My son and his then girlfreind split up he was going out with a new partner i had contact with my grandson since the minute he was born i was at the birth looked after him then my sons girlfreind stopped us from seeing him when he was nearly two havent seen him since ive been given leave of contact at the moment it is so hard and takes me a long time i dont know what happens next thanks for all youre kind anawers.
2007-07-20 09:22:14 · 16 answers · asked by michelle h 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
you can go to court and file for grandparents rights.
2007-07-20 09:28:49 · answer #1 · answered by adrianne M 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
That is so hard! BIG HUGS for you. But it may be shes very mad at the father and don't want her child to have anything to do with him. Write her a letter be nice, ask her if its okay you take her and your grandson out to the park or dinner or something. Try to include her in it all. She just might be scared of you taking her child and she loseing him becuase of the court or who knows what. My sister went through this and was feeling the same way. He was an abuser and she was very scared. His parents had no idea but his mom kept up with nice cards and letters and my sister did let her come to see him but in a public place. They would meet at some place then go somewheres else. This might not be what is going on but this is how it is for my sister.
2007-07-20 16:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by jammero69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your son asserts his rights then you will be able to see your grandson...if your son doesnt make a stand or doesnt want to make the effort then unfortunately thats it..it would be very diffuclt for all concerned including the mum and the child that as some fathers (bu not all) neglect responsibility for the child but then the family of the father expect some sort of contact...it would be hard on both the mother and the child...
2007-07-20 16:32:37 · answer #3 · answered by Pandora 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know this is hard for you. My heart goes out to you. Please keep in contact with the child and his Mother. Call her up just to talk, send her cards, etc. I am not telling you to suck up, just treat her as you would if she was still with your son. Give her some time to get over her anger, and be as supporting as you can be. I am in a different situation with the same result; We recently discovered that the children I have loved for more than 11 years are not my son's biological children. His wife was cheating during the entire marriage, and another man fathered the children. My son, needless to say, is hurt and angry, and at this point, I am not able to see the children. I am keeping up with them, I write them, send gifts, and cards, and I talk to them when I can. No matter whose sperm is in the mix, these are my Grandchildren, I am hopeful that once my son has time to think, he will come to the conclusion that he is the father in every way except biological.
I will include you in my prayers when I pray for this situation to be resolved in the way that is best for the children.
2007-07-20 16:54:21 · answer #4 · answered by meowqueen1953 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to ring or write to the Mum, and explain your feelings for your grand child, and your wishes to still be able to see him.
Even suggest if it makes her feel better that you go to her house for visits, that way she can feel safe & secure, But Dont even mention your son, If your son wants contact then it is up to him to arrange that with her.
She is most proberly hurting and that is why she has acted this way.
I know how she feels as it is exactly the same as me & my Ex, and after i had got over our break up i got in touch with his parents and they come see my children every couple of weeks even though i have nothing to do with my ex.
It does take time and she may feel awkward about things so just go with the flow.
Hope this is of some help to you.
2007-07-20 19:02:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can go to Court and make an application for contact as the grandparent. I am assuming you are in the UK. If you contact the Court nearest you they will tell you want the procedure is.
There are mediation services around the country if you would rather not go to court they may be able to help try looking on Google for a mediation service in your area.
The other option is CAFCASS (Children and Family Court Advisory Support Service) most of their offices have duty officers on ask to speak to one and discuss contact with them. They should be able to explain the process to you.
2007-07-20 16:33:57 · answer #6 · answered by BigMomma2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is "leave of contact" I looked it up but didn't find it. If that means that you have received legal permission to have contact then the mom does have to allow you to see him but she is probably not required to make it easy. Apparently you and his mom got along OK at one point. If you don't know what happened to change that why not ask her. If you do ask how you can make it better. Of course you would be inclined to side with your own son that's natural but she is your grandchild'smom and if you and she can be friends that will make his life better and your own too. So be as gentle as you can and as kind as you can. It is possible that she wants him to think of a new husband or BF as his daddy and if that is the man who is playing the daddy role in his life that makes some sense.
2007-07-20 17:03:02 · answer #7 · answered by A F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually grandparents have visitation rights and these can be obtained by going to see a solicitor. I would try writing to her first and tell her how much she is hurting you and that she isn't being fair to you or the child- i hate these girls who don't think about the hurt they are causing. We have a new grand daughter- my partners first- that we haven't been allowed to see and it really is painful for him. But you can take her to court for visitation- it has been done many times.
2007-07-20 16:33:57 · answer #8 · answered by Ellie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure what state you live in but in some states there are paternal grandparents rights. if you wanted to pay (which i am sure you would) you could take her to court to gain visitation of your grandson.
hopefully your son is fighting for his paternal rights! because has his father he does have them!!!
GOod luck and i will say a little prayer for you
2007-07-20 16:45:32 · answer #9 · answered by 3 girls call me mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know where they live perhaps you could send the mum a letter explaining how you feel. If you are UK based you may find these websites helpful
http://www.frg.org.uk/index.asp
http://www.peterboroughtoday.co.uk/ViewArticle.aspx?SectionID=845&ArticleID=1317291
Good luck, my heart goes out to you.
2007-07-20 16:40:54 · answer #10 · answered by luigi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation, but the child will be the real loser. Where does your son stand in all of this?
2007-07-20 16:26:34 · answer #11 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋