If a wife doesnt work and a husband does..Is it their money or just his..My mom says its both of their money..Sometimes hubby says "my money" and i will say something and he said he is only joking..My mom said if my dad had said that to her she would have smacked him lol.
2007-07-20 10:05:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No matter who makes the money it should be "both"
2007-07-20 10:10:21 · answer #1 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Legally in many places, the money belongs to both of you equally. But I don't think your issue is what the law is if you were to divorce, it's more what your husband's attitude is in your relationship. If you're not working because you stay at home with children or you're going to school, then you're making a valuable contribution to your marriage without bringing home a pay cheque. Your husband should respect that. I'm sure it was a decision that you made together. If it bothers you that he seems to feel entitled to have control over the money simply because he's earned it, then you need to talk to him and bring it all out in the open.
2007-07-20 17:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a marriage, everything should be shared. If you wash the dishes, does that mean he can't eat off of them? If you do the laundry, would he have any clothes to wear?
He may be just joking, though. My hubby says that sometimes, but he usually corrects himself, w/ a silly look on his face. But, my paycheck goes into savings, and he calls that "my money" (as in me, the wife) too! i think of it as shared money....even though my paychecks extra, and way less than what he makes.
2007-07-20 17:30:19 · answer #3 · answered by Dj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a marriage, everything belongs to the couple jointly. Meaning the money is both of yours, same with the car, the house, etc. The courts prove that every time they split everything in half during divorces.
2007-07-20 17:09:33 · answer #4 · answered by Tony S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Technically, it's his money but he's supporting you. He should give you a weekly allowance. Let him decide how much he can give you per week to spend on things you need such as groceries. If your husband gives you say $30 per week, that is "your money". It is not fair to your husband to say his whole paycheck is both of your money. Your allowance is your money. That is only fair. If you say that his whole paycheck is yours and his money, that sounds like you are saying that it is fine for you to do what you want when you want when it comes to spending. You shouldn't think that you can just go spend $1000 at the mall. If your weekly allowance is $1000, then sure. But I doubt you're rich. Financial problems are the biggest reason for divorce. Be careful and manage money well.
2007-07-20 17:13:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
In my opinion, it depends. For instance, if I'm a fireman and I make 75k a year and the wife is taking care of the kids then fine, it's ours. If I'm an executive making 75 million a year and wife is at home with the kids and the nanny, we got a different issue.
2007-07-20 17:20:35 · answer #6 · answered by Chris D 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't talk to you mother about these matters, talk to your husband. Work things out between yourselves, don't drag other family members into your private matters.
Hint: Money is private.
2007-07-20 17:10:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its both of yours. How incredibly selfish. I am assuming you talked with each other about you staying home...Possibly to raise children....if on the other hand you stay home because you are lazy or don't want to work and have no children...then it is his money in my opinion.
2007-07-20 17:10:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is both of your money. You, presumably are providing your husband and children with a warm home, good food, stimulating conversations and (hopefully) hotter nights than he could have dreamed. It is definitely both of your money.
I have had to deal with this before and it makes me LIVID. He asked me to stay home with our 4 young children. It is our home, our money, our children. Ours.
2007-07-20 17:13:19 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda h 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
both of your money,
men joke in a way woman cant understand it,, next time he says it,, circle your pubic area and say,, well your money this is the no-no region, and it is going to cost some of your money to enter
2007-07-20 17:08:25 · answer #10 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋