He's attempted it in the past (b4we even knew each other) and he does have a past of drug and alcohol abuse, I guess thats what you call it. and his childhood wasn't that great. he's currently 16. We're so in love and have our whole future planned out but recently I've noticed he's been really wierd like he won't talk bout our future like he used to even when I bring it up which is uncommon. Aside from that he's just been very not himself which I haven't been the only one to notice our bff who is constantly with us has noticed too. Tonight he told me he didn't wanna live anymore and he didn't plan on having a future thats why he hasn't been talking bout it like usual. I told him everything was gonna be ok even if it wasn't right now and all that stuff. I was so terrified still am actually so I told our bff, Tony. what am I supposed to do?...what am I supposed to say to him?...I've never been in this spot b4 how can I help the guy I love so very much cuz w/out him whats there 4 me?
2007-07-20 19:02:04 · 10 answers · asked by Cassie 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You need to contact a suicide counselor and explain what's happening. Do his parents know? He needs help. He's lucky to have someone like you who cares. Good luck & God bless.
2007-07-20 19:06:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not say "it's okay" or " things gonna be alright" because you are not actually in his shoes. These could show that you don't understand him.
Honestly his case can be categorized as Psychiatric Emergency and needs urgent attention. More often than not they are hospitalized and and have intensive monitoring. They are usually given medications that will calm them down to reduce the risk to harm themselves.
As his girlfriend, all you can do at this time is to listen actively. You may not say a thing, but show to him that you are more than willing to listen and understand. And also, your main responsibility is to inform proper individuals (his parents, school councilor, nurse) that understand the urgency of the situation. I mean proper because you might inform his stressors (irresponsible parents, enemies, rivals) and would further aggravate the situation.
You can be a hero if you act in due time, but you can be guilty if you don't do your move now.
God bless.
2007-07-20 19:33:48 · answer #2 · answered by teddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk of suicide should always be taken seriousely! You must get him help/. Here is a number to call: Suicide prevention lifeline--1-800-273-talk or www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org
This is completely anonymous and confidential and 24/7. Is your boyfriends parents aware of this? You can even call yourself and they can guide you. The terrible thing about suicide is sometimes a person will attempt to kill their self as a plea for help but they dont really want to die but their method is so extreme that they die and its too late to get help[example, they cut their wrists to deep, change their mind and cant call for help because of massive blood loss]Even if your boyfriend gets mad at you, tell someone that can intervene because it will save his life. Take this very serious. My sisters 21 yr old grand daughter lost her lover and was wanting to die and every one thought it was depression and they found her in the morning hanging on her bed room door with a sheet tied to her neck. What if? What if they would have taken her threats more serious? They will never get the chance. I can tell you really love him so help him and you are affected by this too, so talk to some one about your feelings too.
2007-07-20 19:30:45 · answer #3 · answered by Pink Ice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through this. Have felt suicidal a lot of times. All the times, it was because I felt like nobody loved really loved me or cared for me and I felt hopeless and thought it was pointless to live since nobody seemed to care. He might be going through something similar or may be regretting something/feeling guilty about something/upset because of some sort of a failure. Best thing to do is, talk to him, ask him what's wrong, what he's feeling and let him know that you're there for him, you love him very much and you need him in your life. Make him feel needed and loved. And make him talk; it helps a lot!
2007-07-20 19:11:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont talk about ex's. ask open ended questions. like questions that can not be answered in one word. stay away from politics and religion but keep it to current events. politics and religion are 2 very touchy subjects that can easily be used to offened someone. sports, movies past and present, music, tv shows, find an interisting common interest and just talk about it. now back to the religion and politics, they shouldnt be completely ignored but for a young relationship, they should be avoided as much as possible... good luck with you and your boyfriend
2016-05-19 01:02:45 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to say, but as long as i know , for those words there are several reason , which each one seems reasonable, so you need to explain more
some times boys want to break up but because of previous promises that they told to their girl friends, they don't want to change what they say, so , first of all they would say that they are sick , they will die soon, some thing like that, some times this way would work , but some times doesn't so they will proses to next step which happened to you, boys would say that they want to kill them selves they can not stand this life, and some thing like this, you must found out, what is the actual reason behinde his words, .. any changes in his behaviour?? as you said he is just 16 years old , and that age is special , I was like him, and I tell you, dont worry he wont do any thing stupid, so just try to found out what is the reason,
2007-07-20 19:18:33 · answer #6 · answered by ehsan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you must feel like a special girl to him. Basically what he is saying is that everything in his life is worthless. Find someone who gives a ShHHiiiittt. Or you can stick it out with him and maybe he wont kick his own bucket. Tell him to get over himself.
2007-07-21 08:20:14 · answer #7 · answered by chaves_y_chaves 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truth tell him you love him and you wouldnt know what to do if he was gone tell him that your life would be pointless if he wasnt there. Just keep reminding him that if he needs to talk he can always go to you or someone who loves him. Remind him of all the good things in his life. And most of all just be there for him make him happy
2007-07-20 19:10:12 · answer #8 · answered by xoxnooneshome 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him he does have something to live for! He can change and become anything he wants! He just needs to believe! Say that you will help him! Which will probably help him in confidence
2007-07-20 19:09:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
very sad
2007-07-20 19:26:15 · answer #10 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋