victimization in my life. which has give me a rage problem to...how should i deal with a potential situation if i was faced with bullying, intimidation and victimization now in the present, say if i encountered this somewhere outside from another male or a group of males, without getting in to trouble, but still standing up for yourself??
i really need to learn these skills in therapy and learn how to not let it happen to me again, so i can combat this inner rage problem.
in the past i let them bully me and victimize me, and was afraid to stand up for myself, and i feel deeply angry with myself over this...so i dont want to let it happen to me again, even though i do feel afraid....so any tips, prefablly from other guys would be much appreciated.
2007-07-20 04:59:20 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You have already mentioned that you need therapy and to be able to learn coping skills, in addition to that, you need to build your self-confidence, and perhaps remove yourself from people who are unkind to you. Make a new start to your life and surround yourself with new people, and do not allow yourself to relapse into the behavior that would allow the cycle to start over again. Good luck to you.
2007-07-20 05:16:08 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 13⤊ 0⤋
I wonder what is your situation where a 30 y.o. is still being bullied. In school and military you are surrounded by other men and don't have a lot of options for defense. Now your own anger problem (which could be initiated by others) is entirely your responsibility. Aside from learning how to deal with it, I would suggest evaluating your surroundings which cause the rage.
2007-07-20 05:06:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
use you rage and bite the bully like a pitbull and dont let go. youll be the last they ever bully after losing a piece of them that you will swollow in pride that you overcame the bully.
2007-07-20 12:09:21 · answer #3 · answered by bullet b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid bullying is part of life and we all get it from time to time. Did you see how Shilpa dealt with it on Big Brother? With grace and dignity. Sorry, not a bloke and can not give advice about blokes wanting to fight you etc. But do not take it personally.
2007-07-20 05:51:40 · answer #4 · answered by tinkerbell34 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋