im a quiet person i get my heart crushed easily i never had friends i always get stump over im poor im a middle class woman and my high school sweetheart is rich and he has a big ego and he loved me from the start and he would cry for me telling me he loves me and im a very insecure timid shy not confident person im always home i dont go out he always out withhis friends and he was popular back in junioir high for the cutest boy and having 2 closets of clothes that belong to him my famliy dont care about they have money they always think about my older sister..she a first child ima second shadowerer i never got attention no one never calls me pretty ive been bullied around when i was little till i finish high school my finacee johnny that his name my H.S. sweetheart doesn't care no more i cry everyday every night i live by myself he lives in a nice house he always promise me to go out withme n have a good time i need him my brithday is next week help im beggin im 9 months pregnant
2007-07-20 18:36:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Have you got me confused. First you say you are 8 months pregnant and then the last thing you say is I'm 9 months pregnant. Which is it? If what you said is true about being pregnant, you need to start thinking about the new life you are about to bring into the world. You need to concentrate on that and stop feeling sorry for yourself and you will see things in a different light. You need to decide what is best for you and the baby, and work on some goals...continue your education if at all possible, because without an education your opportunities will be limited. If the baby's father chooses not to be a part of your life he will still have to support his child, which will help you out. Stop putting yourself down as not being pretty..not having money...not living in a nice house....and the list goes on. Hold your head high and meet your challenges head on. Good Luck now and in the future!
2007-07-20 18:50:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anais 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
It's not odd at all, a lot of people are in the same situation as you are, you just don't see or hear about it cause people don't tend to brag about it. Feeling unattractive and lonely is a normal reaction, due to your situation and I'm sure hormones are also playing a part. Believe me a lot of guys find pregnant women attractive but obviously they won't ask you out because most pregnant women are in a relationship so they will probably assume that you are taken already. That being said, I don't believe that you need to find a guy just so you aren't lonely at the birth of the baby. It will take more than one month for a guy to be comfortable enough to be at your bedside and witness the birth of a child that he hasn't fathered. But if you do find one like that, hold onto him! You need to find a guy that loves you and the baby (you loving him back really helps...), at this point in your life you need a stable relationship, not a token relationship. Yes there are plenty of relationships that have formed after a woman's had her baby. You're not going to become a spinster at 17, don't worry :) And get in touch with your baby's father. No matter how immature he may have acted (he's a male so let's forgive him), remind him that you were best friends and that it was a great friendship you had, not worth throwing away. Think about how you yourself have acted in the past and you may be able to understand why he took some distance? If he doesn't want to - plenty of other fish in the sea. Congratulations, and good luck with the rest of the pregnancy! EDIT - if the baby's father is the one that tried to kill you (in your other questions), then scratch my suggestion about getting in touch with him. And 'immature' is an understatement.
2016-04-01 04:49:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see: you're depressed, your bf got you pregnant and is now ignoring you and going out at night, and you have no money. You're in trouble, but it's fixable. First, you have to either decide to keep the child or have it adopted. If this guy won't marry you and won't stick around, I think the best thing is to offer the child for adoption. At least go to an adoption lawyer and hear the options. You may get money for medical costs, you can arrange an open adoption to see the child, and you will be able to finish school: all while giving your child two parents and a good upbringing, a better chance in life. I would also ditch this guy as he is bringing you heartache and doesn't care enough about you and his child to marry you. Then you need to improve your self-esteem. You can do that by reading books and becoming educated, perhaps finishing school. Try reading, "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" to learn how to set goals and achieve them; and also try "What Color Is Your Parachute" to learn about the skills you now have and how to use them. You may also consider counseling: perhaps you can get it through a local college for low-cost or free, to help you with your feelings about your family. Good luck to you.
2007-07-20 18:42:45 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I hate to tell you this; But if he really loved you he would have Married you eight months ago. Not only that he would not be going around with his friends he would be with you. I don't know what state your in but you might file for child support now and also ask for your child to get half of his inheritance in case his folks passes away. That is if you decide to keep your baby.
2007-07-20 18:54:50 · answer #4 · answered by DALE M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey, calm down. Your upset, sad. And although it seems dark now, especially bringing a new life into the mix, things will sort out. Don't harm yourself or others, try and see the bigger picture. Your never trapped. You can do whatever you want in your life. If you need someone to talk to, try seeing a therapist. I know its hard to talk to shrinks, but it would help, especially if your dealing with depression.
2007-07-20 18:57:18 · answer #5 · answered by Kemps K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you may have depression. Could be the hormones from being pregnant. You really should talk to your doctor about this.
2007-07-20 18:42:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
call your bf and ask him to come by your place. and stop your self pity. there are people out there who are more unfortunate than you are. have more self confidence and don't tell yourself you are not pretty. whatever you see of yourself, that' s what other people will see also.have a positive outlook in life.
2007-07-20 18:41:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, I find this story hard to believe, but the answer is simple. Sue him for child support.
2007-07-20 18:40:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
Please be considerate and break your paragraph down into sentences, it makes it easier for us to read and help you.
2007-07-20 18:39:37 · answer #9 · answered by hansblix222 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋