One of my friends (23 y)seems like she only lives for her work and nothing else. We are lucky if we can get her once a month out for a movie or dinner. She hates partys. Is there anything that we could do to get her more out to make new friends etc.
2007-07-20 14:09:03 · 9 answers · asked by veronica 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I took my wife out to a square dance for our first date. Square dancing is fun and the people can be fun too. Make things really social, not like a date. Sometimes getting together for big luncheons lie pizza, or buying a box of coffee and donuts or pastry at work. Invite to a night out playing games or cards is a nice way to meet people. These ideas may help you think of others. The point is to get people together to have some fun and conversation and let nature take its course.
2007-07-20 14:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by cavassi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, I think you should realize that she doesn't need help. Some people have fun focusing on work because they love what they do. I personally like spending alot of time alone in my room watching Tv.
Secondly, I do understand why you want your friends to be more social. Try and find stuff she likes to do. I'm a quiet person and I like to hang out in places where the lights are dim and there is a real relaxed mood. Also if she is shy dont try and force her into the middle of a conversation or ask really personal questions around lots of people. Because for a shy person that will really make you regret going out.
Finally, try just talking to her about it over the phone so she doesnt feel pressured.
2007-07-20 14:22:47 · answer #2 · answered by Helper123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some activity that appeals to her intellect perhaps Not everyone likes the same socialization Perhaps a nice lunch on a workday occasionally when work is not too pressing? Or bring a potluck during lunchtime to share? If you knew more about her interests perhaps you could interest her In activity -museum visit, or whatever is in her interest category
BTW some people are born with a personality type that doesn't get any pleasure out of socializing-like aspergers syndrome-they prefer not to look at people in the eye and generally dont like human contact in big doses or touch or voices much. that may not be the problem but if it were akin to htis no amount of helping would change that person and they may become very uncomfortable and become agitated. So tread softly
2007-07-20 14:19:03 · answer #3 · answered by FoudaFaFa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to? People are different. You have to accept that. I am the same way- if I go out I get nervous. But I'm extremely happy the way I am. If your friend is happy you shouldn't try to change her. Just because you may enjoy going out, it's torture for her. It's like if you were forced to stay home. Now, if she wants to change that is different. Find a hobby should could really get into and go from there. Even if you have to start small in a little group of people she knows, it will be one step closer.
2007-07-20 14:20:06 · answer #4 · answered by BlackDahlia 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi veronica...
I can understand how u feel..coz i have a fren(25)yrs old, who behaves in the same Way as ur fren.
She hates to make new frens n hates attending functions,wedding n parties too.
U noe,,she didn't even turn up 4 my weddg!!
I don't blame her ..coz that's her character..(lone ranger)
But now v can c a slight change in her ever since she got a boyfriend.She makes the effort to call us 4 coffee or shopping.
Guess the fren of urz will change when she meets Her Mr,Right at the rite time.
All the best to her.
2007-07-20 14:28:44 · answer #5 · answered by *♥sugar♥* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is really nice that you want to do this for her and that you remain her friend despite her lack of socializing. What are her hobbies? Maybe you can invite her out for one of her hobbies, so that she would feel motivated. Like if she likes to play tennis,
have an outing that involves playing tennis. If she like shopping, have an outing that involves shopping etc. That way, she is less nervous about going out.
It really has to come from within her, but whether you know it or not, she is glad you are there for her.
2007-07-20 14:22:50 · answer #6 · answered by popeye 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i just wouldn't bother her and just wait until she snaps out of it because she will after a while. my brother was the same way. he wouldnt ever leave the house, not even for 20 bucks. he was addicted to his xbox. anyways, just give the girl some time. she will get bored.
2007-07-20 14:21:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered the possibility that she's perfectly comfortable being who she is? I know you mean well, but if she wanted to go out, she would say something.
2007-07-20 14:19:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
ya you can help her introduce people to them. anyways why would you want to be a dictator to your friend. they are happy the way they are.
2007-07-20 16:28:54 · answer #9 · answered by bullet b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋