When the girl miss call my husband will phone back the gal quikly.they are chatting bout an hour long and talking bout the problem between that girl and her bf(that wat im told).And my husband wil tell wat happen between me and him to that girl. when i ask more bout the conversation,my husband refuse to talk more.There is one day we was quarel and he said i didnt respect him because I ask what he chat wift that girl.Then i said im ur wife why cant i ask wat u al talking and im not forcing u?Wat should i do?Should i just pretend dont know anything?o should i just dont bother bout wat they chat?I wanna trust him bout he didnt prove to me they have nothing.
2007-07-20 23:21:00 · 13 answers · asked by pc87 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He know im not happy wif it. and he juz keep doing it.We are not staying 2gether so they are not talking infront of me.
2007-07-20 23:47:19 · update #1
Tell your husband that you want the girl's bf's number so that you can call him and you and her boy friend can chat while your husband and her are chatting. I don't see why he should mind. That way everyone will know what is going on.
2007-07-20 23:26:41 · answer #1 · answered by don n 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went though almost the same thing from my husband just a few weeks after we had our son. He meet this woman on the Internet chat room who lived in the same town as we did. I would wake up in the middle of the night with him talking to her, he would call her if he wanted someones opinion about some work he was doing. Well, to make this long story short he ended up cheating on me with this woman. It happened many yrs ago, but it is always there in my mind. I would not stand for any behavior like this again. You need to let him know that you are uncomfortable with this relationship he has with her. If he truly loves you and cares about your wishes he will do what ever it takes to make you feel better.
2007-07-21 06:32:57 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs.Crow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has an obligation to show you and your marriage respect. He has no business talking to any girl on the phone or anywhere else for an hour. If you were doing it, he'd have a stroke.
I don't care what they are talking about, they shouldn't be talking at all. It is cheating, period. If he spent that much time caring about you and your feelings, your marriage would benefit.
You have choices. You can tolerate it in silence. You can fight about it. You can realize it is is choice to do what he wants but also your choice on what you plan to put up with. If he wants to have intimate conversations with other women and you don't want to put up with it, then don't. Pack your bags or his and kick him to the curb until he either decides his marriage means something or decides he should not behave in ways that harm his relationship with his wife. Don't waste your time fighting about it or trying to control him. If you tell him he is risking his marriage by acting the way he is and he continues, then there's your answer. Time to go.
Sorry. I hope it all works out the way you want it to. People can only treat you as badly as you let them. Don't be a doormat. Respect yourself and demand respect from others. If he can't treat you like he should then act, don't react. Its your life. Decide how you want to live it.
2007-07-21 07:24:05 · answer #3 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is doing something that is causing damage to his marriage. The woman he is talking to needs to find someone else to chat with. This is how "emotional affairs" get started. He is crossing the line by telling her intimate details of his marriage that are clearly none of her business. Your husband needs to tell her he has decided he can't continue to chat with her and then not call her or answer her calls...ever.
If he doesn't understand how hurtful this is to you maybe he is not the man you thought he was. If he continues, make an exit plan and get out there and find a man that respects you.
2007-07-21 07:08:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up and smell the coffee girlfriend! This relationship is heading for disaster. Trust me I know. Same thing happened to me. He will eventually cheat on you if he hasn't already. Read him the riot act and tell him to shape up or ship out. Let his gal pal go to a psychologist for advice. Best of luck!
2007-07-21 06:28:21 · answer #5 · answered by veruca salt 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if there is nothing to hide, then put the conversation on speaker phone - or give you her phone number so you can invite her over - better yet, tell him that she needs to seek counseling with someone OTHER than YOUR husband - when they start talking again, pick up another line and say - "HEY, find someone else to cry to - I don't cry to your partner and you don't belong crying to mine!"
2007-07-21 06:31:36 · answer #6 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the phone number changed, and tell her to get lost! He is giving the intimacy away that belongs to YOU! How would he like it if you called up a man and talked for an hour in front of him?
2007-07-21 06:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by Princess Picalilly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of the warning signals in your head should be going off. Whenever anyone gets defensive over who they are talking too, it usually means that they are doing something/talking about something they shouldn't be. If they are just having 'friendly' conversation, he should be able to talk to you about it. Since he's not, I would demand it to stop and if he didn't, I would consider the possibility that he's cheating.
2007-07-21 06:30:36 · answer #8 · answered by traceylenore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with chatting with another girl. Maybe it's a good friend. However, as I see it, this may be progressing into something more. I think even you should start getting friendly with the girl. That way, at least the girl's conscience will stop her from doing anything wrong.
2007-07-21 06:28:13 · answer #9 · answered by equitymonkinlove 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
he is being disrespectful to his wife. if you dont approve of him talking to this girl and him not being forthright with you about it, he probably has some feelings towards her. if he didn't, he would tell you about it and maybe you could give some advise that would help her. but i'd say you need to tell him how much this bothers you.
2007-07-21 06:55:52 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋