Ok...here it is...my family hates the father...I mean, hate him!!!...I need to tell my 3 brothers and my mom...the only ones that know are my grandmother, and a couple of my friends. I need a VERY good idea to tell them. I know they wont like the idea of him being the father...but I also know they wont turn their backs on me and they will support me and help me all the way...I just need the right way to tell them.Thanks
2007-07-20 11:17:35 · 24 answers · asked by .^_^. 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I just need the advice...I dont need any stupid, useless, sarcastic comments...if you are not here to help...what the hell are you here for???...This baby was planned...and Im very happy about it...dont need your stupid comments!!!
2007-07-20 11:23:54 · update #1
and to those of you that are leaving good advice....THANK YOU!!!...really!!
2007-07-20 11:24:54 · update #2
I would think first about why they hate your partner - is it a valid reason (ie he is abusive, has done wrong by your family, or you etc) or is it more because they are worried for you as to whether he will treat you right or hurt you. This may be a good chance to address whatever concerns they have about him and hopefully start to accept him.
About telling them, I would sit them down and say something like "We've been planning for a while to try and have a baby, and have some great news to share..."
Make sure you mention it was planned.
2007-07-20 14:39:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that you are expecting a baby and you are happy about it and that you are sorry they do not like the father but this is your life and your decisions. They will have to respect the fact that he is the father and not say negative things about him in front of this precious child. I made a mistake and did not tell my family I was pregnant for five and a half months when my first son was born. My mother was very sad that I kept it from her. They hated my sons dad and would not come to my little wedding but once the baby was born they were thrilled to be grandparents. Babies have a way of bringing everyone together. Best of luck.
2007-07-20 11:31:00 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My niece walked into the room where her mom, dad, grandma and I were playing cards and said hi grandma hi great grandma. Since it was a first grandchild for her parents they were thrilled by the time her husband got in the room we were calling everyone they had ever known. Her parents like her husband so that is better that hate but even if they hated him they would love the grandchildren. Her parents had found a perfect baby gift on vacation so told her they were ready for grandkids so this was excellent news. They had a boy when my brother wanted a granddaughter so they had a second one three years later.
2007-07-20 11:28:07 · answer #3 · answered by shipwreck 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a little confused. You said in your added comment that the baby was planned. If it was planned, and you are not a minor living under their roof, just happily tell them that your plan has worked and you are very happy.
As far as hating the father, well, they aren't in a relationship with him, you are...
If you are a minor and are expecting your mother to help support the additional person, well, don't expect them to ever be happy, no matter how ou break it to them....
Congratulations...
2007-07-20 11:32:03 · answer #4 · answered by BuckarooBanzai 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them. I would say something Like , Mom and Dad , Fred and I are having a baby, isnt that wonderful ? (use the fathers real name or they will be confused :-) )
You left out if you are married or at least living with the father. That makes a difference to how I would handle it .
Good luck .
2007-07-20 11:34:27 · answer #5 · answered by mark 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For one of my kids, I gave my Mom and Dad a gift bag with a little baby (brag book) photo album let them figure it out. They were so excited!
My last baby, we had our older son where a shirt that said "I'm going to be a big brother!" That was alot fun!
Just get creative and focus on the baby now! I hope you take care of yourself and your relationship w/the father because it will all affect the baby in every way!
Congratulations and best wishes!
2007-07-20 11:22:57 · answer #6 · answered by Buff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you love the father, then they will have no other choice but to love him too! When I told my parents about me being pregnant the were mad... but after a while they got excited and started to buy baby things.... Maybe if you it down with all of them an explain to them that you know he will be a good father....If you think he will be then there opinion doesn't matter.
2007-07-20 11:29:47 · answer #7 · answered by shay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with buntis. If you are very early into your pregnancy, I wouldn't tell your family yet. Miscarriage is relatively high within your first 3 months, so working your family up won't do any good if you lose the baby. After 3 months, your rate of miscarriage significantly decreases to approximately 1%, at which time, I think it would be more appropriate to tell your family, and then deal with it then. I think they might take it a bit better once you tell them you're already 3 months along. You might be surprised at how they react. Good luck with everything.
2007-07-20 11:26:56 · answer #8 · answered by kittykates78 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell them. I'm not one for on-purpose "accidental" slips of the tongue or vague hints.
You don't have to be out of your mind ecstatic when you do, so as not to be "rubbing it in" in their eyes. But, if your mom loves you even a little,(and I'm sure she loves you a lot), hearing the words "Mom, I'm having a baby!" are prolly still the most wonderful words a mother can hear.
I liked the waiting past 3 mo. thing...if you can do it. I'll be calling my mom from the Dr's office, but if it's going to be stressful, you could wait.
2007-07-20 11:48:00 · answer #9 · answered by Dj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that youre pregnant you love the father and you are happy with your decisions and they should be too. Tell them they have to be civil because he is gonna be in the family for a while lol.
2007-07-20 11:22:08 · answer #10 · answered by justme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋