Today I was in a minor accident. There was some crap on the I-95 and about 5 cars hit it. No real damage, just two new tires. I posted a question before about "Why does my wife bit** so much"?
Here I am on I-95 @5am. And she is hollering at me as if it's my fault!!
I really think it's time to get outta this crap before we kill each other!! I just can't keep this up anymore. I don't smile anymore and I just out and out hate her....but still love her....it's crazy!!!
Please I need all the help I can get. She tries to insult me and when I go back at her she goes balistic. She tries to get me infront of her friends and family and figures that Iw ill not say anything.....but she is sooooooooooo wrong. And then gets mad that I said something!!!!
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-20 08:13:37 · 23 answers · asked by IRSTAS 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
BTW......
No.....she never asked if I was ok. I got a tow to a tire place and did not have my debit card (i don't carry to work-just cash). I called and wanted to have her read the numbers off the card so I could pay. She never picked up the phone. Thankfully there was a Wachovis across from the place & I could get some cash. Of course she was mad that I took the cash out. But what the hell ya know??
I know she was upset because we are saving for vacation, but this was not my fault at all!!!!
I can't deal anymore. She works for a school so she is off during the summer. I have worked for the IRS for the past 18 years and am up by 4am. When 9pm rolls around, I am tired and need rest....she gets mad that I want to go up. Two weeks ago we spent the weekend at my bro-in-law's shore house. We had a great Sunday....I mean just perfect. I said, "Let's roll out of here by 8pm so if we do hit traffic we will still get in by 10. We didn't leave my bro-in-laws until 10:30!!
2007-07-20 09:33:21 · update #1
And of course they had to eat. Didn't get home until 1am & to sleep by 2am and up for work at 4am.....AND she got mad because I was mad!!!!. We were with her two sisters and those bitches and their fag husbands didn't even say..."Your husband needs to get up at 4, let's just go home". The women in this family rule. Her mom was the same way. These guys and her dad put up with this crap....I won't!!!
2007-07-20 09:35:41 · update #2
**SIGH**
I just went upstairs to get my keys to move my car & she started. "How much was it"??? I told her and she wanted to know where the change was. ($13.00) I told her that I gave it to the guy who fixed my car and she said that I need to pack a bag!
2007-07-20 10:21:10 · update #3
It doesn't sound like love to me. It sounds like you are whipping post for her to vent all her nasty sh*t. Life is too short to spend it with a spouse like this. I'd rather be single and on my own and at peace in my life, then have to deal with this garbage all the time. If she isn't willing to change her attitude, I think it is time to at least separate and get away from her for awhile and see how that goes.
2007-07-20 08:37:57 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This requires a SERIOUS heart to heart with her. Make sure you're both cooled off, and there are no interuptions. Tell her that you need her help. Sit her down and tell her this marriage is definately on the rocks and you want to know what you need to do to get this marriage back on track. Then be very quiet and let her talk, and listen. She'll also let you what the problems are . If she is unreasonable, and starts yelling, then what you need to do is pack a bag and leave for about a week. Trust me, it works, my husband had to do it to me. I was being VERY unreasonable and that was a huge wake up call. He tried to reason with me before he left , but I was a raving b*tch, and when he left I was so upset. Now, I handle things differently and we are closer than ever. We have been married 10 years, and this incedent happened at the 6 year mark.
I don't know all the history in your situation, so I hope this marriage is salvagable. Good luck...
2007-07-20 15:32:31 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By the urgency in your question and the panic from the exclamation marks, I'd say that it was time to move on. Your happiness is important!!! In a situation where your life was at risk you need to know that you're spouse cares about your physical well being. Not only that but you mentioned the word kill and that's a word that definitely signals the end of a relationship. There was a reason why you fell in love, but sometimes you can't keep that going. There will always be love and fond memories.
2007-07-20 15:36:19 · answer #3 · answered by retrobaby77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you should split from her. You don't have to get a divorce just yest, but maybe spend some time away and see how things turn out. Both of you may find the experience totally enlightening. Life's too short to be miserable. Hope this helps and good luck to you.
2007-07-20 15:21:25 · answer #4 · answered by [><] Rebel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people just aren't meant to be together. Maybe she is just as unhappy as you are and that is why she does what she does. Maybe you should try couples counseling or talking to each other and agree that when either of you feels the urge to yell you should stop the conversation until you are calm again. If that doesn't work, Move the hell on it is her loss anyway!!
2007-07-20 15:21:00 · answer #5 · answered by sexyafterdark 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did she even ask if you were ok!?!?!?! That is the first thing that should have come out of her mouth. If you still love her...which you do, I do think you guys should try therapy. Maybe she doesn't realize how much she bitches. If therapy doesn't help after a 6 months...divorce time. You need to at least give it one last try before you divorce. Good luck.
2007-07-20 15:21:54 · answer #6 · answered by sun day 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wife does sound like a biotch.
She insults you and treats you with disrespect in front of people.
You don't smile anymore and you hate her but you love her. You could be going through a rough time in your marriage but unless your wife starts treating you with the respect you deserve, I doubt you'll get your smile back. Remember, the opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference. Until you're feeling indifferent toward her, you still have feelings for her. Personally, I'd dump anyone who treated me with such disrespect, especially in front of friends and family. How much could she love you to do that? I'd bet you deserve better.
2007-07-20 15:27:09 · answer #7 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nah, screw the therapy crap. Just get out while your face is still attached.
She's a psycho and no amount of therapy or medication is going to change that. I've known women like that and they are meant to die alone. That's where the "crazy cat lady" comes from.
2007-07-20 15:18:07 · answer #8 · answered by Frinn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you don't talk to each other, but instead yell and scream, or she yells and insults and you "go back at her". If you don't approve of the way she yells at you or insults you, then why do you "go back at her"? You won't solve anything that way. Ask her to talk to you if she wants you to listen, not yell and scream and insult. That doesn't solve anything but make both parties angry. If she is unwilling to do this or consider counseling, then it's time to leave. But at least try to talk, find out what is going on with all that verbal abuse. Ask her what she hopes to accomplish by doing it, because all it does is make you want to leave.
2007-07-20 15:34:51 · answer #9 · answered by Linda K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really don't believe there is any hope for your marriage and either one of you don't want to do anything to fix it, then perhaps it is time to divorce. You don't want to stay in a hostile relationship that is going nowhere fast. Your wife is VERY WRONG to try and get you in front of your her friends and family. That is a sure sign of disrespect.
2007-07-20 15:19:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋