So, I'm fake. Very fake... it's not even funny. But I've come so far that right now I don't even know who I am on the inside. I fake most of my emotions and tend to copy the people I'm around the most. It's horrible. When I hear new music or see new clothing styles my first thought is "how popular will it be." and as soon as I hear criticism of something from one of my friends I completely lose interest in it and hate it with a passion. It also goes the other way around.
I tried getting away from it all... but I can't. I breakdown if I don't have someone telling me what to like, or what to do. I need people in my life to do this.
And now that High School is comming up, I'm gonna be forced to break away from this habbit... but I don't think I can. It's terribly effecting my future because right now I don't know what I want to do with my life because nobody is telling me what... and if they did I know I couldn't listen...
Please help... I really need it.
2007-07-20 21:17:44 · 6 answers · asked by Ryan Y 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Honor classes and regular classes, electives, ect... if I want to be a certain profession different from my friends I can't keep following them.
2007-07-20 21:25:43 · update #1
Go on a vacation all by yourself. Do more things by yourself. Learn to live with yourself. Because you can't fool you. I wish more people would snap out of it like you are. Congrates. lol
2007-07-20 21:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are already on your way to becoming an individual in your own right. The fact that you have asked this question proves that. What you need to understand is that everyone feels the way you do sometimes, but most people never try to better themselves the way you are. Please don`t stress about this anymore, just relax and continue on the way you are and everything will start to sort itself out. It is called maturing and it can be a slow process and frustrating and kind of scary but it will get easier. Taking your cues from other people is okay as long as you choose the right people. Look for good, kind, thoughtful people to copy and you will become like them yourself. Take your time, this is a process that continues all your life. And have fun while you are doing it okay? Life is for us to enjoy, so relax and enjoy it! :)
2007-07-20 21:47:49 · answer #2 · answered by Daniel S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are very insecure. Do you think that people won't like you if you are yourself? Do some soul searching. You are the only one that can fix yourself. Everyone has strong points and weak ones. Look for your strengths and work to improve your weak points. Everyone wants to wear the popular stuff but geez, you need to start picking out what is right for you. You are growing up and starting to mature. You need to become your own person and face life as yourself and be responsible for your own choices. Just do it. Life is really great when you are true to yourself.
2007-07-20 21:31:41 · answer #3 · answered by towanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still young- Yes you are influenced by others and want to be popular- But what if they were looking at you thinking how fun- cool and fantastic you were?- Try starting a new fad- When I was your age I started wearing two or three watches- and wierd colored sneakers- Some thought I was nuts while others admired me for my uniquness- Try new things and you may find more of yourself!
2007-07-20 21:27:07 · answer #4 · answered by admiredi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean about having to break away from this habit in high school? You must not know much about how the typical high school group works.
I spent a lot of time trying to find myself before I realized I'm in the process of inventing myself right now.
2007-07-20 21:22:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need new friends.
2007-07-20 21:28:49 · answer #6 · answered by spunkiepink85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋