This summer I've been pretty busy and haven't had a lot of time to spend with a guy acquaintance of mine from high school whom I was never really that close to. He's rather needy and dramatic- he expects to drop everything I'm doing and come running to help him in his "crisis" which is never nearly as bad as he makes it seem. He tries to manipulate me into responding or giving him attention. I was in class when he decided to try to get me to come visit him at work. I decided to not respond to his text and he later wrote me a lengthy email explaining how I must meet with him in person as he has a jealousy problem that is worsening. I really think it would be best for me to just cut off this relationship entirely. He's been wearing on me for years and it just keeps getting worse- I'm not the first person he has burnt out. So what does it mean when a guy acquaintance says he's jealous? What should I do about it, considering I want the friendship end and I feel threatened by him. Thanks!!
2007-07-20 15:36:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I definitely do NOT like him as a boyfriend, I can barely stand him as a friend...
2007-07-20 15:41:07 · update #1
Sounds like he might have a borderline personality disorder, but you can't fix that! I think you need to examine your reasons for considering this person a friend. He really seems to have boundary problems and to make unreasonable demands on you and your time. His jealousy is his problem, not yours. Friends are kind and considerate to one another. They don't make demands, they make requests. They understand when a friend is not able to or does not want to do what they request. He doesn't sound much like he is your friend. It sounds as though he enjoys controlling the behavior of others. He's not entitled to do that. So, perhaps it would be an appropriate decision to terminate this friendship.
2007-07-20 15:42:59 · answer #1 · answered by treebird 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy obvisouly likes you. He is just hiding his feelings through lame jokes, which is ironic since he was being hyper critical of someone on youtube who is probably actually funny and not lame funny like him. If this guy was just a friend, he would say "Oh, I don't think that guy's that funny, he's alright I guess". The fact that he got all bent out of shape makes it clear he wants you. Not sure if he wants a hook up or a relationship but the feelings are clear. Think about it. You show him a video of a funny guy right? What does your guy do? He turns around says he is ugly. That is what guy's do when they have feelings, they get jealous. If a girl that was just my friend told me that she thought some guy was good looking. I wouldn't get all upset. Honestly, this guy is really lame. He;s trying to run game on you but it's backfiring. When he said you shouldn't date him, that was his way of trying to make you say "But I really like you". When you didn't feed into it, he got all hurt lol. Why do you say this guy is so nice? He seems like a possessive crybaby. Getting upset because you think some total stranger is cute? That's lame and shows he is weak. Here is why you like jerks. They keep you guessing. They don't shower you with attention and fish for compliments and attention like this guy is doing. Women get bored easily and they want a little mystery. That mystery isn't there if you are already good friends with a guy.
2016-04-01 04:35:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very needy. It doesn't sound like you have time for that in your life. But on the other hand, if you are getting something out of the relationship, then maybe you need to put a little more into it. If he is jealous, though, that you aren't spending enough time with him, then it sounds like he has issues of his own to deal with and he may end up just bringing you down with him.
2007-07-20 15:41:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK that guy really like you so what are you doing to keep him as a dog like you are dog owner.. maybe that guy is looking for a relationship with you if you don't want him then find another guy or unless if you don't want him then tell the truth than becoming dog owner for long time .. time to earn trust and respect for each other if you really want him or not that is up to you but don't waste his time for being jealous or something .. i wish you good luck
2007-07-20 15:43:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say he is telling you he is jealous hoping that you will say you like him more than just a friend. If he is wearing on you I would say just stop taking his calls and texts and maybe explain to him that you are flattered he likes you but you will never feel that way about him.
2007-07-20 15:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. you could be straight foward and just say how you feel it might hurt his feelings but he might stop or slow down a little. Maybe he does the same to other people and they get mad at him and the only reason he's doing this to you is because he thinks your okay with it. Hope it helps.
2007-07-20 15:40:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this situation must be handled delacatly, you just need to talk to him, dont be rude, sounds like he is jst in need of a friendship...dont hurt him just explain to him how you feel if he doed not respond in a mannerly or w/e way, then you need to cut off the rela.
♥♥ Katie
2007-07-20 15:42:23 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Katie is head over heels ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he is secretly harboring a hidden crush for you. Its all up to you if you want to keep a friendship with this guy.
2007-07-20 15:39:48 · answer #8 · answered by onewhoasks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that he likes you.
If you think it's a good relationship, go out with him.
If you think it's not, don't. Break it off for good.
2007-07-20 15:39:55 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry, but you're gonna have to find some way to stop being friends with the dude. good luck.
2007-07-20 15:44:56 · answer #10 · answered by Jesus_freak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋