People always say I try too hard, is this a bad thing? What does it mean to try too hard?

Question

I can only give examples of what I have done to make people say this.
1.Went to school full time and had a part time job, and a casual job....so that I could travel before college.
2.Got tired of being overweight, started exersising for an hour each day and watching what I eat, avoided junk food like the plauge..lost 80pounds.
3.Didn't want to be shy anymore, so I put myself out there and started showing interest in other people and the world.
4.After my little nieces favourite teddy got destroyed by the family dog, I spent a day doing nothing but finding fur to match his colour and rebuilding him.
5.When my friend said she was having a bad day,I went over to her house as fast as I could and treated her for the whole day.
..etc......
I think all of these things are valid, do I really try too hard? and is that a bad thing? What dies it mean to try to hard?

Answer 1

I dont think it is a big deal... Dude, just be yourself and your hard work will pay off...

Answer 2

I am that kind of person. There are passive people and there are driven people. When I have an idea of something I want in life... I ALWAYS get it. I am creative and ambitious, when properly motivated. Some people laugh and say that I am impulsive because I will go to great legthns to achieve a new idea. I don't talk to those people in life anymore. I need people that value me as a person, not tear me down. This is not a bad quality. In fact, I find passive people that let life make their choices for them, very hard to relate to. The only time 'trying to hard' becomes 'bad' is when I give way to being a perfectionist and then become fearful of what happens if I don't try hard enough. I am not like that much anymore because I realize that I can't control life and being fearful of not trying harder is rather pointless. What is meant to be is what will happen. And it is meant to be that some people are driven and goal oreintated.

Answer 3

Hello friend,
If what you're doing is considered "trying too hard", then go ahead & try even harder. I recommend then that everybody should "try hard". What ur doing is remarkable. U balance school works with work, u lose 80 lbs (which is very impressive..i was overweight once also & lose 40 lbs..now i feel great so im full support to u on this one), u made urself more sociable, u help others..Hey,whoever is saying it obviously doesn't know what he/she are saying or if they do then they might be jealous of what you've done..They don't have that resolve & determination to be a "go-getter" and that's what you are, a real go-getter. Remember my friend, beauty & intelligence might be inborn, but unless u don't do anything to harness it, some other less talented (or less pretty) through hard work, discipline & commitment will overcome u. I don't know whether ur handsome/pretty or extra ordinarily bright..but i know 1 thing ur "trying too hard" is giving u results..And let me salute u "Mr. Trying too hard"..Im saying it as a complement.

Answer 4

First of all let me congratulate you on your recent weight lost. Secondly you have gone through and are experiencing a lot of changes in your life. I don't believe there is a such thing as trying to hard.

However I do believe that people sometimes can be wound to tight or can become very nervous or try to adapt to their surroundings by force. To some people this could be portrayed as trying to hard. However if these people around you are saying this to you so easily then they should just as easily get the reason to why you are doing this.

I would just say to you relax and enjoy your new body and just have fun people will and are entitled to their opinions but that is just what they are opinions. Don't focus on what they have to say focus on how YOU feel.

Good Luck!

Charlie

Answer 5

I don't see it as trying to hard, I see it as you being responsible and trying to achieve something in life by working your butt off. If you feel you aren't trying to hard, ignore them, just continue doing what you're doing. They are probably jealous and wish they could be like you. After reading all your examples I see you were studious and wanted to explore the world, a dream most teenagers want, you got worried about your weight, so you did something about it not just complained like most people do and yet they do nothing about it. There is nothing wrong with exposing yourself to the world, because come on, now and days you have to put yourself out there to advance in life. I see you also as that sensitive uncle who came to the rescue of your little neice who was sad after her teddy was ruined, and Last, who wouldnt want their friend to come to their side when they are in a bad mood or need some cheering up.

When someone says they feel you're trying to hard it means you they see it as if you are trying to impress someone, or be something you're not.

My advice is to ignore them and continue the way you are :)

Answer 6

Sounds like to me that you don't try to hard, it sounds like you try do do your best. That is never a bad thing and you should be proud of that. You can try too hard, but only if you expectations far out weigh your abilities. Then you're just going to beat yourself up for not reaching your goals. You sound like a very self motivated person and that a good thing.

Answer 7

I usually tell people this when they spend their entire time trying to achieve something that really has no meaning or needed to sustain a happy, healthy life. Its sad how some people spend decades on their lives trying to get rich and then realize when its too late that all the important things life have gone and passed.

HOWEVER, your cases are of a caring/thoughtful person.

Answer 8

People who tell you that, are probably envious of your wonderful traits. You sound like a thinking, feeling, determined individual. And anyone would/should be priviledged to have you for a friend. In your shoes, you dont have a darn thing to be concerned about. You've got life by the horns, and deserve all good things. ;)

Answer 9

Sounds to me like you are just trying to better yourself. Maybe the people who say this are seeing it from a different perspective than you are. Try to look at it from an outsider's point of view and see if that helps.

Answer 10

Honey I don't think you are trying to hard. I think you are being kind, and go out of your way to help yourself and others.Trying to hard doesn't apply to you. You are just trying to make the best of your life. Sometimes people overdo when it comes to getting ahead. They get them selves burnt out, and then they a re trying to hard. God helps those who help them selves, but not to the point that they keep wanting more than is necessary. Just keep up being helpful to others and to your self. God Bless you.

Answer 11

People always give me the impression that I'm not good enough; that any effort of mine is laughable. Nevermind people; is anything ever good enough for them, even when you "try too hard"? Is it really up to them anyway? Don't let people get to you like they get to me. From what I've read, you sound beautiful.