My wife is a chronic masturbator; should I care?

Question

From what she's told me, I know she's getting off to same sex fantasies, but it honestly doesn't bother me. I like finding her in the bedroom, humping her pillow like a dod in heat, because very often, I end up getting sex from her. Why should this bother me?

Answer 1

You know what?
Many men would die to be in your shoes!
I do it too, but usually when hubby and I have not made love in a while and then he comes in and watches...and I get him!
It is wonderful to have him "catch" me in the act and it gets him turned on and then!
I only think about him and his maleness and how he makes me feel and wow...the sex is out of this world when he comes in to get me!!!!!!

Hope this helps!

Answer 2

No reason for it to bother you at all! She is being honest with you and you are finding a bit of enjoyment as well. Where is the downside here?

Now perhaps you would like to take it a step further. Ask what the fantasies are and see if she would like to explore any of them with you. This could lead to some very fun and exciting things!

Answer 3

I don't think bothered is a best choose of words, concerned is much better. My hat goes off to you for your concern and caring. My advice to you is this.... do you feel you have a healthy relationship together in the bedroom? Has she ever been with a girl and did she like it? If so maybe this is her way of telling you she wants to invite a friend in for some fun.

Answer 4

So what? Everyone masturbates. It would be very screwed up if you were upset that your wife masturbated, so why should it bother you? It shouldn't. As for her fantasies, who cares? I've been with women before I got married. It's more fun to think about than actually do. Women can be such whiny bitches. I'm glad I have a husband.

Answer 5

I would not call my wife a chronic masturbator but I know she masturbates regularly because she doesn t mind doing it when I m around. Her sextoys are in a nice little suitcase under the bed, but on my side. At least two mornings in the week she wakes me up between 06:00 and 07:00 in the morning asking to get me her favourite sex toy, which is a toy called Flex Finger Lav. 10 . Then she takes care of her needs while I hold her and kiss her. Her working hours on the first three days of the week are from 08:15 until 13:15. I know that out of three days she picks at least one occasion to masturbate. Most of the time she tells me she has been masturbating just to turn me on. But even if she wouldn t tell me I can see it by the way she arranged the toys. So every now and then she also likes to leave the used toys lying on the bed, so I can t help but notice. Her working hours on Thursday and Friday are from 12:00 until 17:00 and I just know that on most occassions she will go into a masturbation session on Thursday morning after I ve gone to work and my son s off to school. Most of the time she will use her Flex Finger bu every now and then she will select one of three dildos. The dildo that turns her on the most lately is what we both call a big boy . When she first asked me to order this particular dildo I did not realise it was a big one. She recently admitted to me that she also was taken aback by the size but at the same time it also turned her on so she started experimenting with it when she was at home alone. A few weeks ago she finally gave me a masturbation demonstration with her big boy dildo and it was a big turn on for me! It was such a spectacular site to see her thrusting that big dildo in and out of her wet pussy and after a while she went for the flex finger vibrator and within 30 seconds after puting the head on her clitoris she came and I ejaculated all over her.
I don t mind my wife masturbating. I join her. She bought me a fleshlight. And because it is such a turn on for her I have given her permission to buy a buttplug to use on me. Here s the deal: She gets to stick a buttplug in my ***, she s going to suck me and swallow all of my semen!

Answer 6

You know what I find really funny about this Frank. Suddenly all of the owmen on here who are against guys masterbating to porn are suddenly OK with your wife masterbating all the time to her fantasies, suddenly they are like "It's OK, it's normal or what ever works he hee hee" but let you start jerking off to some Internet porn and OHHHH MYYY GODDDD! you don'tcare about your wife's emotions, you are disrespecting your marriage blahblah blah.

I say, let her dude and when you can sneak in behind her, bang the hell out of her. You're a lucky man Frank, don't mess with a good thing.

Answer 7

You are still getting yours while she is getting hers,, right? the pillow and other things in the bedroom are enhancers.. and it does bother you or you would not be bringint it up. You like what you see and she is not saying no to you.. What is the problem?

Answer 8

No I don't think it should bother you. She may think that you might get annoyed if she bothers you for sex every five minutes.

I say just go with it and enjoy having a very active sex life.

Answer 9

i guess you kinda feel cheated on, but some people have a higher sexual need than others. there's nothing wrong with masteurbating. i don't know if your up for it, some are and some aren't, but maybe you two could raise your sexual experience to another level and add a female "friend" to spice things up. you have to be careful though and talk to each other on what the limits are. these situations can end up ugly if communication isn't good.

Answer 10

Try to find out from her if she has practiced homosexuality before. If not, then i would in my opinion you seek counseling from a professional.

However, some pple masturbate due to lack of sexual satisfaction from their partners and feel that after masturbation they get their satisfaction. Maybe u must be horrible in bed that is why she has opted for the latter.
All the best!