Hi, I'm Matthew.
I'm in love with this adoreable girl, she's so cute, she is funny, and loves to play around. ^_^
But latley, my mom has been calling her a whore, slut, tramp, and every name in the book, and is threaning to send my girl to court for abuse. :(
She thinks that my girl is abusing me, when we are only playing around, and my mom also thinks she has mental issues. My mom seems to hate mt baby girl.
Not only my mom, but my brothers, too. They are telling me to punch her, and hurt her, my moms friend even told me to leave my girl.
My mom is taking me away from her, aswell, next year, my mom will be taking me away to New York, and the day she is taking me is the very day before our 3rd year being together...
I love my Barbara so much... I can't lose her... If I lose her my spirit will be broken... I promised her forever and always. I told her I would always be at her side holding her hand...
I can't let my family screw this up...
I need advice, I need help!
2007-07-20 18:40:07 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ok, you need to sit down with your mama and figure out where these feelings are coming from....does she feel threatened that another woman is in her son's life other than her?!? ...... Also, I think it is very disturbing that your mother wold use such offensive words like this about anyone- your mom sounds crazy She would have no one to blame but herself if you really did end up with a crazy girl
2007-07-27 03:44:48 · answer #1 · answered by hawk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is your first love huh ?
You say you both are playing around, is she hitting you hard enough that it hurts, if so this is not playing.
And why would your mother and brothers be calling her those names unless she acts like or does those things.
You need to take a brake from her and when you come back if both of you still feel the same then it will work out, but even love needs a break now and then, if it is to be it will be when you get back.
2007-07-26 18:52:50 · answer #2 · answered by Bingo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother of two children (aged 17 & 14) and I love them both dearly and would protect them. However if one child treated the other like you described, especially with a handicap I would no way let this go on....the other child should have been taught to care for the one with the handicap, this would help the situation by easing pressure on parent and child. The reason your girlfriend does nothing seems to be as you describe because she is ashamed of the handicapped child and perhaps just doesnt have motherly feelings for him? As a step parent you have to be careful not to interfere too much, as I am just in the process of leaving my husband of 5 years because he treats my children badly in comparison to his own. Im not sure what the answer is, if she will not do anything to discipline the child and it is probably too late to change his behaviour now, you either have to put up with it for the sake of being with her, but can you do that knowing the other child is being treated so badly? Would you consider reporting her?
2016-05-19 00:57:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom did the same to me cuz i was dating an older guy im 22 and he is 32 so my mom hit the roof and tried to cause problems. So i transfered my job and moved to another state with him and i have been happy since! I wouldnt trade him for the world. Do what i did tell ur mom to F*ck off and do what you wanna do! Its ur life live it like u want and dont let anyone hold you back!
2007-07-28 17:53:07 · answer #4 · answered by www.myspace.com/devilishvixen21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to stand up for those who you love, and in this case, you should stand up for your girlfriend before you lose her like what your mother is trying to do. Try to talk about how you feel and try to make your family understand that you love her more than anything else since she means a lot to you(right?). You must be there for her and it should be now. If you don't say anything, you are going to lose her and you will never know what it is like if you had said nothing before leaving.
2007-07-21 04:38:55 · answer #5 · answered by Roxas of Organization 13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her, you'll keep your promise and ignore what others say. You can go through this and eventually, your parents are gonna learn how to accept.
I believe with a love this strong you'll keep holding on. Love doesn't come easy. You gotta work hard for it!
2007-07-28 17:19:10 · answer #6 · answered by Demetria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget everyone else. If you truly love one another. Then who cares. What matters is the two of you.
Can your friends and family live your life for you?
2007-07-28 14:17:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Matthew.....chill....no body's gonna make u both seperate if u both r meant for each other no matter how hard they try......but jus for one min try to think y ur family members r treating her like tht....obviously they r not ur enemies.....take ur time n think its ur life n not a joke...no matter how long it takes.....rely on God and ask him to make the best things happen for u...all the best...
2007-07-28 09:31:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my girl friends mom is similar she HATES me. but i don't know what she says behind my back. but talk to your girlfriend and have you and her stop play fighting like you do. try to show what your mom would call I'mprovement... and depending on how old you are you can move im with your girlfriend. i plan to do that soon. i cant stand my Lil sis.
2007-07-27 20:44:14 · answer #9 · answered by tippie dog. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for you. You have to deal with the situation or you have to sit down with your family and tell them that they are hurting your feelings and you are not breaking up with your girlfriend no matter what my family says about her
2007-07-28 15:40:29 · answer #10 · answered by hottie688 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋