i'm 16 and pregnant but i don't know how to tell my parents.?

Question

i'm sixteen yrs old and i live with my parents. i'm pregnant and i wanna tell them but i don't know how. plz help me.

Answer 1

Hey. Try these links for some ideas. The 2nd one has some good advice.

http://www.pregnancy-info.net/teenage_breakingthenews.html
http://www.girl-mom.com/node/122

I would just add that keep in mind how much your parents already know about your sexual activity. Do they have any idea? Do they know the guy? Is he around your age or older? How old was your mom when she first got pregnant?This information will affect the way they react.

Also, do you plan on keeping the pregnancy? Would you consider adoption? How are you going to finish school? Can your parents support another child?

Ideally, your parents will not be mad at you and only want the best for you. They will probably be disapointed, but hopefully not mad. I pray for you that you do not have an abusive family that would hurt you because of this info. If you do, then please go to a support system (http://www.plannedparenthood.org/).

With or without your parents help please do your best to have a healthy pregnancy for yourself and the baby. As a teen mother you will have increased needs because your body is still developing as well. Check out these resources in addition to plannedparenthood.
http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/emotions/pregnancy.html
http://pregnancy.about.com/cs/teenpregnancy/a/teenpreg.htm

Lastly, if you do plan on being a teen mom, please do not lose sight of your career goals. You will have an extra challenge no doubt, but in order to provide a better life for you and your baby you NEED to continue your education. Do not let pregnancy or having a baby stop you. Please also, consider being on birth control so that you do not continue to add to your family before you are ready.

Good luck and best wishes.

Answer 2

Get ya game face on girl! I had my first baby at 19 and I know there is a big difference but I think your best bet it to come up with a plan on paper...like a 5 year plan. Start with how you will finish school. A lot of schools will do a home bound program for someone who is pregnant. Can your bf's mom or cousin or aunt or anyone watch the baby during the day? If so, there is your childcare for when you go to school. Include the BF in the plan like where he will work and how he will finish school. You are still their baby and your going to be loved by them no matter what. This will probably be the hardest thing you will ever do but it will also be the most rewarding and even though they may seem upset when you tell them, when that little bundle shows up they will be wrapped around its finger, lol! Just keep your cool and stay firm in your choices, just approach them like adults with your plan in hand. Good Luck momma!!

Answer 3

Tell them that you were careful (which you weren't but they don't need to know that - just say the condom came off accidently) but you got pregnant.

How long have you been pregnant - or do you just think you might be? If it's just been a few days then you can use the morning-after pill. Otherwise it's a choice between abortion or going through with it. If you choose the first option then do NOT delay - the sooner the better. If you decide to have a baby then you are going to need financial support; maybe your boyfriend will be around but don't count on it, you probably won't see him for dust when he finds out.

Tell your parents TODAY; there is no "right time" and you've got to get the matter resolved immediately.

Good luck, I'm sure everyone here hopes you'll be okay.

Answer 4

Find a quiet time, tell them that it is important for you to talk with them, sit them down and tell them. Be prepared that they will be shocked at first. You're going to need the strength to keep a level head. You'll need to let them know that you understand that you made a mistake and that you are accepting responsibility for that mistake. If they are good parents, they will love you unconditionally. . . and that means through the good times and the bad. They can be your best advocates, if you all keep level headed minds and not let emotion overcome good judgment. Above all, don't run from this. And don't lie or be deceptive in any way to them. You need their trust now, so it would not be wise to do anything to erode that trust. Seek their help and support. You're going to need it. Together, you're also going to need to hold your boyfriend accountable too. Both of you need to be accountable. That will involve being open and courageous. Don't try to go it alone though. You need your parents' help. So just talk to them. And good luck.

Answer 5

I agree with the majority of the people that have answered.

The best (and sometimes what seems like the hardest) thing to do is tell them as soon as possible.

I'm sure they'll be upset and may react by being angry at first. What you have to try to understand is the anger is not necessarily directed at you.

As parents, most of us think we should be able to protect our children from all the hurt and pain the world has to offer.
Frequently when something happens that we are unable to control, we are frustrated and it unfortunately comes out as anger.

They may be able to control themselves but just in case they can't Please keep in mind that your parents are only human, most people come to terms with things that happen after a little time to think it through. so be prepared if this is the case here.

They love you and I'm sure they'll do there best to help you in anyway they can.

Good Luck

Answer 6

Hi,
I am 17 years old going to be 18 in November and am going to be a senior in high school.I am pregnant as well.It is going to be hard for me,I know,but you can't give up.I remember telling my parents and I was so nervous I had no idea how to tell them! So my mom and I went on a walk together and then I told her,she was very disapointed in me and I felt terrible.But she told my Dad and he was mad too.But now they are both used to it and so am I.Everything will be just fine but please make the most of education and stay in school! I mean you can always go back to school but why bother if you have made it this far? You'll be fine don't worry.

If you need someone to talk to please feel free to e-mail me at [e-mail]

Good luck!
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Answer 7

This is a tough one. I was 21 when i got pregnant and was terrified to tell my parents then. I really admire your courage for wanting to go to your parents for help. I think that shows that you want what's best for you and your baby already. Your half way there already though you decided you want to tell them now you just have to do it. If you have a relative or a family friend
( preferably another adult) you can tell first, that could be a good way to let your parents know. This way the aunt or uncle or friend can help give you support while you tell your parents. He/she can also then act as a mediator in case things escalate.
i wish you all the best you are in my prayers. Again i really admire your courage to tell your parents.

Answer 8

Hey hun. I know how you feel. I got pregnant when i was 15!! i turned 16 while i was pregnant. when i finally told my mom i was 2 1/2 months into it, and the strees ended up with me miscarrying the next day. talk to your boyfriend if you have one,a dn ask him to go with you to tell your parents. or just sit your parents down and ask to talk to them. they will be upset but if you make your intentions clear and don twant to get an abortion, then tell them straight up that you wont get one. other then that you need to tell them. they can take you to a doctor and get the care you and the baby both need. without it the baby will die, and in some cases you could too. tell them and ask for help.

Answer 9

for the health of your unborn child, you have to just tell them straightforward. get your boyfriend [?] and tell the parent you're closer to first. then maybe have that parent tell the other parent at a later time in the day. you need to tell someone soon so you can get prenatal care right away...that's definitely not something you want to put off. i was 17 when i got pregnant and my mom was pissed off...but now she can't imagine life without her granddaughter...she's almost 3 and they're inseperable. everything will turn out for the best. good luck to you and congratulations :]

Answer 10

"Mom, Dad, I have something important to tell you. I made a mistake- I'm pregnant. You're probably really disappointed in me right now. I know that now is the time to step up and take responsibility, and I plan to follow through. But you have no idea how much I would appreciate your support."

I hope it goes well! Feel free to email me any time.
<3 Kelsey