College worries!?!?!?

Question

I am a senior in high school and right now i am going to colleges and trying to figure out what i want to do with my life. I am freaking out because there r so many things to think about and so much info to process. Like how far do I want to be from my friends that r all staying here, or do I go to a school because they have a great program but I hate the dorms or go to the school that has a good program and I like the dorms. I know I should pick the school that feel right but how do I know it feels right. Also I am so codependant on my friends that I am scared I wont be able to adjust to a school thats 4 hrs away even tho I might really like it. And I am scared that they wont know wat to do because I am the one who fixes all their problems. Or should I even bother to start dating this guy if I am just going to be gone in a yr? Does anyone have any advice or have had these many worries about going to college?? thanks

Answer 1

It seems that you have a lot of unnecessary things on your mind. Who cares about your friends, go to college and make new ones. You'll be seeing your old friends during breaks anyways. Theres always email and instant message and cell phones. By the way, if you're the one always fixing their problems then maybe it's best for both you and them that you move away. They need to grow up. And so do you. You go to school for yourself, and to to get a degree to further your pursuits and your future. It sounds like your going through a mid life crisis at 18...

Answer 2

You have to live for the moment, but know that things will change. I had one of the best dates of my life a week before school was out in my senior year, and we never saw each other again because we both left for the summer and then moved away for college. I survived.

Know that these days, distance isn't a huge issue because with cell phones and IMs, everyone is connected in ways that aren't dependent upon being nearby. I hear more about this with regard to parents than I do about friends (usually because people make new friends in college, which don't replace their high school friendships, but they satisfy the need for being near friends), but after the first few weeks, it doesn't seem to be a big deal for people. You shouldn't be fixing everyone's problems anyway! That isn't generally what friends are for!

As far as picking a school, whether you go to the school with the great programs and awful dorms or the one with the good program and great dorms should depend upon a few things. Do you know what you want to study? If so, the program becomes much more important. Also, are you expected to stay in the dorms all four years,or could you move out as a sophomore or junior? If so, then maybe tolerating less lovely surroundings for a while may be worth it (of course, if the dorms are dangerous, that's another matter).

Answer 3

You are freaking yourself out here. It is completely unnecessary. Life is full of challenges. Some good, and some bad. But it is all part of growing up. There are things that you like and things that you dislike. For things that you like...there is no problem, and for things that you dislike, you will learn to deal with them...that make you more mature...and it is a good thing. You can always keep in touch with you friends...there is phone, internet, email...and you can still meet in the weekends...why worry...you are not in Iraq.

I think you are living in a transitional phase of your life that you feel completely uncertain....and all you need is just that little bit of courage to face the new challenge. So, pad yourself on the back, and tell yourself you are a big girl now. Be brave...enjoy life to the fullest. Good luck.

Answer 4

Time to grow up, Pick the best college for you if you let others decide for you(freinds,codependency) will be the sorriest decision you ever make,best thing I personally ever did was to leave my home town and find myself. Good luck trust that inner voice we all have go foward dont look back!.

Answer 5

Grow UP