That he has smoked marihuana, WHAT SHOULD WE DO. He is telling us he is used not to lye to us and that he felt bad that we didn't knew.
I am very worried, Where should I go or do PLEASE HELP
2007-07-20 15:14:05 · 14 answers · asked by MARIA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
OMG the world is ending.
No really, it's not. Seriously, while you may not like that he's smoked pot; at least he was upfront about sharing this information with you.
He's going to college which says to me he's an adult; you may not like the thing he says/does -- but he is an adult -- be grateful that he feels comfortable with you enough to communicate with you on an adult level.
And...if you never specifically asked him previously if he smoked pot; I couldn't necessarily count it as a lie rather than an omission.
2007-07-20 15:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by Malachi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well now that he has come clean keep on him to open up. Tell him that he can always come to you for anything, and show him how much you truly love him. Ask him if he feels the need to do other drugs. This could have been just a one time thing. College will be very different, a lot of peer pressure make sure you tell him no matter what others may say. It's not worth wasting your life away on drugs.Good Luck. All you can do now is just hope you raised him good enough to know better.
2007-07-20 15:40:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your son is of college age, there is not anything that you can do.
He is an adult, he has to learn to make his own choices. You and his father can tell him that you would prefer he not smoke pot, and hope that he will follow your wishes.
In todays world, pot smoking would not be a huge deal, he could be doing coke or stealing or doing many other things that would be worse for him.
I think that you and your husband did an excellent job bringing up your son, considering that he felt comfortable enough with you both to make such a confession. He sounds like a wonderful and very mature young man.
2007-07-20 16:15:12 · answer #3 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing that you should do, is to be passive/assertive by thanking him/her for opening up to you, this making him fell more secure, so that in the future, he may be able to open up about other situations. Establish the bond, while you have the chance, before it gets to out of control.
Remember you are the parent, and he is not in control of his life as of yet....you are. Don't force him to make a decision between family or friends, at the moment, because he's most likely to rebel, and become worse. If he/she came to you....that's a sign that he/she feels guilty about what they've done, making you the controllable parent, and she/he needs advice and guidance from authority.
As you and I know, all kids are hard headed, and they're going to make there own decisioins in life without your consent...It's our job to lead them in the right direction to establish there own moral decisions, that will make a porpuse in there future.
H.T.H
2007-07-20 15:42:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be proud that you son will likely be better able to type english and exchange comunication with another unhindered.
Do not fear the process he will make discovering his own existense.
Only know that God is with him and guiding his choices so that he may become who he should.
You son needs to make decisions for himself. It would not be right for you to interfere based on your perception.
You should love your son, he saught your acceptance and good blessing for something of which he feels guilt buy compultion to encounter. Though you may disbelieve me, even a plant that grows by Gods will serves certain purpose for ones who are not you. Only teach him good judgment and good reason by your good example.
2007-07-20 15:22:41 · answer #5 · answered by Jeff B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... being that Tylenol is more dangerous than pot I wouldn't worry too much about it. At least he told you. Be understanding and ask him politely not to continue (if you want), otherwise he'll probably rebel and keep smoking it.
2007-07-20 15:19:21 · answer #6 · answered by Capitão Darius Emboabas 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well he told you now its not a huge issue if he said he has smoked it, not "i am smoking pot" Everyone has tried it. talk to him about how he feels about it and then explain to him how it can ruin his life if he continues to smoke it and the concequences it may cause later down the road if he is ever cought smoking it, how it effects his learning, and jobs later in life such as drug testing ect.
2007-07-20 15:20:20 · answer #7 · answered by yep its me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's a grown man, kids are going to do what they want to do no matter what you say. All you can do is tell them, some catch on some dont. Im sure he has done more than that..
2007-07-20 15:21:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just support u know... Support is the best thing u could do!! : )
but tell not to do anythin like that again
2007-07-20 15:18:14 · answer #9 · answered by bryan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
George Washington and Thomas Jefferson and everyone else used to use it for pain and headaches so I wouldn't worry about it.
2007-07-20 15:31:55 · answer #10 · answered by Joe Bleu 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋