my 2month old is never awake without crying unless I hold her. But I cant hold her all day. What should I do?

Question

I cant get my 2month old to sleep without rocking her, putting her in her vibrating bouncer and bouncing it with my foot. The minute I set her in her crib no matter how long shes been asleep she wakes up and screams. I have tried the cry it out method but she could scream for hours! Everytime shes awake shes crying unless she is held. PLus she isnt at all on a schedule and she never sleeps at night. Help me I am desperate. What do I do? Not to mention she has colic and she's on gripe water too!

Answer 1

I second the sling suggestion. Wear her close to you, it's what she needs.

2 months is way too early for a schedule, and rare for sleeping through the night. I know it seems neverending now, but soon she'll be grown and you'll wish for these days again. Hold her, love her, cuddle her close. She'll work it out for her ownself soon enough.

Answer 2

I really feel for you, I went through this too it seemed like it would never end. There is a teddy bear that has a heartbeat and if ou put it in her near it when she is sleeping also try swaddling her wrapping her tight into her blanket. Two of my children had problems sleeping. You can get a swing also this is what 2 of my children lived in when they were younger in when i had to do work around the house. just keep a good eye on her. Don't get a windup swing get one that uses battery's. I hope this helps. Most of all you take a break get dad or a friend step in so that you aren't warn down.

Answer 3

At two months, your little one probably doesn't have the sleep thing worked out yet, it could take a long time, to which patience is the only answer. I went through this with my 21 month old. In her first 90 days of life she never slept. She wasn't colicky, but just never slept, not during the day, not at night, never. I couldn't lay her down in her crib because she'd scream, I couldn't use the swing or the vibrating baby seat...nothing, she just wanted to be held. I was going through post-partum depression during this time, and her lack of sleep literally gave me panic attacks. So I understand your frustration.

The real answer is that only time works. There are hundreds of books on what to do about newborns and sleep, there is tons of advice for parents in magazines about this situation, however it all comes down to time. It could be another month, it could take a year, but your baby will figure it out over time.

Answer 4

OH.. I so feel for you.. I also had a severe coliky baby.. My youngest (now 3) cried from the day I took her home till 3 months.. all day long.. she was a nervous baby, and the slightest thing would set her off.. She just cried constantly.. It would upset me so.. We (me and my husband) took turns walking her.. My pediatrician said sometimes babies just cry to sooth themselves.. If I knew she wasnt ill, not wet or dirty, well fed, burped, and nothing pinching her (yes sometimes diapers are on too tight or itch).. I just had to let her cry. But my savior was a baby swing.. I found one that both was electric and wind up both.. My baby liked the rythmic clicking of the rocker as the chair swang back and forth, it lulled her to sleep. I would wind it up, then turn on the electric switch after she fell asleep to keep it going. I could get a good hour out of it on good days, mostly 30 to 40 min at best, but still enough to allow me to relax.. I also found one of those chest pouches and I just carried her around with me everywhere, she looked like a kangaroo baby.. but it kept her happy and my sanity.. Nothing else worked, all the gripe water , her teas and zillions of wife tale remedies, nothing worked, she finally grew out of it.. THANK GOD.. goodluck! and God bless you! you'll need all the prayers you can get.. The time will pass quickly, still enjoy them while they are little ^_^

Answer 5

My son was like this at first too. The thing that helped me was putting him in his car seat when I put him to sleep. I guess it's at just the right angle for him. Also, during the day, he would sleep in his swing. We stuck with putting him to bed in his car seat at night. His doctor told us that was fine up to four months. She said there are no bad habits until about 4 months. At that time they are old enough for the cry it out method. We tried out her advice and it worked for us. He was in the car seat - inside of his bassinet until he was 4 months old. He's 9 months old now and has been pretty good with his sleeping schedule most of the time

Answer 6

A baby wrap would be good. The Ultmate Baby Wrap is the most comfortable one I've seen out there. Babies are not on schedule but they canbe and just need help, they don't know how to regulate their patterns on their own. Babywise is a really great book on putting your baby on a schedule...but not a strict one. The babywise way is a good compromise between Attatchment Parenting and Hyperscheduling.

Answer 7

try baby wearing get a carrier and just wear her around all day thats how i made it through those first few months she may not like it at first but she will go to sleep plus you can get things done.and make sure she doesn't have gas fee her stomach if it feels kind of hard this is what i did lay her down like you were changing her and gently bring her knees up into her stomach and if she has gas she will start farting.best of luck.

Answer 8

I think it's time to consult a professional.
If you are going through stuff in your life...your baby will be irratible too. They pick up on your moods.
Make a quiet place...there are cd's out that provide nature sounds and oceans...relaxation.
When placing your child down for a nap or sleep time...make it cuddly...with pillows next to her, so she feels like you are there.
Colicy babies are babies who had negative vibes going on in the womb...how was the environment. Are you a nervous person? Was there arguing?
Babies need to feel that you will be there for them...they are sensitive beings. Make her surroundings and environment peaceful. Especially when she eats.
If there is turmoil in your life...there will be in hers too.
Get a doctor to examine her completely first...making sure there are no "hidden" medical factors.
At the same time...take a look at your environment and life. Bring peace into your lives. Make your life and hers a special time.
She needs you to relax...stop and smell the roses. Give her the feeling that you will always be there for her. She'll sleep better.
Also...do not use triaminic cough syrups or any other meds on her without your doctor's approval. My son was allergic to the triaminic cough syrups and the allergic reaction was a weeks worth of staying up awake crying before the doctor discovered that what he had prescribed was what my son was allergic to.
If you are breast feeding...make sure you are still producing. I had a very busy life when my son was born...being a new mom, I didn't realize that my breast milk was supposed to be more than just see through water with clumps in it...it was supposed to look like milk. It didn't. My life was a mess...I returned to work four days after having a c-section (the hospital wanted to be paid - I had no medical benefits thanks to the employers of today) and I wasn't eating right...my breast milk wasn't what it should have been. My breasts produced a clear liquid with white clumps...not nurishing for my baby.
Have your doctor examine your breast milk if you are feeding your baby by breast. You have to eat right and relax to produce good breast milk. If this is impossible...get the baby on nurishment that is healthy.
Try a little baby cereal mixed in with the milk so that it is still very much liquid, but will have a heavier content of protein. I don't care what your doctor says...do it.
My baby's doctor said no feeding until my baby was older...just bottles. Bull rush! My grandmother said to feed him. As soon as I started him on baby cereal mixed into his bottle at night, he started sleeping through the night.
Do whatever it takes to make your baby happy. Sometimes, blueprints of one baby do not fit the blueprints of another baby. General guidelines are just that. General. Fit for some, but not for all.
A clean diaper, full belly, and lots of love will make her happy. And remember, treat her better than you had life. A good parent wants better for their children, than they had for themselves.
You'll get the long needed sleep.

Answer 9

Use a baby sling it frees up your hands and will give your baby the comfort of being close to you. Or you can try a automatic swing. Hylands homeopathic colic pills might help, they sell at Rite-Aid.

Answer 10

my son did this. he outgrew it. made my arms tired..

had a rocking chair swing you name it. some babies are just this way.

babies are NOT on schedule. it is what babies too.
persistent colic could be signs of emerging tummy issues. go see a dr asap. try an old wives tale but it works.

swaddling tightly but not too tight wrapping thebaby up, turning the baby on her tummy and gently rocking place the baby on your lap.

things like blowdyers sometimes calm colic too.

seen the peditriacian lately?