give as much as u get?????

Question

plz tell me whether this is a right policy , i mean i have started following it in all relationship, not intentionally, but if some pple are not ready to help me, i just cant help them, i started this to make them realize that u dint help me last time,

but sometimes i feel it has made me rude, i used to follow the policy to give unconditionally, but that hurts me when other pple does not give as much as i do, pple in today's world have become so selfish, they know how to get their work done, i dont harm/hurt anybody, but i dont let other pple take advantage of it....it sometimes make me feel as if i m bad, m i doing right

Answer 1

Cindy... you are doing the right thing. Giving unconditionally is a way for other people to abuse you. Many ppl will just take anything anyone else offers and give nothing back (I know, I used to be a Mr. Nice Guy).

And no, you are not being rude, just protecting yourself. Nobody wants to be abused, so treating others as they treat you is really a good policy to follow. This way, if someone is nice to you, you can be nice back and make a friend. If someone is mean, then you will have lost nothing and can keep them away from you.

Don't let other ppl tell you how to feel. You do what is best for you, and always be careful. Some ppl can be nice, others can be very nasty. Waiting to see which is which has always been the best path for me...

Answer 2

"You Get What You Give" is a song by the New Radicals. It was an international smash hit, the first and most successful single off their album Maybe You've Been Brainwashed Too. The song is an upbeat youth anthem in classic Gregg Alexander production style, based around a piano chord sequence and an electric guitar lick in the background over a steady drumbeat. Many were drawn to the song's optimistic attitude and feel-good atmosphere (the song itself is about remaining true to who you are and not being "a fake"), making it one of the mainstay singles of the late 1990s. It has been played over one million times on U.S. radio.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/You_get_what_you_give

You Only Get to Keep
What You Give Away:

It’s a universal law:
You have to give before you get.
You must plant your seeds
before you reap the harvest.
The more you sow, the more you’ll reap.
In giving to others,
you’ll find yourself blessed.

The law works to give you back
more than you have sown.
The giver’s harvest is always full.
Those that obtain have little.
Those who scatter have much.

Nature does not give to those
who will not spend.

- Source Unknown

http://www.appleseeds.org/give-get.htm

Answer 3

Well look, if people are selfish then they're selfish. I bet in sometime in your life you were selfish too. But you changed into a non-selfish person. This proves that other people can too. And of course being non-selfish is always a good policy because you prove to yourself that you don't need everything you want and that will help you live a happy life and in the end thats all you should really want.

Answer 4

This is a 'known Christian principle' that actually works. Whatever you give will be returned to you a thousand fold.
Yes, it may take time and patience, and you may feel 'put upon' by others ... and you should always 'give' with no thought of what you will recieve ... but if you can do that, then you'll be surprised at what you get in the end. I know ... I gave and gave and still give in any way I can ... but I have already gotten the best 'prize' ever ... I am married to my husband, who loves me as I love him, and we are together forever and beyond. Everything else we can 'give away' because we have each other ... and that is all we really need.

Answer 5

Well its obvious no one has helped you with your spelling very much.. but who am i to talk .. looking for someone to help you, is a mental attitude that leaves you waiting, searching for someone to help "fix" you and that is setting yourself up for failure.. which is what you would be doing if you in turn tried to help or "fix" someone else.. I suggest you give unconditionally to one person and that is you!! be the leader of the change you want to see in yourself and others will follow.. if not they can stay behind while you find what it is you truely are searching for..

Answer 6

i think ur acting the way you should act.Its great to be helpful to everyone around but if ur just doing it to portray uself as a good human being and if u feel inside that everybdy arnd me is selfish and they are just taking advantage of your caring attitude then just stop it.Its very difficult and not many people in this world can selflessly help others and thereby land themselves in problems.I dont belong to that cateogary myself so Follow what ur heart says is right.If you feel somebody deserves your help go ahead and help him .You must also realise why someone refused you help .......maybe they might have been in a difficult situation themselves so they didnt help you .u have to be the judge in deciding whom to help and to what Extent.

Answer 7

You have answered your own question.

In abiding by your own policy of only reciprocating to others, you have become selfish and possibly rude.

Giving is not a barter system.

Answer 8

You are co dependent look this up hun it will suprise you you also need to get a copy of the book women who love too much. http://www.silcom.com/~joy2meu/codependent1.htm

Answer 9

i didnt understand a thing