A white woman grabbed me and called me a ngga?

Question

during sex.

after saying "oh sht, oh sht, oh sht" . she finally let out "dmn ngga!"

then she said "oops" but I was too busy to even bother with addressing that.

When it was over, she apologized. again and again. Even though I have never heard her use that word before. I use it all the time, so I wasn't offended by her. It wasn't until she said "oops" that it had even occurred to me what had happened.

but the fact that she keeps apologizing bothers me more than what she said. what do I tell her?

glitterdiva - lol ..... yeah probably so.

no we are not a couple.

Answer 1

My guess is that she's probably just afraid that she may have offended you. I can't say I blame her since so many people pee their pants over the word. Just let her know that there's no need to apologize since you aren't offended, and explain why (that you realize the difference between using the word in a racist manner and not using the word in a racist manner).

I completely disagree with those who are making race an issue. If a person is offended by the word regardless of who says it and regardless of the context in which it's used then fine... You have every right to express that you don't like the word, don't approve of it's use, and so on. However, those who are only offended when non-blacks use the word are racist. And please- enough with the term of endearment explanation. Is it ever used as a term of endearment? Of course it is. But anyone who claims that ALL blacks who use the word ALWAYS use it as a term of endearment is either clueless or lying. If a black person calls another black person a n*gga during an argument, is he/she showing affection? I think not. I noticed that only two people addressed the issue of other blacks using the word. Why? Because it's only unacceptable that the white woman said it? Why should HER race be an issue if you don't want YOUR race to be an issue? The color of someone's skin doesn't make a word positive or negative. The context in which it's used, the individual's attitude, and other factors are what determine whether the word's use is positive or negative. The meaning of a word doesn't change according to race. To think as such is just as ridiculous as believing that a word's meaning changes according to gender. Many women are offended when they hear men use the word "*****" while not being offended when they hear other women use the word (even when both women AND men have the same attitude and use it in the same context). This is nothing less than sexist. Accepting (or not accepting) the use of words based upon race or gender is not only racist/sexist, it's also extremely childish. To suggest that she must have "an underlying feeling" or that she's trying to be cool is nonsensical. No one else was present except for the asker and the white woman with whom he had intercourse. All we know is that the asker says he had sex with a white woman who called him a n*gga during sex and that she has continued to apologize for doing as such. So all assumptions being made are based solely upon the woman being white. Like I said, CHILDISH AND RACIST. Here ya go-- I'll say it too... N*GGA. Now have fun being children and giving me your racist psychological evaluations.

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Answer 2

Tell her that her repeated apologizing bothers you more than what she said. You still might have to actually say "I forgive you" before she'll stop apologizing. A kiss makes for a good attention getter if she won't stop. Like an ! that's life sized.

Answer 3

She keeps apologizing because she feels guilty (and rightfully so).

Tell her not to worry about it but not to let it happen again. The main concern to me is this is an underlying feeling that she has...how do you feel about that? I can't imagine calling a black man a ngga at all, much less during sex.

Answer 4

No. "Sweety" is condescending, while stated via some, in spite of the shown fact that it particularly isn't any longer quickly insulting. Calling a black guy boy is an on the spot insult, it particularly is derogatory in spite of the encompassing context. although, i'm optimistic Obama does no longer supply a sh*t in case you stated as him boy.

Answer 5

She's just afraid that you might be upset with her. She is only trying to make things better, because she knows she F*cked up. Just sit her down and be like, "Yo, what you said really wasn't a big deal. Its not like you meant it in a derogatory sense, you really don't have to apologize about it anymore, it was no big deal". I'm sure she will feel relieved that your not upset and that you forgave her.

Answer 6

You know you liked it! That was probably the biggest O you've ever had!

Still I'd never say it! I hate those white girls who do thinkin they're cool and down, tryin HARD to be excepted when in all they gonna get laughed at or beat the f*ck up!

Answer 7

You tell her that you're sorry for setting such a bad example! If she knows that there is something wrong with the word (unfortunately she sexualizes the slur) why are you using it? ☻

For the rest of you idiot men that cannot get past the sex part, calling black males the N-word is wrong whether it is done in the bedroom or cotton fields or even when called that by each other. So many of you are so egregiously stupid! :(

Answer 8

tell her to drop it one tends to say (and do) some mighty funky things when peaking, i'd share some moments myself but if the wife reads this she'd hurt me

Answer 9

Find you a new chick and stop taking advantage of those damn white women! lol

Answer 10

Sounds like you were hitting it pretty good!. Just let her know you want to hit again. And try to make her say it again!