I am 18 years old, and I just found out my parents are planning on getting a divorce after 27 years of marriage. I am so emotional and scared, but I am trying to hold it together! I am just worried, my sister will be worse. She is very emotional as it is..when they tell her...she will be very upset! She is 13, so I am her older brother! What do I do to make her feel better when that time comes?
2007-07-20 15:59:07 · 9 answers · asked by Justbeingme 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't just tell her you will be ther for her..be there. I had the same thing happen in my family. My brother comforted me at first, said he'd be there...yadda..yadda..yadda. But when the **** hit the fan I was all alone. Everyone presumed i was ok. That i was old enough to hear about my the charges they accused each other with. That it would be best for a physcotherapist to poke at my brain. If you love her, and you can actually physcially, emotionally, spirtually handel dealing with a hormonal girl whose life is about to torn apart be there for her when she insits she is fine. But be prepared to be devasted yourself.
2007-07-20 16:08:40 · answer #1 · answered by Aurora B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is no, there is no such thing as a divorce from your family. However, you do have legal rights pertaining to what kind and what amount of contact you have with them, IF you are of legal age. Contact a lawyer who specializes in Family Law - or contact a nearby law school to ask if they can help you. They may also be able to suggest other ways to obtain the help you need.
2016-05-18 23:42:39 · answer #2 · answered by belva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it were me...i would explain to her that its for the better because they would be fighting alot! And i would also tell her that everything will be ok and they will still love her the same. Youll have twice the xmas and bday and all the other holidays...and you might have step parents later which means maybe more kids her age...but that hopefully wont be for years...sorry if my answers havent helped...my parents have been divorced for 17 years
2007-07-20 16:04:16 · answer #3 · answered by '-- *BoOg* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reassure her that your parents are divorcing each other but not you kids. Her parents will still be her parents and you will always be her big brother.
I am touched by your concern for your sister. It may be helpful for both of you to go to a counselor for a brief time.
I wish you both well.
2007-07-20 16:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by Sage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know nothing had anything to do with her, it's not her fault! Sometimes people fall away from each other for what ever reasons, and more times than naught, it's better to have separated parents than those who fight! Bless your heart for helping your sister. You will feel better yourself by helping her!
2007-07-20 16:03:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep the lines of communication open with her, call her often, visit her when you can, take her out to a movie, etc. Don't pressure her to talk, just be there for her.
2007-07-20 16:01:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know that though your parents are divorcing EACH OTHER, the LOVE they have for you both will NEVER change.
2007-07-20 16:02:24 · answer #7 · answered by 100% ♥Creole♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell here that no matter what happens she always has you to count on.
2007-07-20 16:01:27 · answer #8 · answered by Vickie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you keep her company and take her places and keep her busy so she doesn't seem them fight
2007-07-20 16:07:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋