I got involed with this guy about six months ago. I am now a little over three months pregnant with his child. He is 24 and im 28. He has spent most of his adult life being locked up. When I met him he was in the process of trying to better his life. He always had this ex girlfriend hiding in the shawdows. Everytime he has gotten out they have gotten back together. She was all a threat to me but once I became pregnant he told me he would be there and that we would really try to do this right. Im in love with him. Last week he ran into one of her friends and gave her my number. This week he got together with her to talk. Now that im pregnant she is willing to leave her current boyfriend and is begging mine to take her back. My boyfriend is now claiming he does not love me and is in love with her and doesnt know what to do. To make matters worse this girl has a drug addiction to the drug he struggles with most. They always had a very stressful abusive relationship. How do I help myself?
2007-07-20 06:36:50 · 12 answers · asked by wikedbutterfly69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I got involed with this guy about six months ago. I am now a little over three months pregnant with his child. He is 24 and im 28. He has spent most of his adult life being locked up. When I met him he was in the process of trying to better his life. He always had this ex girlfriend hiding in the shawdows. Everytime he has gotten out they have gotten back together. She was all a threat to me but once I became pregnant he told me he would be there and that we would really try to do this right. Im in love with him. Last week he ran into one of her friends and gave her my number. This week he got together with her to talk. Now that im pregnant she is willing to leave her current boyfriend and is begging mine to take her back. My boyfriend is now claiming he does not love me and is in love with her and doesnt know what to do. To make matters worse this girl has a drug addiction to the drug he used to be hooked on. He is a good person but I dont know if I can share my child with her.
2007-07-20 06:51:58 · update #1
He is no longer on drugs. He has a job and has promised to see me through the lease on the apartment we just rented. He wants to be involed with his child. I would like him to be. He is a good person. Im very concerned that she is not a person I want around my child though. Everyone he knows says if he gets involed with her he will get locked up again. Its really sad that his blinders are that bad. How do I work this so he can see his child without her. Im still dealing with not wanting to lose him. Whats a girl to do?
2007-07-20 06:54:36 · update #2
You are better off with out him. If he does not know what he wants and keeps going back to this girl now. He will never stop. For your sake and your unborn child drop him. You deserve better than him. and so does your child.
Stop and consider this. Do you want your child knowing and growing up around a man like that, It is unhealthy for you both
Good luck
2007-07-20 06:44:37 · answer #1 · answered by sassy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 21:58:38 · answer #2 · answered by Faith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wikedbutterfly69 it sounds like you may have made a poor choice in selecting the father of your soon to be child. However, the fact of life is that you are now pregnant and as such must live with this consequence for the rest of your natural born days. At your age I'm sure that you know what options are available to you. If you choose to keep this baby then you are going to have to be strong and show it love and devotion. This fella allow him to do what he wants as he will anyway. Allow yourself to grieve the end of the relationship and get your life back on track. Then after you have given birth perhaps you will find a real man who will accept you both into his life and give you the love, encouragement and support that we all need to receive from others. Best of luck to you.
2007-07-20 06:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You now have something bigger to think about than you and him! You have a child! Focus on that and don't give him an option to be with you! because he will go back and forth as long as both of you let him! i would say you are too good for him! If he is leaving you to be with cracked out junkies what does that say about his character? clearly he doesn't make the best decisions in life,but that doesn't mean your feelings aren't hurt because he has left you! I would say if it doesn't have anything to do with your child don't deal with him! I don't think it would be the worst thing if he wasn't apart of the child's life! From the sounds of things he doesn't provide the best environment for the child or you! while you are prego you dint need unnecessary stress!
2007-07-20 06:50:02 · answer #4 · answered by erica k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i could basically pass away all this on my own and end obsessing over it if I have been you. Yeah, it looks like she faked it, and if she did she needless to say has deep rooted issues of her very own. while you at the instant are not with this guy, then whether she faked it or not would not incredibly have something to do with you besides. What are you going to realize in case you do someway tutor she replace into mendacity? the girl sounds as though she has some psychological well being issues, and it form of appears like whether you probably did party top with the guy, she could constantly be putting around in the lower back floor, attempting to debris issues up. If she is risky sufficient to faux an entire being pregnant and the lack of ability of a young person, who's accustomed to what else she is able to? pass away or not that's and get on along with your lifestyles.
2016-10-22 04:18:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to gather together all your strength and move on from this guy. I would suggest legal proceedings to make sure he can have no contact with the baby. Then start your life new with your new child coming in a few months. Seek help from family and friends. Best of luck.
2007-07-20 06:41:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that you are going through this while you are pregnant, yet dont let it ruin you, I was in love with someone for years that was in and out of prison. Everytime he got out we were back together. Yet he was unfaithful, and he got worse everytime he was released he started to become abbusive. You are better without him, so is your child.
2007-07-20 07:19:51 · answer #7 · answered by Dee M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id let that headache go. your a grown woman who is now responsible for another life. think about whats best for your child. this guy wont grow up or change till hes almost 40, if your lucky. just look forward to a wonderful future with your baby.
2007-07-20 06:48:18 · answer #8 · answered by Rocco N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You survive a broken heart during pregnancy by thinking of your new child you will be bringing into the world. Obviously he will probably be missing out. Don't worry yourself sick over all of this because you don't want anything to happen to your baby!
2007-07-20 06:42:39 · answer #9 · answered by Strider 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
walk away from this loser now and consider yourself lucky that he won't be around to screw up your life or your baby's life. He's never going to be the man you thought he was, and the longer you stay with him the more you'll be hurt. Sounds like he and his ex deserve one another - you can do better.
2007-07-20 06:43:54 · answer #10 · answered by woodlands127 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋