my 3 oldest sons (ages 17, 14, and 13) all have a profile, but my husband and i know the passwords and we check them often. the second we see something we don't approve, bye-bye-myspace. i have heard parents say that it's a harmless website, and i have heard parents say that it's nothing but trouble. i feel that it is both. it can be a lot of fun for teenagers if they stick to their friends and people they know, but once they go out and try to meet new people, then it is a very dangerous website. what are your opinions on it, do your kids have one?
2007-07-20 05:52:48 · 28 answers · asked by Mama Carrie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i'm not a nosy parent, i don't read their e-mails, or anything like that. it was the agreement we set up when the boys asked if they could have a myspace, that we would know the passwords. i don't check them but once a month (i don't know about their father though), and i never read their messages. but they don't know that. if they think that we check it everyday, then they won't be tempted to do anything stupid. get it?
2007-07-20 06:05:22 · update #1
wow whats ur problem?
why cant u crazy parents just chill
2007-07-20 06:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
honestly im 18 and i just deleted my myspace. It can get you into alot of trouble and can get people to hurt you for no reason myspace is pointless and all it does is hurt you in the long. People knowing when ur on-line and being able to see personal stuff y would you even want that its just a pointless game. Plus there are phones that you can call your friends or hangout with them you dont really need any more communication with them then that. This world is just becoming way to involved in letting people know what you doing all the time. Just watch your kids and maybe check there e-mails, bulletins, blogs and comments. You never know what they could be putting on there. And no thats not being a over protective parent its called caring for your kids and i wish my parents would have done the same for me.
2007-07-23 01:20:33 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My oldest has one, she's 16. I have the same agreement with my daughter as you have with your boys. I routinely have her remove comments that her friends think are funny... I do read messages on occasion though, but only if something specific triggers my intuition and usually I'm right. I don't allow her to have 'friends' that she doesn't know in person, so if I suspect that she made friends with someone who is supposedly her contemporary from another state or country I make her delete that person. We go through the friends list together and she has to tell me who they are and where she knows them from.
The funny thing is that I got my own page so I could keep an eye on hers mostly from a distance (I only go into her account when I see something that needs further investigation) and I ended up finding so many former classmates, other parents, people I used to work with, etc. :-) I think if you monitor their use and remind them of why you do that, it can be a great thing. The people who have had problems with it tend to be the ones who do not monitor their children's online activities. I also made my daughter watch the Dateline series where they catch the pervs who sometimes tell young girls (or boys) that they're a certain age and they show up and they're really a 50 year old man with ropes and weapons in the car... she never again questioned me on why I don't want her to make new friends online :-)
She can go on at anytime and find someone in her class and get homework collusion, commiseration, make plans to go out, find movie buddies, relief from a hard day by posting some silly survey, whatever. We do tell her she has to do it out in the open, not in her room and not for hours on end.
The big bonus in my opinion is that I learn a lot more about her friends and other kids at her school and in the church youth group than I ever would have otherwise. Boy can it open your eyes as to who can put on a good act to parents in person but be a really bad influence when they get out the door and who may look hardcore on the outside but is really a sweet kid on the inside. You also learn how many other parents obviously do not monitor their child's myspace page...
That's pretty much it!
2007-07-20 06:45:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't let my kid have a myspace and if he did...DAMN STRAIGHT I'D BE NOSY!
Anything my child does in my home while I am providing the lifesytle is under my jurisdiction and subject to whatever I choose to do.
There are no regulations on MySpace and you can't always garuntee that the person on the other side is who they say they are. Do you know how easy it is to have one? I had one but I deleted it because it has gotten ridiculous. You have "net-bangers" and all sorts of idiots on there who can get your personal info and other information. Myspace is too personal.
I don't think anyone under 18 should have one. All these kids should be out at the park or the mall or something actually interacting with eachother, not sitting wasting space on the internet all day. Its like an addiction. You see some of your responses, these kids are passionate about a web-site. How pathetic is that?
2007-07-20 06:56:15 · answer #4 · answered by dizzylilsailor 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think your being a little over protective here.All your sons are growing up and if you are checking there profiles on myspace all the time thy will feel they cannot be free and do rebellious stuff just to get at you.I mean your oldest is 17 in a year he will be able to vote,drink and drive (if you live in the u.k anyway).He will be an adult,a few rude comments from his friends are normal.Just because you cant see what he is doing and saying doesn't mean he isn't doing it.Just leave your sons be,they will only get comments from friends and its just a laugh.Its a way to talk to friends,you cant keep them wrapped in cotton wool all there life.
It isn't dangerous,its great fun for teens and lets them have a life outside chores and parents.
2007-07-20 06:39:05 · answer #5 · answered by Kαtydid ★ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My daughter has a myspace and she is 12. I check it at least twice a week, I am glad I do because not only do I get to know her friends and their intrests but I can easily weed out the trouble makers. It sometimes does good for parents too.
2007-07-20 10:04:11 · answer #6 · answered by mnspirit69 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well... Im 16 and i have one, my brother whos 14 has one and all of our friends have then and even my stepbrother and sister who are 8 and 11 have one! If you add ppl that are your friends and no better than to go out and give your info or meet ppl that you dont know than yes it could get dangerous... im sure your boys are smarter than that. I dont think that its a dangerous website.... I think that if ur kids know better than 2 do something crazy and dangerous than its no big deal. Dont worry about it. Let them be kids but also make sure the know they're not 2 give out info and they're only 2 add their friends. There is even this thing you can put on it so if some1 wants to be ur friend they have to know your last name or email address. That keeps ppl who dont personally know ur kids from adding them. They can also make their profile private so that you have to be their friends to see it. Discuss it with your chillens! Good Luck!
2007-07-20 06:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by Briana 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 09:21:59 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a teenager(15 ) I have a myspace,all my friends have 1 actually since this whole myspace craze started I dont know any people who dont have them it seems like. ummm I have alot of people on there who I dont know and some who I didnt know but I met at the mall or something. its harmless if your not stupid I mean when i met them I took like two of my friends with me it was kind of fun and they had like 1 of there friends anyways I think kids who are 12 and 11 and **** should def not have 1 I just feel thats to young and someone can easily take advantige of them but I think your kids are old enough to have 1.
2007-07-20 12:40:30 · answer #9 · answered by Bria L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have 2 girls (17 & 14 1/2) they both have an account, they are both set to private - meaning no one can view their profile without being "approved" by them.... I think as long as it is monitored it is ok, but that is with any internet usage, it need monitored.
best of luck!
2007-07-20 06:02:46 · answer #10 · answered by Dena 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it can be harmless and yeah i have 2 daughters (16 and 12) who have myspace accounts and i havent had any kind of troubles with myspace so dont worry and if u check their accounts youll see what they r in to on myspace. they r safe,its ok if u check them.
2007-07-20 06:00:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋