I don't understand why sleeping with other women hurts the one you love?

Question

Why would it hurt them? What makes somebody think that they'll be enough to satisfy the other for an entire lifetime?

Answer 1

so you wouldnt mind if your woman slept with other men? interesting....

Answer 2

If you think you cannot be satisfied by your couple for the entire lifetime. So don't get married or involve in any serious relationship. So you don't hurt their feelings.

This is a very simple answer question you are asking. If you cannot understand why, then I think you don't have any feelings at all.

If we really love someone, we don't want our lover to betray us. We will try to do the best for him/her to show our love and loyalty. If you sleep with other women, it shows you don't love and don't respect and don't need your lover.

Answer 3

when anyone cheats it shows that they are:
Immature
untrustworthy
lack self control
have low self esteem
lack morals
are self absorbed
selfish
lack sensitivity
are unable to keep promises
liars
and in general have very large character flaws that make them rather unsuitable as decent spouses, parents and friends. That may all sound harsh but it is a reality that a spouse has to deal with when in a situation with a cheater. They aren't only damaging their spouse, they are insulting the party they are cheating with as well as using them and they are hurting their children in ways that will impact those young people for the rest of their lives. I think of cheating as throwing a pebble into a pond and then ripples that are created arch out and destroy or harm a great deal more than the original pebble did. This can be felt for generations into the future.

Answer 4

Unless you're telling your partner of your intentions up front, it's pretty rotten. Being honest is ethical. Even if you never promised to be faithful, it's a convention of the society you live in and monogomous behavior is expected. You're risking giving your partner STDs too, which is selfish.

Finding someone who shares your polygomous lifestyle choices might be an alternative to defying society's expectations, taking health risks and being dishonest.

It isn't "somebody's" job to satisfy you for your entire lifetime. Sexual satisfaction doesn't have to come from misbehavior, although it may be titilating to be a little risky or "bad." You can be "bad" with your current partner. Use your imagination to find your inner badness. Try role-playing, elongated foreplay (don't laugh, but study the foreplay techniques of the rhinoceros or the moose who take days to have sex). Try romance games.

Use your imagination.

Answer 5

You're assuming a lot of things. First off, it only hurts them if 1) you've promised your wife that you would be monogamous, and 2) she finds out that you weren't. It hurts them because you lied to them.

Some, in fact, many, people are enough to satisfy someone else for an entire lifetime. If you don't think such a person exists for you, don't get married. If you don't want to be monogamous, don't have a relationship with someone who wants you to be. Find yourself a woman who also wants to sleep around, and you won't have this problem. Simple, no?

Answer 6

What makes you think that loving someone includes being unfaithful to them. Why would you think that you satisfy women or the one you love. Looks like you are looking for approval from women, and by having a variety you are really just hiding a deeper issue, did your mom not hold you enough?

Answer 7

Because love is not just about one person, even when he is as charming as yourself. It is opposite of using other people to give you sexual gratification without giving anything in return. Loving means so much more than simple sexual act. It is about taking a risk to open yourself completely as emotional, mental and physical being to another person. That carries a great responsibility with all the pleasure it gives. When you are honored / trusted with love and are sharing it, it is your responsibility to honor it back. So that is why sleeping with other people would be irresponsible and dishonest, especially when it was all done behind her back.

It seems to me that you have never been in love yourself, because you don't seem to know how wonderful it could be and how precious people hold it. Selfishness is a cold bed fellow. I'm sorry.

Answer 8

I don't think it's a problem at all, as long as the one you love knows what to expect going into a relationship with you. If you're honest right from the start that you aren't going to be "faithful" and monogamous, and that it's okay if she acts the same way, then you don't have a problem. If the one you love wants you to love only her, then you should break up with her and save her the heartache, because you obviously don't share the same values.

Answer 9

For women sex isn't just physical, it's also emotional (mostly emotional) and for most something they share with someone they want to build a life with. They expect the same from their spouses/other halves. If you respect them and love them, then you respect that boundary. If you don't respect that, then you need to find someone who feels the same way you do. If you are with someone who feels that it's cheating and wrong (which it is if you are considered in an exclusive relationship) then you should respect it or break up. If you truly love them, you wouldn't be hurting them in that way.

Answer 10

I sure hope you aren't married, please don't ever get married with that attitude!! FYI.... my husband had an affair and got the other woman pregnant and I'm not suppose to be hurt??? Are you for real???? Walk a mile in my shoes buddy and feel some of the pain I have gone thur by my husband's selfish actions, then maybe you wouldn't ask such stupid questions!!!

Answer 11

Hold on..............so it's okay for you to sleep with other women, right? So then it's okay for your woman to sleep with other men, right? That is called an open relationship. Most couples go into a relationship knowing that they will be the one and only for the rest of their lives. If you don't see that then you are in the wrong ball park. Sounds like to me you want you;re cake and eat it too. I don't trust men like you.