My son Andre sleeps through the night. Our problem is that he first has to fall asleep in our arms and then put him in his crib. I would like to let him cry it out but am not really sure of how the method works. The last two nights I put him in his crib sleepy and then the crying starts we let him cry for 10 minutes and then my husband has gone ina taken him out and he falls asleeop instantly. How long do you let them cry and when is it time to pick them out. He gets so upset and starts to gag and breathe as though choking. Doesn't this crying make it harder for him to fall asleep? His daytime naps are easier. I put him dowm today sleepy and just rubbed his bottom and he did fall asleep. The thing is that even in our arms he throws a hissy and it takes him a bit to calm down
2007-07-20 06:08:54 · 10 answers · asked by Tita-Caracohete 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I tried using the cry it out method for my first child, but it didn't really work. My kids seem to get more and more frantic when they cry, so that having them "cry it out" can take hours, and we have tried. Here is what works for me.
I put them in bed when I know that that they are sleepy or almost asleep. I pat them and help them settle in a little. Then, if they are fussy, I grab a book and stay in the room reading. If they start to fuss, I reassure them verbally (Shhh, momma's here). This usually keeps them from working up into a "real" cry. If they do start crying, I go over to the crib and try to re-settle them down by soothing without picking up. If that still doesn't work, I'll pick them up and rock them back to very drowsy and start over. I like this way because I get to read or relax for a while, and because it is much less stressful, both for me and the kids.
2007-07-20 06:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by Wilmavimom 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you do the Ferber method this is usually how it works: You put your son down after he's changed and fed. If he puts up a fuss, DO NOT pick him up. Just tell him that it's time for bed and give him a soft pat on the back while leaving. If he's crying 10 minutes later go in and check on him (just to make sure he's not hurt or anything) and still don't pick him up. Then leave and wait 15 minutes this time to check on him, and so on. Whatever you do don't pick him up or it'll be harder for him to calm himself down. It'll be hard the first few nights, but you'll be glad you didn't give up. BTW I assume your baby is at least 6 months old?
2007-07-20 13:22:06 · answer #2 · answered by ~lattemom~ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd have to say... let him cry. My 2 year old wont sleep in his crib b/c his father lets him sleep with him and wont put him into his crib b/c he cries. So a word of advice... put on some calm music, close the door, and let him cry, he will eventually fall asleep. If you must be there just rub his back and as he drifts close the door. Trust me... do whatever you can so he'll sleep in the crib... he has to get use to sleeping alone!
2007-07-20 13:22:31 · answer #3 · answered by Briana 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how old is your son?
I have never let my son cry it out and never will..
You say he sleeps through the night and naps are easy... Whats the Problem!!!
He throws a fit in your arms? But then sleeps through the night... i wish my son was like that!
I think he will just grow out of it.. you say he's choking and gagging... okay, don't let him cry..
As a mother you know best, and if you think this method will help your family, do it.. Just personal opinion and research tells me not to :)
2007-07-20 13:17:41 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ LovingMyLittle1 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
its normal for your child to want to be cuddled in your arms.
My husband actually read in What to Expect the first year, that the way to train your child is to let him cry for five minutes, the next day ten, etc. That will train your child that you're actually not leaving him for good. Its showing him that you'll be back in any minute. Even if you stay next to him and touch him that might make him feel better. He'll know that you're there and not leaving.
2007-07-20 13:16:23 · answer #5 · answered by ??? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
put him in his bed turn on soft calming music leave and close the door . he will go to sleep just let him cry
the longer you go in there and pick him up and rock him the longer this will take to break. put him to bed and leave him there he will fall asleep the crying will wear him out go in and check on him once all is quiet
2007-07-20 13:13:18 · answer #6 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is your son?
Also.. if he is gagging and choking, you need to stop and hold off on the CIO for another month or so. My moms friends son died because of that... :( He was crying and he caused himself to vomit because of how hard he was crying and his mother didn't know because she didnt go check on him for a few minutes after he got quiet (figured he finally went to sleep). He choked to death on his own vomit. :(
2007-07-20 13:19:42 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
the problem is you put him into a quiet room , his little mind wakes up,, put a radio in there just as a noise level
2007-07-20 13:16:57 · answer #8 · answered by rich2481 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with jenna & just make sure you always lay him down to sleep on his back. Remember: back to sleep....because of SIDS.
2007-07-20 13:21:58 · answer #9 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is he? that's really important. i don't think i am going to that until my son is about a year old. babies cry because they need something, even if it may just be comfort they still NEED it. he may not be old enough to understand why you want to leave him alone
2007-07-20 13:16:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋