2007-07-20 03:45:56 · 14 answers · asked by Lobster 1 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
If its real; if you really mean what you say, then yes, you're paid back with dividends.
Put on a phoney act, doing something nice expecting a pay back, and you'll never get it.
2007-07-20 03:50:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the various posters here have pointed out, being nice has different results for different people. Here is the trick:
You can be nice, but you also have to be strong. You can be nice and not have people take advantage of you by being self-confident and practical.
Being nice does not mean letting people get away with everything. Sometimes, tough love is the best way to be nice to someone.
But an honest smile, a friendly greeting and a bright disposition have always worked for me.
2007-07-20 04:04:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on two things: the person you are talking to, and the way you are being friendly.
If the person you are talking to has been to prison seven times for violent acts, then being friendly would definitely help, especially when you have your back to a wall. If you are being friendly to somebody who obviously hates you, then don't be anything to them.
Personally, I am friendly in the sense that I tell jokes and lace all my words with sarcasm. I might not be friendly in the absence of these jokes, but with them I can choose whether I should be genuinely friendly, or start getting mean, with nobody able to tell the difference.
But, basically, you should try to be friendly to anyone you talk to, and anyone who talks to you. You simply don't talk to the people you feel an urge to be nasty to.
2007-07-20 09:54:55 · answer #3 · answered by Curiosity (R.I.P.) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter how others receive and reciprocate your kindness. It matters how you feel. Whatever way you treat others, you need to be able to sleep at night and live with yourself. If you feel guilty about how you treat others, than maybe you should change the way you treat them. If you don't feel guilty about the way you treat others, than don't worry about it.
Having said that, if a person is mean to others and feels no guilt, than they have "issues" as my daughter would say.
Remember, being nice is not a weakness, it is a strength. In this day and age, it is more difficult to be nice than to be mean, rude or self-centered. Being nice and friendly in today's world shows strength of character and moral fiber.
It has always paid off for me to live by the Golden Rule.
2007-07-20 04:05:11 · answer #4 · answered by holdemfoldem911 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being friendly totally pays off. You get to have nice people be nice to you. You respect. That is really good.
2007-07-20 03:49:54 · answer #5 · answered by maemae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends... if you're being kind and friendly because you want something in return then it will probably never satisfy you and may feel like it has been hrown back in your face.
If you do it out of the kindness of your heart and don't expect anything in return then you are more likely to recieve it.
2007-07-20 06:15:27 · answer #6 · answered by youdidnotjustsaythat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's a difference between being nice and being a pushover....i was a fat girl in middle school and i was nice to everyone despite their teasing and name calling.....and now in high school....all the mean people i was nice to are nice to me and i don't have any hard feelings....
you should be nice to people and still have some kind of a guard up to protect yourself from harm
2007-07-21 12:51:02 · answer #7 · answered by FiestyRed717 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
For me, being nice causes others to want to take advantage of me. Because so, I avoid interacting with people who will take adavantage of me. There are several people who assume that I want to give them answers in our grad sschool classes. I am a teacher, and it is my nature to love, comfort, and help everyone. However, this is an issue. It is a shame that I have to be careful about who I choose to help, comfort, and love.
2007-07-20 03:53:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes you will gt respect back, and that is something everyone needs. You will show how nice of a person you are, if you respect other poeple.
2007-07-20 03:56:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think as long as you treat people the way you would like to be treated, and as long as you can go to sleep at night knowing you didn't cause hurt or harm to another person, (unknowingly at least), as long as you can always apologise and admit to your shortcomings, and feel at ease with yourself, then that is enough.
If other people choose to react negatively, or with contempt, it's their issue not yours. All we can ever do is be the best person we can, we can't control how others respond to us, only how we respond to others.
2007-07-20 03:51:58 · answer #10 · answered by Eden* 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋