I got married 20 years ago to a lady does't like sex and my life is almost sexless in these years but I never gave her even a single chance to abuse me for any of my responsibility and taken care of everything, to the extend of my full capacity towards her or childrens and sincerely never tried for any out side relationship with anybody but now when I am getting 45 of age and dont have much of life for sex, do you think I should carry on with this useless boaring life? or should I go for another partner for my rest of life? the reason behind all this is that we have the only chance to live on this beautiful world should we waste it or we should enjoy the each and every moment of this.
2007-07-20 12:38:00 · 11 answers · asked by angira s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
So your life has got a bit boring, but you say you have been married 20 years, how good is that; a lot of marriages don't go to that distance, so i would say you are one of the lucky ones. Finding outside love is not a good idea, it might be nice and your sex life will be good, but is that what you really want. Don't you really want to get back whats gone missing in your marriage, the fun, the making love to the one you love. Well why don't you do something to bring back just that. When was the last time you bought your wife some flowers, when was the last time you took her out for a romantic dinner. Romance your wife, maybe she is missing all this her self. Try doing this; What have you got to lose, but if it works, you and your wife have everything to gain. Work on it and bring back that forgotten spark. good luck to you both
2007-07-20 12:56:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is life over for a man at 45? I sure hope not or I've been dead now for a number of years. As far as your other situation. If you truly feel this way and have exhausted all conversations and hopes with your wife, then the only thing that I could suggest is for you to follow your heart. Cheating is in no way an answer though. If you really believe that another woman is the answer, then do the right thing first. I believe that you know what that is.
2007-07-20 19:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can imagine how frustrating it must be for a men to not be taken care about his needs....you should try to have a SERIOUS talk with your wife, and if you see you cannot do it alone, try a marriage counselor, because i think this is a very serious issue.Does your wife live in this world?any woman knows men need sex com'on....But try to think also what you would loose if you betray all your family because of this need???would your life be better???maybe in a few minutes it would make you satisfied but after a while it would turn in a worst HELL than now, believe me...and do you want to spend the last of your days ALONE?if you're a christian talk to a pastor or pray God.It helps a lot.God bless you!
2007-07-20 19:46:30 · answer #3 · answered by Rute A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We need to enjoy life for sure. Not everyday of life is enjoyable, or never will be. But if your not happy you need to get some happiness. And no cheating isn't it.
Have you sat down and talked all this out with her ? All your feelings about life together ? Because that , your lives together needs to be addressed before you make a decision. Maybe things can change.
But first you need to sit down and really think what you want out of life. Does she make you happy ? Do you think you could go on without her to make a new life. You need to weigh these things out first. Then sit down and talk.
Sometimes the grass isn't always greener on the other side...... and then sometimes it is. It's all what we make of it.
2007-07-20 19:48:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mid life crisis brewing with the stale coffee?
There are ways to spice up the sex life.
There are many avenues for help.
Be creative. Boring is as boring does!
Married 20 years, there must be something good in the mix.
Children are a precious commodity. Should you lose them,
you will find a hole in your heart.
Don't give up.
2007-07-20 19:48:02 · answer #5 · answered by Randy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeh, I know you only got one life to live but how much do you love and appreciate your partner? How could you really replace such a constant companion? You probably need couple's therapy because you need sex and she ought to find a way to satisfy you. If she refuses, maybe the marraige really is over. At least give it a try first. If she wants to keep you, she will probably try anything, if she doesn't love you, she will understand why you must go and help you pack.
2007-07-20 19:45:40 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your wife try counseling if that doesnt work do what makes you happy. You only have one life I think you should be happy.
2007-07-20 19:45:23 · answer #7 · answered by Wandering Jenni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question. What you reqally are asking for is approval. So, I will approve of any choice you make. Now go make a choice.
2007-07-20 19:42:38 · answer #8 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 25 M and sexually active and might marry soon to the right person and I am afraid if my partner don't like it, than what shall I do. Any advice please.
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2007-07-24 11:25:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋