I cant stand her. She doesnt do anything but upset me. She doesnt cook and all she does is complain. I havent been able to finish a sentence in years. My wife brings me to the point of infuriation till I just explode. Is it better to stay or go for the kids. What should I do.?
2007-07-20 10:11:52 · 40 answers · asked by roguetrader12002 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get marriage counseling - fast.
2007-07-20 10:14:32 · answer #1 · answered by oohhbother 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can try for the kids but that is an uphill battle which can be very difficult on the kids. If you really feel like professional counseling will not help then I have to advise you to seperate. If you stay in a relationship where you are constantly in a state of fustration then it is only a matter of time until you react and lash out. This can have devastating affects for family even more so than a divorce. So if professinal help is not an option then seperate and share custody so that you both can get some happiness in your lives and your children are not caught in the middle to two people they love making each other miserable.
2007-07-20 10:19:27 · answer #2 · answered by levindis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your wife control your happiness. I struggled with anger, but read some anger management books before you have a melt down, for real. Realize your wife has a ton of problems, but she is not perfect, and no one will make you happy 100% of the time. You will end up in a mental hospital or arrested if you don't get the anger feelings under control.
Unfortunately, chances are she would have a laundry list of things she is pissed at you about too, so you both need to improve your marriage at the same time or else this crapola will never stop. You will have a better life in the long run if you do this.
Stay in it for the kids, read some good marriage books. Bill Harley is the best, he actually tells women they have to try to look hot for their husbands, have sex, and cook & clean for them, but the guy has to put in too.
2007-07-20 10:19:05 · answer #3 · answered by David S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out for a while. Just stay with a relative or friend. A lot of times we don't realize what we have till its gone. Keep your conscience clean of any guilt. The respect seems to leave many relationships. Its awful. Believe me its not better for the kids when they are thinking this is the way a LOVING relationship is supposed to be. Pray for the right path and you will find it.
2007-07-20 10:17:18 · answer #4 · answered by New Nana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very frustrated. You need to get couples counseling so a third party can make suggestions. Do not start the conversation with her because it will end in an argument. Make an appt. with a counselor, then sit her down and tell her when it is, and that you want to discuss some issues in your marriage. Then do not discuss it until you meet with the counselor. DO NOT LET THINGS STAY AS THEY ARE. You have to take the first step toward happiness. Your marriage can be saved... and happy! Good luck!
2007-07-20 10:16:32 · answer #5 · answered by wondering 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT FAST!!!!! The kids will be just fine. If you stay with this person and argue all the time then the damage to the kids is worse. Build a home with someone who has an endless supply of faith, cheer, love, and all the other good stuff. Eliminate the bad Accentuate the good.
2007-07-20 10:57:03 · answer #6 · answered by Joseph L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The undesirable information is, your spouse is possibly using an identical form of drugs. Pregnant or not. My son's women individuals did an identical element. She left all her babies neglected, just to grasp around with a stripper and do drugs. The drug used replace into Meth. they're going to kiss the devil for Meth, and out of your tale that's such as ours. This women individuals in our family contributors missed her guy, babies, living house and self. She looks like a hooker. She isn't sparkling and values her low lifestyles chum greater then her very own invaluable babies. in the journey that your spouse would not end and you sense drugs are at the back of her behaviour, then pass on your Courthouse and have your spouse committed. She isn't making stable alternatives. If she gets mad and storms away, there is something available that she is addicted to. Being she is pregnant, she needs to make greater suitable alternatives. i'm hoping that's not Meth.
2016-10-22 04:42:03 · answer #7 · answered by prebor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a problem yourself. You need some marriage counseling so you can find out her side of the story. You married her for a reason, and now you say that you cannot stand her.. what a trip. There is a communication problem in your marriage. Go get some professional help first and see what happens then.
2007-07-20 10:18:27 · answer #8 · answered by slither22a 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your kids need to see happy functional parents and they will definitely pick up on your non-verbal cues. Later in life they will model just what they saw their parents do which probably won't be a good thing. Staying just for the kids will be detrimental to them you and their mother just can't get along.
If you want to try counseling, try that. If not, consult with your attorney fast as to what your options would be concerning custody, visitation, child support, etc.
2007-07-20 10:26:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're that unhappy, you should go regardless of the kids. You'll both get to see and spend time with the kids.. you just won't be in the same home. If you want to work it out then you have to tell your wife how you feel, if she doesn't change then maybe it's time to depart.
2007-07-20 10:28:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried counseling?? You know if you did/do try that and cannot get anywhere then I would say it is better to walk away. (my opinion) That is not healthy for you or the kids to be so upset all the time. I really think you should try to get thru to her though about what she does wrong and maybe she can work on it.
2007-07-20 10:16:05 · answer #11 · answered by ♥ Nikkee D ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋