I wouldn't even know what working on a marriage is. My husband and I love eachother, making it work comes naturally. Although, I wouldn't call compromise, communication or spending time together work or even difficult 'cause even though sometimes I may not like the guy I still love him, so what do you people mean?
2007-07-20 18:26:38 · 18 answers · asked by qwertatious 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
May I ask how long you've been married???
2007-07-20 18:31:43 · answer #1 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is suppose to come naturally.For alot of people it does. However, other factors aside from love can interfere. Like having kids, it brings you closer, yet, because your time is now split, you have to work on continuing what you had before. It's easy to not maintain the old relationship. You've got to work at that. Then There are days when you just want to strangle your husband, but you always know you love them, and you just need to have patience with them.
but you are a lucky one
2007-07-21 03:04:28 · answer #2 · answered by knhglassey@sbcglobal.net 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because monogamy is not natural, and neither is marriage if you look at it from a scientific perspective. I think the main reason people say it takes work is because even though you love each other more than life itself, it takes a lot of work to keep a happy marriage together. No one person can be your everything, and in my opinion, that's where most of us struggle in a relationship.
2007-07-21 01:40:10 · answer #3 · answered by bittersweet_symphon_y 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you just have a nice way of looking at it but what you described , is the work that a lot of people have no clue about . It's nice to hear from some one who comes by it naturally. For many it doesn't and that's why there are so many problems in the marriages.
2007-07-21 01:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by fuzzykitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on your happy marriage! At some point though you will come upon a situation that will be hard for not just you and your partner, but also on your marriage. That is why we call it work. The things you listed I do not consider work either. I love my husband dearly, but last fall our 2 month old nephew passed away and it was very hard on our marriage.
2007-07-21 02:11:45 · answer #5 · answered by crhlovesmlh 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say it takes work because it does. It's not hard, though. I enjoy the work and it's a labor of love.
I love my husband. We just celebrated our 21st anniversary today.
We devote time, energy & resources to our marriage & that takes sacrifices sometimes. We buy/read books, we go to conferences and spend time talking honestly...a lot of time...about our feelings, our needs, our desires, our hopes and dreams.
We are happier today than we ever have been. Our marriage keeps getting better all the time.
2007-07-21 01:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by StacieG 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It being "work" doesn't have a negative connotation - it just means that the marriage takes constant nurturing and feeding to help it along, to blossom and grow. It's a GOOD thing! If you or your husband didn't put in ANY effort at all, you wouldn't have what you do...
2007-07-21 10:32:33 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some people compromise, communication and making time to be together is work.
2007-07-21 09:12:38 · answer #8 · answered by theoriginalquestmaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for every couple like you, congrats by the way, there are 10 which suck. no communication, no time for each other because of lame excuses like work, kids, tired. Little resentments about taking out trash or making a bed turn into divorce material bc no one talks to each other. we are selfish by nature as humans. it takes a strong person to give of themselves more than they ask what is in it for me.
after cruising through 11 years, 3 kids, we just realized we dont know who we are anymore. trying to "work on it" but it is hard, painful, irritating, but worth it for 3 kids.
2007-07-21 02:31:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, how long you guys been together? Sound like newlyweds. Every marriage need maintenance, minor or major. Count your blessings and keep doing what you are doing.
BTW - Do you husband feel the same way?
2007-07-21 01:35:59 · answer #10 · answered by RONNIEKAT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone lives in marriage wonderland lady... you said it your self you sometimes don't like your husband but you love him... That is the hard work not liking someone you love.. and some of us.. have reasons to really dislike our husbands and some of us have to work hard to stay in this marriage for either one reason of another.. So yeah is freeking hard! for some of us is..
2007-07-21 08:13:39 · answer #11 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋