So I been talking to a guy off of an internet site.. well we haven't met, just been talking on messenger. Well.. he became very rude and mean but I still loved him.. he used to degrade me and all and then suddenly he becomes nice again. Well he says that if I shave my head that he will get married to me and let me move in.
Well he tells me he bought a ring and wanted me to shave my head, so I shave all of my hair off. All of a sudden all he says is "LOL" and that "you are an idiot"
I ask him why he did that... and he says "Because, I can. You have a shaved head now so no other guy will need to be harassed by you.. lol"
Why would he do this?
2007-07-20 02:57:58 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He used to make me embarass myself a lot
2007-07-20 02:59:46 · update #1
Sounds like this guy is all about control. He enjoys humiliating you and controlling you. Time to drop him and just let him go. He has no intentions of meeting you, and likes to verbally and probably physically abuse too. So stop talking to him, let your hair grow back and try finding someone near you that you can actually click with IN PERSON.
2007-07-20 03:02:27 · answer #1 · answered by traceylenore 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You talk to someone on the internet and think you love him?? You don't even know him!! You shave your head in the hopes of a marriage to a guy you've never seen?? You humiliate yourself for him ?? Sweetie no offense, but, you need counselling. In answer to your question though... he answered your question, because he could and you let him. He's a control freak and an abuser. You should get down on your knees and thank God you never did end up with him. Your hair will grow back, but, you need to take a good hard look at why you would did the things you did and let someone treat you so badly.
2007-07-20 03:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, dont talk to him anymore. You deserve better treatment than this. Second look into why you gave away your power so easily. Get in touch with your inner b-word. Don't try to get revenge just use it to get strong and not talk to him anymore. Look for a new friend and this will help also. This guy sounds really messed up in his head be glad you found out now not after you moved in. Keep your head up. YOur hair will grow back and alot of guys love short hair. The hair thing is no big deal.
2007-07-20 03:09:31 · answer #3 · answered by Tricia C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What an idiot!! MOVE ON!!! That is just ridiculous!!! He is an ars#wipe! Listen girl, tell him te hit the road. You should really check out people as well before you have a relationship on site with them. You have not even met him and you love him. Take things one step at a time and don't fall head over heels. Make the man do the running - not you! You must be proud!
2007-07-20 03:04:55 · answer #4 · answered by girlygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People get this illusion that exchanging emails or IMs makes for truth and intimacy.
There is no substitute for an eventual eye to eye meeting.
This guy sounds like a loser. Sorry you fell in love with him. But that is what people like he do. They play games on the internet. Internet relationships can only go so far before they should be tested in the real world.
2007-07-20 04:14:24 · answer #5 · answered by Jack P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really have self esteem issues here. Why would you allow someone with whom you haven't even met, manipulate you in this way?
He told you the reason he did it! It's because he knows he can manipulate you to do anything he says! He is a mean person and you need to grow a spine and stand up for yourself...if in fact, any of this is true.
I don't mean to sound rude or unkind to you, however; no one likes a door mat and you are acting like one....you need to bring yourself to a level where you can love and respect yourself.
2007-07-20 03:14:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy was just messing around with your head. He made you degrade yourself? No, he suggested you to do something and you did it. He didn't put a gun to your head. Why did you do something like that or even put up with a guy that you haven't even met yet? Now you are walking around with a bald head and hurt feelings, but he is sitting there laughing at the fact that he got you to do something stupid.
2007-07-20 03:03:22 · answer #7 · answered by cinnatigg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kiddo, he didn't make you do anything. You did it to yourself. I know you don't want to hear it, but no body can make you do anything short of holding a gun to your head.
Now, why did he push you to do it? Why did he constantly mess with your head? Because he's a jerk. He knew he could manipulate you for his own entertainment and he did it.
I have a question for you. Why would you let someone you have never met, never seen anywhere but on a computer, never ever really had a chance to see who/what/how they really are push, talk or goad you into anything?
You don't need anyone like this in you life. You don't need anyone period for that matter. I know at times we as people get desperate for someone/anyone to come into our lives and give us love. We feel incomplete and so alone. We feel like no one understands how we hurt and like that one person will never come into our lives. It is so easy to give into desperation and start doing anything/everything to get the attention of someone/anyone. But kiddo, you will never find love this way.
What you will find and I would guess you have found in many instances people who will use and abuse you. They'll walk on you like a carpet and then walk out the door.
I really don't think you want to hear this, but maybe you could use a little help right now. Someone who is detatched from your situation and can help you see the truth of things. I think you should check into some professional counseling. Not because you're crazy, but because you could use someone to help you see what a great person you are and how you don't need anyone to make you complete. Also a professional could equip you with the tools you need to make sure you don't let this happen again. Tools to help you get out of this cycle.
Hey kid, don't despond and give up. It took me almost forty years to find my wife. It may seem forever. It did to me at times. But I wouldn't change a thing now. Because of all the things I went through I really appreciate what I have now. Don't worry, your prince is out there. Just don't through yourself under the bus to find him. He's not under there.
2007-07-20 03:31:43 · answer #8 · answered by todd s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats an easy answer he was an complete a hole.He did this to see how naive and gulliable you were.He got you to the point where you would do anything for him and he liked the thought of that and in turn took complete advantage of it.Its quite clear that if he constantly embarrassed and degraded you that he was using you and never intended for anything more to come out of this the lesson i hoped you learned from this is dont trust everyone you meet and by the way delete this guy off your messenger list and get him out of your life
2007-07-20 03:05:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, what the hell is wrong with you? This is your fault. I'm not the type of person who like hurting people feelings, but are you that vunerable? What was going through your head? I hope and pray that this is a prank question because you need your behind KICK! Sorry baby girl I can't give you sympathy!
2007-07-20 03:08:37 · answer #10 · answered by W.O.W. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋