when you get married and have children,you do appreciate it more.
Postpartum mostly a short of minerals and vitamins they are depleted after you had a baby. Drs. I believe do not point that out too often because the whole industry is created to give pills.Because that is what the patient want most of the time.

Answer 6

children need an adult to take care of them and in saying that, yes they can be very trying and if you have a child who has a bad temper or just wont co operate with you then it become frustrating for you and at times you can lose your cool. your always sorry after its over and wished you had more control but at that moment, you just lose all sense of what you should be doing.

i dont think it should be an excuse to get away with murder. i think if you feel this way then you should seek some counselling for yourself and your child to help overcome these feelings.

Answer 7

My mother had 6 pregnancies. 4 survived, and that wasnt uncommon in the 50's. I dont recall of a single person killing their child due to post partum depression.
These women deserve the death penalty as far as I am concerned

Answer 8

Yes that type of stress is real. Most mothers get by it. The ones who don't are the ones that you hear about.

Answer 9

I have a wonderful Son that will be ten on Jan 24th, I haven't seen him in almost five years. His mother remarried and somehow forgot about me. Anyone that hurts/murders their own child should be stoned to death, then burned. I long for my son even know I haven't been able to see him. When you have a child its like a hunger, he/she is your baby, your child/ your one and only and I hate the fact that He will spend of his childhood thinking his father doesn't care.
Terry

Answer 10

Sure. Sometimes you can only listen to that crying for 3 days before you lose your mind. It is how you handle yourself with your insanity that matters in the end.