I was off sick from my university placement on a ward with a miscarriage. I was off a total of 5 days and returned even though i was ill and anaemic as attendence is monitored closely and over 10 days can result in being put back 6 months. I have since experienced problems on my placement with the manager even though she knows that i was in hospital and i shower evidence to her why i was off. She has reported me off sick for 10 days when i was off for 5 as she counted days i asked to work later when i had stopped bleeding. I worked them but she said they are still accountable as sick days. I am encountering gossip as to why i was off also and viewed as unproffesional with my peers as they do not know why i was off and view me as pushing my luck and being lazy. I am very upset and am still grieving but am expected to carry on working through it any advice please??
2007-07-20 07:50:02 · 9 answers · asked by Abigail 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I'm sorry about your loss. You should have an advisor assigned to you at school. Make an appointment with them to see how things can get cleared up. You might also talk with the program director. It's none of your classmate's business as to why you were off. In the real workplace they have FMLA and since you have proof as to why you were off, that should be enough. Also, your school should have a number you can call for counseling about your feelings resulting from your loss. Good Luck.
2007-07-20 07:58:32 · answer #1 · answered by Deana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...what they think about you is none of your business...let me explain...people will always think what they want about you weather it is true or not...and they cant possibly know you well enough to know what the whole story is or the truth..so there is no possible way they can judge you...even in a court of law the evidence is what the case is judged on....and there will always be greater and lesser people than you...so....dont be concerned with your peers...do your work and if the woman is being unfair go above her to someone who can help you...If I were you I would look into another hospital or clinic to work...it doesnt seem these people are to nice to work with...if you have the means, take a leave of absence until you can heal properly...you could also go to the biggest gossiper in the place and tell them why you were off and the word would spread...and you wouldnt have to tell anyone else...but dont give them the satifaction...people are cruel...love them where they are at, forgive them and carry on...it will all turn out..hope it helps
2007-07-20 15:09:13 · answer #2 · answered by rowdysunsetart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you talk to her manager? The dean or top nursing instructor. I haven't ever been in your situation but I can only imagine how uncomfortable and victimized you must feel. There has to be someone else you can deal with that can straighten things out. You are being discriminated against and it's unfair. Take it to the board of education if you have to. I know this all sounds extreme but if what you're saying is true, then you're in the right. Also, maybe you should consider speaking with a counselor to help you deal with your loss and come up with a game plan on how to get back on track. Good luck to you.
2007-07-20 15:01:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The local nursing program is very cruel also. They required a classmate to attend classes while her husband was dying. She, I believe, ended up taking a year off because she needed to sort her head out and they did not want to allow her any personal leave.
Unfortunally, I think your only options are take some personal time and accept the consequences, or suck it up (sorry!).
Some of these nursing instructors are like drill sargents.
Personally, I quit the program also, as my family is much more important to me than my carreer, and my fathers health is not so well.
Do what you have to do.
2007-07-20 14:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by perfect_blue_and_blond 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go above the "managers" head. Go straight to the top of the school as high as you can go (Dean of the college, for example). But you need to file a formal complaint with whoever is in charge. Bring your medical documents and other proof with you. Tell them that you will seek out an attorney if they continue with this harrassment. Good luck.
2007-07-20 14:56:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd tell them why you were off and tell them next time not to expect the worst of people. Maybe it'll knock some sense into them.
Go to the dean of the university for help with your sick days.
2007-07-20 14:54:00 · answer #6 · answered by GeriGeri 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are really cruel when they dont understand something but i would def go to someone above her head and file a complaint. It sounds like they are being the ones unprofessional
2007-07-20 15:52:35 · answer #7 · answered by HeAtHeR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A miscarriage's should be recognized as a psychologically trauma.So more time is given to heal...like if you had a near death experience.
2007-07-20 14:57:05 · answer #8 · answered by ™ ♥♥♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her superior and tell them about the gossip.
2007-07-20 14:53:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋