2007-07-20 17:45:31 · 10 answers · asked by sky girl 615 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I hate to break the news but that will never stop. At least it won't if you want to have a long and healthy marriage.
2007-07-20 17:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by Trixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smile. Because everyone should learn who and what they are as individuals first. That knowledge leads to understanding and acceptance of your own needs and abilities as well as needs and abilities of another. All those things take time... a very long time... Because by the time you wise up, you and your partner are not the same people who had said those lovely vows to each other a number of years ago. People grow as individuals, and lucky you if you have managed to grow in the same direction.
Marriage isn't for faint hearted. It is a constant and pretty intense work on mental, emotional and physical levels. So, good luck to all of us in our quest for happiness.
2007-07-20 18:03:26 · answer #2 · answered by ms.sophisticate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot learn how to be married. If you need to improve your relationship, there are any number of books that will give you suggestions. Both you and your spouse should read whatever book you select.
If you are willing to invest the time and money, see a marriage counselor. You don't have to be on the verge of divorce to see a counselor. Marriage counselors do not get the public recognition they deserve. Counselors improve and save many marriages.
2007-07-20 17:54:24 · answer #3 · answered by ALR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not easy...at least the good ones aren't! Dh & I have been married 21 years as of today. It still takes work & it's SO completely worth it.
My advice to you is to get some books on marriage and read them with your spouse. Continually work on improving your marriage. Make it a conscious effort.
Another piece of advice is to go to a marriage conference or seminar a couple times a year.
2007-07-20 17:56:19 · answer #4 · answered by StacieG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There aren't any marriage schools out there so most of us are just doing the best we can. We learn from watching our parents when we are growing up but that doesn't always teach us what we need to know. Marriage is a learn-as-you-go experience.
2007-07-20 17:51:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you talking about? Being married is very easy. My husband is extraordinarily easy to live with. We're both messy night owls who respect eachother's moods and boundaries. It comes naturally. Now, if I was living with some clean freak or a guy who refused to ever cook or do house work, learning to be married to him wouldn't happen. I'd just up and divorce the weirdo.
2007-07-20 17:50:49 · answer #6 · answered by qwertatious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never really learn. Enjoy the journey! Each marriage is totally different. Define what it should be for the both of you and make it a goal. Again, enjoy the journey, that's what is all about, not the destination.
2007-07-20 17:49:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a while to learn what your partner expects, how they react, what they like and dislike, what you can do to get along with them, and what you cannot do to upset them. I have had problems getting along with my husband, but I feel like I am learning more each day how to mesh better with him, and I see him improving as well. He says fewer things that upset me because he sees that all hell can break loose when he does, and I am learning not to let little things set me off.
2007-07-20 17:52:49 · answer #8 · answered by jojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is all about learning lessons. we will never fully know everything and learn it all about marriage or anything in this world even when we die. theres to much to be learned.
2007-07-20 17:51:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell me about it....I will never understand marriage.
2007-07-20 17:49:10 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋