My husband is insisting we name our boy whos due in october after himself and I really dont want to, he will not give in and it is a cause of fighting. What do i do, he likes the other names I picked out, he says he just wants a JR? This is our first child and certainly not our last, I told him maybe next time? What happens in the delivery room, who names the baby, Im afraid he will do it without telling me.
2007-07-20 07:40:55 · 29 answers · asked by Julie C 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
Hope it is a girl then he will have to be reasonable.
2007-07-20 08:15:41 · answer #1 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he would be allowed to name the baby without your consent. Both of you have to be on the birth certificate. That would just be evil if he did. Why are you against having a Jr? If you are planning on having more children anyway, why not have a Jr.? You could compromise and use your husbands name as the first name and then use a name you like as a middle name. Granted that wouldn't be a Jr., but at least you both would have had your picks of names.
2007-07-20 07:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by CraftyG's 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the one carring the baby. So if you are absolutly against JR then you don't have to name the baby JR. The mother has all the say once you are in the delivery room.
I have a 18 onth old son and I am having another boy in two weeks. My first sons name is Evan Nicholas and the new baby is going to be Alexander James. My husband liked the name Evan and is not so sure about Alexander. I told him he needs to keep saying it to himself to get used to it because that is what his name is going to be unless I change my mind last minute. I truly believe we go through to much during pregnancy and deserve to have the first and last say on what we want to name our child. Well good luck.
2007-07-20 10:34:56 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This child belongs to both of you, and you should both like the name that your son will get. If you truly dislike the idea of a Jr. or the name itself, then you need to explain to your husband that this is an issue that needs compromise. Maybe use Dad's first name as your son's middle name.
However, you say "maybe next time". If you think you can use the name in the future, what's the big deal about using it now?
2007-07-20 07:58:42 · answer #4 · answered by beezy3 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, why don't you two come to an agreement, he can name his first son after him, and you get to name the second baby. Any after that MUST be agreed upon by both of you. Besides, what's the harm in having your first son named after his father? If he's going to be a good father, then it should be an honor to do so, and I'm sure your son will not mind. You can always come up with a nickname so that it will sound a bit different than his fathers too.
2007-07-20 08:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by spunion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU fill out the birth certificate not him. He can't name him without. However, you two need to come up with some way to work this out before then because you will have enough going on when he's born. I would suggest maybe giving his own first name and then giving him is father's first and middle name as the the babies middle names.
2007-07-20 10:09:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well traditionally the first born boy if any should be the one that is named after the dad.. If you are planning on having more, my advice is to make a deal...Let this one be JR but you get to name all the other ones no matter what!! :) and if i remember correctly the lady comes around and asks the mom when its time for the social security and birth certificate information...im pretty sure thats how it works
2007-07-20 08:41:10 · answer #7 · answered by Shina Beana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men take pride and want their 1st son (which is usually when it occurs) after them. Feel lucky that your husband wants it and likes his name. My husband does not like his name and does not want a Jr so i get to use my name i choose. He choose my daughters name.
Also sit with him and let him tell you why he wants his son named after him, it might clear things up for you on why he wont change his mind. But remember, the child's name is something that both of you must agree on and that the CHILD will have to live with not you and your husband.
Best of luck.
2007-07-20 09:17:23 · answer #8 · answered by kassysandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't fight over this...plenty of other things to fight about, ok? For many, a JR is traditional in their families. Tell him you get first choice on naming the 2nd child down the road.
The birth certificate is filled out after delivery in the comfort of your post-birth room. Both parents should be there to sign the certificate...he can't sign for you and vice-versa.
Congratulations!
2007-07-20 07:48:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that he wants to have a legacy in his son. However, he needs to realize that every person is unique and deserves their own name.
Two choices:
(1) Use his name as a middle name.
(2) Use his first name but call him by his 2nd name. (Good compromise).
Naming a child should be a dual thing and not a solo thing.
From what I remember, I as the mother, filled out the name stuff.
2007-07-20 17:34:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If our daughter had been a boy she would have been named after my husband-Daniel Melvin V. I was not crazy about the name at all and tried to convince my husband that 4 Daniel Melvin's were enough. But the more I thought about it, the more I began to view it as a tradition, family pride and something that was extremely important to my husband. Sometimes you just have to compromise. I say name the baby after your husband and think of a nickname you like for him.
2007-07-20 12:28:42 · answer #11 · answered by no name 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋