she gets child support alimony the children the house and hubby gets slapped with child support/alimony, but when a stay at hom dad divorces, she still gets child support the children the house and hubby gets slapped with child support, which he can pay off the minimum wage job he gets aftet beeing out of the work force over a long time. (note standard divorce no abuse on the side of the husband included)
2007-07-20 10:57:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/femail/article.html?in_article_id=467390&in_page_id=1879
2007-07-20 11:03:06 · update #1
Does that mean men who give up their job and career for a woman are terminally stupid ?
2007-07-20 11:04:21 · update #2
NO study shows that there have only been studies that show that men on average make more money than women, thats because they major in rocket science and the like and not in womens studies.
2007-07-20 11:11:50 · update #3
Ms. Average Joe the tables arent turned, thats the whole point. Stay at home mome divorces she gets kids and recieves child support.
Stay at home dad divorces he looses the kids and has to pay child support. How are the tables turned ?
2007-07-20 11:23:28 · update #4
GeriGeri what point are you trying to make by pointing out that Iam angry about those facts ? Of course Iam angry. I lost you. What are you trying to say ?
Do you go to rape victims and tell them "oh you are just angry you have been raped ?".
2007-07-20 23:22:11 · update #5
Lilabner no need to feel sad for me. I havent been in that situation nor do I intend to be. Iam tired of whining too though like the whining of the hookers that think Iam some kind of whimp they can confined to how they have been beaten into submission.
2007-07-21 14:38:16 · update #6
Inequality goes both ways. It should be the most capable, fit parent, whether the father or the mother, who gets custody of the kids, and it should be the one who was/is the breadwinner in the relationship who should pay child support and alimony, imho.
2007-07-20 11:02:02 · answer #1 · answered by Meow 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
It is the way the court is set up. The hard thing with this is that you cant have a different law for everybody, so in order to make the court run more smoothly they have to generalize and run by a standard guideline. In this case women as a whole tend to be the care givers, so the court sides with them in order to get to the next case. Then if the dad wants custody he has the option of going through other courts where they will acutally listen to a case.
The real think I would like to point out to a lot of people is this:
Notice how despite the fact that these couples made a joint decision to have the man embrace the female role it ended up failing because the woman didnt like the situation.
It goes to show that you cant fight nature, and biology and nature. Genderoles have been created through thousands of years and a few decades of open-mindedness will not fix it. On the surface these couples were open, but deep down the women became unattracted to the femininity of these men. You cant fight nature and expect to win.
2007-07-20 11:29:41 · answer #2 · answered by kcbf 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Look at the brighter side, alimony is tax deductible and she has to pay taxes on it. If she has never been employed then in the South East (I know for sure) she gets alimony. Here in the west it is an oh well. I had had it after 18 years and left him, he cleaned my clock because I trusted him--dumb me oh and I paid child support so my daughter could finish her last year of school in our home and I paid him half of the house payment while she and he lived there and I was in a rental across town. It is a two way street--I have listened to men whine for the past 35 years and frankly my dear you are starting to make me sick. I never whined once I did my best to succeed. A good friend of mine owned a bar and I used to go in to visit with her and the minute a few men got together the topic was how they got beat out of everything. How very sad I am for you.
2007-07-21 12:26:03 · answer #3 · answered by lilabner 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Te man should have had child custody. I don't understand why the judge didn't give it to him, since he was a stay-at-home and the woman was making the money.
Other than that, I don't understand why the article emphasized the fact that he was doing most of the housework and things like that. That's what stay-at-home people do. The article made it sound as if what he went through was way different from what stay-at-home mothers experience when they get a divorce. He just kept on whining. Maybe he now feels what women feel when they are at home and are not recognized as doing things for the family. I'm not saying it's good. I just don;t understand why the article emphasized that point.
Divorces are difficult, we know that. And, yes, HE should have gotten child custody.
2007-07-20 11:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by Offkey 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
While the court system is very slowly getting better it is still geared to the female and male role as dictated in the 1950's. Plus with all the problems with dead beat dads that don't pay the child support it has gotten worse in some areas.
2007-07-20 11:02:25 · answer #5 · answered by The Druid 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
i know it is insane my father didn't support me my son's father didn't support him but when he got a wife and they had 2 kids she was cheating on him and took drugs and the grandparents have the kids now only because neither of us have a house of our own and yet she is off somewhere with another man having the other man's kid and still collecting court ordered child support hr rarely gets to see his children and i have only seen them once for the amount of 3 hours, cause of travel distance.
2007-07-20 11:14:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is disturbing that the courts aren't keeping up with society and innocent men have to suffer. What is even more disturbing is how many men will have to end like the men in the story and be completely ruined before people demand change.
2007-07-20 15:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by Chuckwalla 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow, you are some angry person! I assume this just happened to you or someone you know. I also noted that you asked this same question a few hours ago and a lot of others about women/wives and feminism.
Maybe a better place to go would be a talk forum about this very thing and your feelings. The site below has a number of forums...for divorced people, stay at homes, single parents..
It couldn't hurt to check it out and maybe you can connect with someone there or find sites with forums that give you a place to vent. (((-:
2007-07-20 12:04:54 · answer #8 · answered by GeriGeri 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I agreed with the above: society still sticks to old fashioned beliefs in many ways. Women have made a point of trying to stop the stereotype, unfortunately men are getting left behind (in my opinion) due to the lack of victimization for men. It's time for both men & women to step up and stop all of these types of discrimination.
2007-07-20 11:25:07 · answer #9 · answered by June 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Because gender equality doesn't exist. There are localized pockets of misogyny and a wider, more prevalent, more pervasive system of misandry. Ironically, the misconception that women are the weaker gender is probably fueling this dangerous trend ("aww she's weaker, let's give her the house!"). Women, for their part, need to realize that they are not privileged babies and should work for what they want.
2007-07-20 11:02:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋