I am a 23 year old male and I fell in love with my sister-in-law's cousin who is also my cousin by marriage becasue her cousin is my sister-in-law, so she and I are already cousins by marriage, and she is 35 and I am 23 and I wan't to marry her. She looks younger than she is. W have been going out and magicly I feel in love and now I wan't to purpose to her. Is this wrong. I'm the groom and I'm 23 and she is 35. Is this wrong?
2007-07-20 08:37:46 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Actually she is 38 not 35.
2007-07-20 08:38:45 · update #1
Alos she is my sister-in-law's cousin wich makes her my cousin by marriage so we are already related by marriage cause of that. Is that wrong too.
2007-07-20 08:43:08 · update #2
no, it's not wrong to marry your cousin in law. I think if she feels the same as you, go for it. I know two sisters who married each other's brother in law. It was pretty neat.
So sure you can marry the cousin in law. She is not blood related, so it would be ok
2007-07-20 08:46:18 · answer #1 · answered by deb2rule 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not wrong. I just hope she won't feel like she's raising a son after a while. If she's a strong leader, she may make you feel like she's the mother. But if you like that, it's great. Sometimes guys just have to have a strong leader in the relationship so they don't fall by the wayside or something. They just need this kind of mothering. Whereas the woman may not enjoy this type of relationship after a while because after she starts her family, she may get tired of having to take care and mother a much older person, her husband. Then again it might just be ok if both of you are the real mature type and one doesn't try to outdo the other one in a lot of ways. Then this could be a wholesome relationship. But you just never know these days what could become a relationship like this. It will look a little strange down the road when you are both old and she's already for the wheelchair and the nursing home and you're living your life to the fullest and she can't because of her age and illnesses she's sure to have by then. I think you could possibly take one of your kids with you since they will be grown by then and have some fun. But in the end it will be all left up to you what you really want to do.
2007-07-20 08:50:02 · answer #2 · answered by Mamapie2u 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, This is probably not what you want to hear but I think you should step back for a while and think on things. If it's meant to be it will be no matter how long you wait or whatever happens. If you still feel the same way a year from now and so does she then think about it again. Remember this is an important decision especially since it involves in law family relations. I see you're not related by blood so there's nothing really wrong with y'all hooking up it's just to soon to make a decision. Anyway give it time and good luck.
2007-07-20 08:46:53 · answer #3 · answered by Rose 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not necessarily wrong but certainly not something I would advise. You might be 23 but you wont really even start to truly grow up until you are 30 for a guy. You are of two totally different generations. Move on. Think 60 when you are 45.
2007-07-20 08:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by xartinu33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age is nothing, but you must have things in common.. which the age thing creates certain issues. The thing is that you are or think you are in love with a family member, even if it is a cousin. This is not normal. Try to find someone outside the family to fall in love with. So the answer is yes its all wrong.
2007-07-20 08:41:51 · answer #5 · answered by mahalga 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say more power to you Bro.My first wife was 14 years older than me before she past away.A couple of years later I married a beautiful woman that was 11 years younger than myself.Ten years later we are still happy as can be and still act like newlyweds!Its not the age of the person that matters.Its the heart....
2007-07-20 09:53:33 · answer #6 · answered by VROD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't wrong age doesn't matter at all. People who says age does matter is mainly when the children are like 16 thru 18 and they aren't using their brains. Your 23 and she's 35 you two are old enough to where other people's opinions shouldn't matter as long as you two are happy that's all that matters.
2007-07-20 09:30:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No that is not wrong. My wife is 8 yrs older then me and we have been happily married for over 9 yrs. I think if you both are at the same point in your lives and you love each other and have common interests then go ahead. Age should not be an issue if your compatible and love one another.
2007-07-20 08:52:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am 6 1/2 years older than my husband and it works well for us. He was 25 when we got married and I was 32. As long as you have had lots of experience already then I say yes. But if you are not experienced in relationships and set in your career than I would say no. Do you want kids? Lots to think about here.
2007-07-20 08:43:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with a summer/winter relationship when you're past 21 - however you have to look int the future - how is going to be when your 40, 50 years old will you still want to be with her?
2007-07-20 08:41:19 · answer #10 · answered by justaboutpeace 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋