I find I have a problem handling criticism, do you?

Answer 1

yeah, i hate it, i mean i no their only pointin out wot we've done wrong, n i mean thats good as it means u can correct it n leanr from ur mistakes , bt then i hate it because i'll have tried my best at it or wotever i was doin n then i hate it when people say i'm not doin it right or doin a crap job, I HATE IT SO MUCH! it makes me feel awful, bt i just have to suck it up, n realise that the person is proberbly only tryin to help me not tryin to hurt or offend me.

Answer 2

I think it gets easier as you get older, probably because you realize how complicated life and the world is.

The more you interact, the you will encounter conflict, and how you handle that conflict or resolve it will depend on your actions and behaviour. So if someone offers criticism in the form of construction criticism, I'm not really offended by it as much as I might have been when I was younger.

However, for someone to make critical comments which are personal in nature, like "you're fat, or you're ugly" statements that have no positive intonations whatsoever, who wouldn't have a problem with that?

I think it shows ignorance and insensitivity on the part of that person.

So if someone is trying to be helpful, or they THINK they are being helpful, you don't always have to be rude. Just listen, give it thought, accept or dismiss it. You realy shouldn't fret with it too much as people may mean well, but often they try to project their own thoughts and feelings onto you, expecting you to behave or see things the way they do. That's just the nature of the beast I suppose but no need to work yourself up as there will always be criticsm in life. You just learn to take it or ignore it.

Answer 3

I think EVERYONE has a problem with handling criticism. Most of us take it to heart when we should let most of it roll off of us like water on a duck. But, there are a few things that make a difference: who is criticizing you? how is it said? can I learn something from this? I guess we need to see all criticism as "constructive" in some way and just say "thanks for that observation". But, we are human and that makes those remarks hard to swallow. I say...look at each one as if you were a stranger to yourself and don't over-analyze the comments. We are our own worst enemy when it comes to critical comments. Thank you for asking a thought-provoking question from which others might actually learn! Godloveya.

Answer 4

Yes I do, you are not human if you don't.

It is easier to handle some criticism. Constructive criticism is offered by friends or loved ones and it is designed to help you. That is a lot easier to handle than, say, someone who is just mean and critical of the world. You just want to punch those people and rid the world of a little dead weight.

Answer 5

Definately - in fact Im my own worst critic - If I find I have done something wrong at work or where ever I can really beat myself up about it for ages - when other people criticise me I find I am harder on myself and just become moody and try to totally excel at everything else for the day and still cant seem to finish being satisfied that I have rectified the problem - with work I tend to be a perfectionist but out of work Im more relaxed with myself.

Answer 6

Most criticism seems to be targeted from personal differences, so I tend to ignore most of it. If someone criticizes something about me, I consider the source and the logic behind the criticism. If I feel that the criticism has any validity I will accept it and think about what I might be able to do to change the situation if I see fit. I never let it bother me though. It is either someone who is personally against me or it is something that is meant to help me. No reason to be upset about it.

Answer 7

It's normal to be mainly concerned with your own "trivial" problems. One of the great philosophers, David Hume, said that it is "not contrary to reason to prefer the destruction of the the whole world to the scratching of my finger". What he meant was that even though your intellect would tell you to care about greater things... your desires (and thus preferences) make you care for your self more. It's not unnatural to get caught up much of the time in your own troubles, small as they might be. Most people are the same, so don't worry about that. You're normal. Remember that criticisms are only one point of view, and that there are many points of view. You (or your work, etc) cannot be liked by everyone. In the same sense, you're not going to like everyone you meet in this life. I know it still stings to be criticised, but take something positive from it if you can (i.e. see it as 'help to improve'), and keep this in mind: "That was only one voice, and one voice won't dishearten me", or something similar.... to keep it in perspective. Also, I agree with an above answer which said you need to look at the source of the criticism. Is the critic qualified to criticise you? Are they flawed too? Do they want to help you or make you doubt yourself?... Insults are a little different. Keep in mind that insults often come from another person's insecurity -- they want to put you down in order to lift themselves up. They're not strong people, and when you remember this, you might even find yourself feeling a little sorry for them.... Say to yourself "You insult me out of unhappiness within yourself. Poor you". Your life is huge. You are full of depth, facets and potential. Never underestimate yourself and the amazing things you can do. And never let anyone knock you down.

Answer 8

I don't get angry if i know a third party is giving Constructive Criticism but when they go out of they're way to put me down that's when i have a problem.

Answer 9

If the criticism is given constructively and not degrading myself then I can accept it even if I won't use the advice behind it. If the person is being brash and rude about it, then I just turn their voice off in my head and just nod and smile until they go away lol.

Answer 10

Everyone does, it sets people into a bit of a defensive mode, and they feel as if they are being attacked. When one is in panic mode, it is not easy for them to really listen to what is being said to them, they hear, but are not really listening. They feel like everything they are told is negative and take it personally, when it could just be advice that is straightforward and honest. You may not always like what you hear, but when you ask a question, be ready for an honest answer.