How to get teachers to like me...?

Question

I want to know how to get my P.E teacher to really like me. We get on really well in school, she did loads to help my schools fashion show and shes really kind to me. I've had 2 replies to emails, but none since - i believe her when she says she doesnt check her emails often or reply often, but how can i get her to like me?

By the way, I'm not a sad suck-up. I've got my P.E GCSE next year and want to get on with ther cos shes kind and i will need extra help to achieve a good grade. :)

Answer 1

Teachers have their limits when it comes to interacting with students. I don't think you should ever expect to become "best friends" with one, or feel you have to suck up to get a good grade. Just do your best and all will work out.

Answer 2

Have you ever tried ice skating on a thin ice? You have not gone far and the ice would have already cracked and before you knew it you are drowning in the freezing water. There is an old adage in the Philippines which could be translated as “It is like getting a stone and hitting your self with it on the head”.

Getting good grades requires patience, preparation, efficient work and honesty. Everyone can do these. They are not rocket science so to speak. These are the same virtues I keep mentioning to my students. There is no better alternative. Just to give you a real situation I was in back in 1990. I had a student who was sending all “signals” to get my attention. I had to request for a meeting in our department office in the presence of our Department Head who is a Licensed Psychologist. We had a lengthy and healthy discussion. The next meeting she was “renewed” and became a more efficient student. She eventually passed the course but without getting “involved” with a teacher. It was a relief on my part, too. Never saw her since I left the school a year after

It is normal for students to “look up to” their teachers who have qualities that would probably magnetize them. However, one should remember that one is a student first and foremost. The magnetism should entice one to be a good student, period. To go beyond that would be “skating on a thin ice” where your chances of passing the course and at the same time getting your teacher’s attention would probably close to the freezing temperature.

Study well and in the future you might come across him again when you are not a student anymore, then you can probably start talking “business”.

You will be proud of yourself when you passed the course without your teacher getting close to you.

God bless!

Answer 3

She will probably like you more if you don't keep bugging her at home. She is your teacher remember-she is probably worried that she would get in trouble for emailing you. Remember she has a life outside of school, she could be married with kids to look after! Imagine if every student expected extra help and emails- do you think she would have the time? Maybe she is concerned that if she emails you- every student will expect the same treatment. If she is kind to you- then i'm sure that she does like you. Don't worry!

Answer 4

you need to be careful here because if that teacheris seen to have given you more help than others, your qualification could be suspended or rendered invalid and your teacher could get in to serious trouble for informal contact.
ie if other staff suspect an unproffessional relationship.
dont even go down this line. i did with my english teacher and at first my interest was in the subject then i got lost and now i know he could have lost his job. why that happened is irrelevant. the point is that even if you dont mean it like that, you could get this teacher and yourself into a very messy situation, and while you will come out ok, the teacher is always the one with a ruined career. so leave things as they are.

Answer 5

It's all about building trust. Teachers are very suspicious these days of pupils trying to get close to them, for reasons I don't need to explain. She may be wary of answering emails as they are 'on the record' so to speak and be used and abused for different purposes. I know some teachers and you just would't believe how paranoid they are about these things. So try to build trust, slowly and surely. Asking your teacher about why she doesn't answer your emails is perhaps making her a bit nervous which is the very opposite of what you want to achieve.

Answer 6

I'm a teacher. Whether we like our pupils or not is not important. We're there to teach them all, no matter their personalities. You cannot demand more of your teacher's time then she is able to give. She has a lot of pupils and cannot give you any more time than the others. It sounds like you are hoping that she will 'mother' you in some way. That will not happen. Don't email her anymore and focus on your subjects, not your teachers.

Answer 7

Just do your work and don't put yourself out there too much. You know what I mean? Don't be too over the top because there's a lot of other students too. They will know by your work.

Answer 8

Get a life. She has a job to do, not be your friend. Concentrate on your school work, and not on a teacher.

Answer 9

There are limits to what is possible. The best you can do is just be nice and also be interested in what she has to say. If you try too hard then you may become annoying to her and she will think you have some sort of problem. Just relax.

Answer 10

Don't do this. As your teacher she has a legal and moral obligation to behave professionally and that includes not having social contact with you outside of school. You are putting her in a difficult position and, although she is probably used to dealing with behaviour like yours, if you genuinely want to make her life easier then just leave her alone.