2007-07-20 09:12:17 · 13 answers · asked by medra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
in order to move on u have to accept it, because if he doesn't love u anymore and tells u so, your chasing nothing and keeping yourself tied to a man who is already gone. have a little self respect and let him go, leave with your dignity. u can still love him but its just going to hurt u to stay with him. u deserve love back, and he doesn't want to give it to u. sometimes its hard to accept things when we still love that person, but if someone told me they did not love me anymore i wouldn't stay and hope it would ever change. let him go and move on even if its hard because it will be much harder on u to stay where your not loved or cherished.
2007-07-20 13:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe what you loved wasn't real in the first place , and if he was all you thought he was, and seemed to be he wouldn't have told you he doesn't love you any more. It takes time to let go of a dream.
2007-07-20 09:19:47 · answer #2 · answered by fuzzykitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know from personal experience that you just can not stop loving him. I have been there with my ex-husband. It hurt me really bad to have him say this to me, but my feelings for him outweighed the feelings he said he didn't have for me. I still have feelings for him to this day, and still love and care about him. He had wanted to get back together at one point, but it was too late. I couldn't trust him to be in a relationship with him again.
2007-07-20 09:19:14 · answer #3 · answered by Lil's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how your feeling. i went through the same thing, and no matter what anyone says or tells you what they would do, it won't help. the only thing that makes it go away is time, that's it. getting with someone right away, i think , is the worst thing to do. god, i remember those horrible days of just thinking of them all day, everyday. but i promise you it will go away in time, and you can and will meet someone else, and love them the same if not more. don't give up you will be happy one day!
2007-07-20 09:35:31 · answer #4 · answered by BLAINE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
knowing that he doesn't love you is an issue about 'today'. He can certainly fall in love with you again.
At the beginning of a relationship, your body produces a lot of hormones that make you sexually aggressive and later those hormones are replaced with kind of a 'snuggle' hormone.
If you want him to fall in love again, make him reconnect by acting like you did when you first fell in love. Act out the intense desire to be around him and especially a high level of sexual desire.
I don't know a guy who would not fall for a woman who would rock his world in bed. Yes, we are shallow, but it's actually an advantage to you.
I don't love my wife anymore, but I hang around in the hopes that she will act like she did when we met... the way she acts now... no one would want her. She threatened to go to the bar to get a guy to sleep with her and spent the day getting ready... if she did that for me... I would fall all over again... getting the half-hearted leftovers of the day wouldn't make anyone fall in love...
how much effort do you really put into attracting him sexually, emotionally and socially? Do you put as much in as you once did...
If not, don't expect him to act like you are.
2007-07-20 09:28:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even consider sticking around after he's told you that he doesnt love you anymore. Get out of that relationship and move on with your life.
2007-07-20 09:22:25 · answer #6 · answered by Frenchie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never just stop loving the person, they will always have a place in your heart. Even when someone you love does you wrong. But you do go on and life will continue and eventually you forgive and heal and eventually find somebody new who is more compatible with you.
2007-07-20 09:17:50 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Broken hearts are horrible. But they do mend with time. The best that you can do is get out and live your life. Try to remember that there are others out there who would be a better match for you. One day, when you are ready, you will find someone else who will love you back.
2007-07-20 09:20:16 · answer #8 · answered by Sophie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't try to keep loving a man that didn't love me.
2007-07-20 09:16:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is let him go and pray to God (Jesus) about it. Tell God you want to put him first and live a Christian life with a Christian Man who will never be unfaithful and break your heart.
Mean it....and God may send you back your same husband with a very changed heart and attitude, but only if you mean it.
2007-07-20 09:18:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋